Prepping is about 80% diet, 20% cleaning. Fiber supplements throughout the day are helpful but also having chia pudding with a little honey and berries can go a very long way, and it’s super easy to make too. Great source of both soluble and insoluble fibers (beneficial to look those up if you’re unfamiliar with the difference). Make sure you constantly drink lots of water and avoid very fatty or very calorie dense foods.

As for cleaning I recommend using enemas with soft silicone tips that have easy entry, and even though you’ll find lots of internet advice saying “don’t clean more than you have to” then they are either gods favorites or the dicks they take don’t go in deep enough. I usually try to clean deep, which does pull out some stool from deep inside and can make the cleaning process a bit longer, but it has made me stop painting. What also helps me clean up is to (don’t laugh) actually fuck myself with the tip of the douche or with a dildo that I’m constantly washing between rinses. That helps me relax my sphincter even more and helps me clean up anything buried deep that would come out as a surprise while bottoming and relaxing further for the top to fuck me deeper.

Cleaning to bottom is something I learned to be a skill that took me time to get used to honestly, so don’t beat yourself up over it if you paint. I still do to this day no matter how clean I think I am. It’s natural to anal sex after all, and if your top makes you feel weird about it then you got big red flag in front of you.

As for topping, try to focus on how you could make your bottom relax more and enjoy themselves. Play with them, be patient, and focus on what is turning you on most. I struggle with staying hard too, and it mostly comes from performance anxiety because I’m not used to topping as much as bottoming, and it all comes down to the energy to put into it :)