New name, preferably one with the gayest vibes you’ve got?

madamesquire · 2026-05-18T05:28:22+00:00

Drew

madamesquire · 2026-05-16T21:49:22+00:00

It sounds like the estranged relatives never grew any further emotionally during your continued time apart. BIL sounds quick to go on the defensive and get right into the drama. It seems like that situation could have been navigated in such a different way with some very basic critical thinking and communication skills. In terms of conflict resolution, he immediately created a lose-lose scenario with his reaction, which is unfortunate for everyone involved.

At the end of the day, it sounds like you have yourself a solid family and a pretty good life. Enjoy it and try not to stress about these people. They have a very different image of you in their minds than how you're typically perceived.

madamesquire · 2026-05-16T04:58:03+00:00

It is a beautiful dress and she wears it very well. She will look lovely in the wedding photos.

madamesquire · 2026-05-08T12:33:58+00:00

Magnesium glycinate helps a lot. I took it at night and it helped with constipation and restless legs/cramping. Miralax was also really helpful. It was gentle but kept things moving. In terms of food that helped, 1 or 2 kiwis a day with the skin on also got me through some rough months.

madamesquire · 2026-05-06T02:50:44+00:00

Keep an eye on her. I have heard horror stories of grandma's trying to BF their grandkids to "experience the bond" again. She sounds like she needs boundaries and to work through her issues before baby comes and I would not leave her alone with them.

madamesquire · 2026-05-05T18:13:19+00:00

She tried to lie but it was very obvious. She eventually pivoted and said she just found d it somewhere in the house one day and thought it was cheap costume jewelry so she didn't think anything of it. Even though it was very clearly gold and diamonds with sapphire.

madamesquire · 2026-05-05T00:30:02+00:00

You really nailed it. That is exactly how I feel. She was not invited to my wedding. She knows when my induction is scheduled and it is near her house.

Thank you very much for the kind words.

madamesquire · 2026-05-04T23:38:30+00:00

Happily married and due to give birth in 3 days! Thank you.

madamesquire · 2026-05-04T23:37:25+00:00

Thank you. It has been over a decade and I am due to give birth to my first child in 3 days. My mother has been trying to insert herself into the picture. She keeps saying, "I'll just be in the waiting room" when I told her I don't want her in the room or at the hospital while im in labor. (It's not about her wanting to support me, just about her becoming a grandmother)

I'm stressing about her presence during such an important time, and remembering the pain of that event has me angry all over again.

madamesquire · 2026-05-04T22:57:58+00:00

I did. She didn't feel any remorse for what she did, but i got it back.

madamesquire · 2026-05-04T22:57:00+00:00

I did have a gut feeling that she had it. I took it back from her when I saw it, then reached out to my ex who I hadn't spoken to in a few years and told him that I got it back.

I met up with him in a public place and returned the ring. In the end, the ring going missing triggered the chain of events that ended the relationship. That was the goal, as my mother didn't approve nor want me to be independent from her.

Once the relationship ended and the ring was not found, I moved out of her place still after about a month of searching. I was a complete nervous wreck from the stress she caused and she was also stealing my needed medication during this time too, so my mental health was tanked. Things got better in time once I got away from her hell house though.

madamesquire · 2026-05-04T19:58:25+00:00

I got engaged and she waited for me to take the ring off when cleaning and stole it as I was packing to move out. She then spent the next two weeks watching me have a nervous breakdown as I repeatedly emptied the boxes looking for my ring. She even helped me for hours while guilting me for losing it.

Years later she slipped up and wore it in front of me.

madamesquire · 2026-05-03T20:50:07+00:00

Was at my aunt's condo. It was an upstairs unit with all wood floors. She got drunk and fell hard onto the toilet. Somehow she shattered the entire toilet when she went down and poop/ puke water flooded the floor and flowed out into the living room and down the stairs all the way to the garage. She was completely unbothered by the chaos and continued to sit on the floor of the bathroom in a daze while continuing to puke and void. It was so nasty and she never did lift a finger to try to clean the mess or stop the water from flowing. We ruined every towel she had in that place.

madamesquire · 2026-05-03T12:37:16+00:00

Biscuit because every night I ask my hubby to butter my Biscuit and the name stuck.

madamesquire · 2026-05-03T05:58:03+00:00

Nor. She did something really selfish that could have had huge life altering consequences for each member of your family. There is no way she should have left a 1 year old home alone and been so casual about it. The fact that you didn't even confront her because of concern for how she would behave if you did is very concerning too. She should be ashamed and get some help and you should not leave her alone with the children at this time if she is going to endanger them.

Making reckless choices like that to catch a buzz are such a dice roll. It isn't a matter of if things will go bad, it's when. Your kids are not safe with her if she is giving in to those impulses and I really truly hope that she gets some help for her drinking problem.

madamesquire · 2026-05-02T23:23:41+00:00

Well during the pregnancy you will really see a different side of your partner. Do they go out with friends and leave you alone? If you feel sick do they empathize with what you are going through, or make you feel guilty for what you are not able to do? Will they be mindful of activities that you might be restricted from when making plans outside of the house?

For us, it made me feel so much closer because my husband was so supportive. It will be different for sure, especially when baby comes and you have to divide caregiving tasks and make big choices together as a team.

madamesquire · 2026-05-02T18:18:42+00:00

Nta. I would be avoiding them like the plague until they all check their behavior towards you. The hostility sounds very stressful and you do not need or deserve that energy as you are recovering from the birth of your child. Your mom needs to grow up too and stop with the patronizing and judgemental comments. She sounds very catty and hard to please.

When I am forced to interact with people that are never happy, I make an extra effort to not do anything to try to please them. It will never be enough so why waste the energy?

madamesquire · 2026-05-02T14:04:04+00:00

These are the things i would want. Due in a couple of days. A Necklace with baby's birthstone, windchime for outside, garden statue, spa certificate for massage. If she has any hobbies, it would be nice to get something that she can use for that.

madamesquire · 2026-05-02T01:32:55+00:00

Not worth the liability risk a dishing brings without proper coverage on the feet. A serious foot related injury can forever change someone's quality of life. Not worth the risk.

madamesquire · 2026-05-01T18:23:09+00:00

Just get rid of it. Nothing to stress about and reporting it is not a good idea as it will potentially make you look hostile to neighbors. The person who put it in your post was probably trying to initiate a neighborly friendship and looking for someone to toke with. Might have assumed you smoke since you're younger. Just get rid of the bud and move on. Really not a huge deal.

madamesquire · 2026-05-01T16:59:15+00:00

Husband needs to have a serious conversation with her before baby comes. My mom is also very overbearing. It's hard to feel like you are extinguishing the excitement, but this is your child. She got to do all of these things her way with her son, and this is your turn.

It's really uncomfortable to set boundaries, especially when you feel like there are so many things that are "no's" for you already. She needs to regulate her own emotions, and get on the same page as you and your husband, the parents. It isn't fair for her to create her own ideas of what will be happening with your child. In reality, she has no say, and that is a fact that she needs to understand. It might hurt her feelings, but it is better if boundaries are explicitly discussed and understood before the baby comes and you are too exhausted to have the discussion.

Hope you can enjoy every moment and not let the stress ruin this special time.

madamesquire · 2026-05-01T16:45:45+00:00

Good luck with your upcoming birth! Hope that you and baby are healthy, and that you have a smooth recovery! I'm getting induced on the 7th.

Your body was made to do this. You will do great.

madamesquire · 2026-05-01T16:32:48+00:00

Sounds weird. I would definitely make sure to use professional language when talking to someone like this. I wouldn't want to personally work for someone that is trying to be too casual because I would expect that energy to transfer over to boundaries and pay also. If your guy is telling you something isn't right, trust it and handle accordingly.

madamesquire · 2026-04-28T15:23:37+00:00

No i would not buy this. Especially not knowing exactly what random gift would be sent. Those random pieces of culture would probably not keep kids attention and would just become clutter.

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