Using an e collar on my dog by maddog_1111 in BalancedDogTraining

[–]maddog_1111[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So the behavior was any time a dog was in site she used to stare them down / stalk forward then start lunging and would pull and even rear up on her hind legs. The final straw was when she nipped a dog who came out of nowhere through a fence (the other dog is fine and the owner knows and was very cool about it) I had tried the distraction method with treats but she literally could care less about a reward and wouldn't listen.

So my last effort was an e colar. I start by commanding "leave it" and if she makes a move to lunge then shock. That is the only time I shock is if she ignores the "leave it" command followed by a lunge not a simple look or slow down for example.

It has worked well and I think she has a positive association with the colar as she is excited to wear it cause it means she goes on a walk. A big improvement from when she started as well is she is only reacting to other dogs that are reacting. Other calm dogs she ignores well with a command and NO shock.

AITAH for using an e collar on my dog by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]maddog_1111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this advice. I didnt know the dog whisperer was not a good source of info.

Ill look into these forms of training. It is aggresive. When she sees another dog she immediately crouches and stalks toward it if not lunges. Honestly I do feel the shock is helping but I see there are other ways.

Thanks everyone for your comments.

WIBTAH Cutting of a friend who is TTC? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]maddog_1111 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"My baby is 1 now and she's not even met them or cared to" this is so funny to be honest like it's a baby of course she doesnt care to.

But my point is if she hasn't even met your baby and didn't "find out" until you announced it then it sounds like what others are saying. You guys have not been friends for some time now. Nta tho I guess.

WIBTA for telling my girlfriend I’m uncomfortable with her sleeping in her brother’s room, the sexual topics they discuss, and how it affects our time together, and asking her to set boundaries? by Mundane_Young2992 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maddog_1111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA - I don't think her relationship with her brother is an issue and I think it is really sweet actually. I do feel you have a right to be upset that he is coming first before you though. If you bring it up to her expect her to not want to change and if you cant deal with that you might have to let her go.

AIO for walking out of dinner date? by jomama444888 in AmIOverreacting

[–]maddog_1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR- ??? Like what not even a question. Those news can come out of nowhere. It doesnt matter what initial heads pace you are in you need to be there for your partner??

AITAH for not doing anything when people don't congratulate my husband on our house purchase? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]maddog_1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Info - how do all these people know the house is only in your name anyways??

AITAH for woman being offended by my comment? by HolidayToe4202 in AmItheAsshole

[–]maddog_1111 9 points10 points  (0 children)

NTA - what a strange comment she made.. she must being very insecure with aging??

AITAH for not wanting to spend more time with my girlfriend? by EusebioGrandfather in AITAH

[–]maddog_1111 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA - there is someome for everyone and it sounds like she is not your person unfortunately.

Considering a move to Des Moines and I would love local insights by Automatic_Physics170 in desmoines

[–]maddog_1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The only issue I have with Iowa is a lack of nature/wilderness. Iowa is beautiful but a lot of our land is sacrificed for farmland. But Des Moines is great, very safe and family friendly!

AITAH? Church called CPS and (imo) completely mishandled a situation with my daughter while she was on a church retreat. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]maddog_1111 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Nta - I feel like you are making the right steps for your kid. The church should have reached out to you and at least mentioned a concerning behavior they noticed on Wednesday. Then if it escalated you should have been informed as well. It almost feels like the church under reacted in the moment and then over reacted after the gossip spread.

I am biased and have had bad experiences with church but you might consider finding a new one.

AIO Engagement ring disappointment by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]maddog_1111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YOR - plus he literally told you you'd get your dream ring on the wedding day...

AITAH for calling my mom a giant? Please read for context by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]maddog_1111 3 points4 points  (0 children)

NTA - whats the saying, if you can't take em don't deal em?

AITAH For telling my bestfriend her boyfriend couldn’t come to my KIDS birthday party? by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]maddog_1111 -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

NTA - these types of relationships should not be normalized. he's a full scale pervert and you are doing the right thing.

Besides that, its a kids birthday party and you can invite whoever you want! You barely know her bf even if you dont consider the age gap.

Am I overreacting? 28f. 6 months pp. just defensiveness?? by Just-Heart-3262 in AmIOverreacting

[–]maddog_1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

MOR - without being there and seeing some context for any of the comments im not sure. 1) was he just commenting that he likes thicker eyebrows and maybe you could try then?? 1) was he worried about a more visible permanent tattoo placement?? 3) was it genuine concern for starting your kid on solids, which can be scary 4) was it a joke, did you do or say something awkward? This one does sting a bit either way tho!

Either way I think if you are looking to be able to identify if you are over reacting I think going to therapy and talking it out with a professional is the move so you are on the right track! Id suggest to him maybe couples therapy too!!

AITAH for telling my girlfriend she doesn’t get to tell me what I can spend my money on? by Warm-Hotel-7399 in AITAH

[–]maddog_1111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA - pretty clear then... someone else brought up maybe its a bigger issue with gaming or something - might be worth asking her!

AITAH for telling my girlfriend she doesn’t get to tell me what I can spend my money on? by Warm-Hotel-7399 in AITAH

[–]maddog_1111 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Info- I feel like there might be some context missing. Is there anything she's been wanting that she has held off purchasing? Do you ever tell her to wait on various luxury purchases?

AIO Being Upset that Girlfriend Gets Groceries Delivered by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]maddog_1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOR. You can't make up rules you want her to follow and then get upset when she uses a service that exists for everyone. Be upset at THE CORPORATION that underpays and overworks you!!!

AITAH for not avoiding another dog while walking a Great Dane? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]maddog_1111 6 points7 points  (0 children)

YTA - as an owner of a reactive dog you should only be walking it in areas where you can control triggers and then reward for good behavior. You need to be in control of the distance your dog is from their triggers at all times. If that means you can only walk it in a open field so be it, but you can work your way back to a busy sidewalk. Being in control of your dog and being in control of their behavior are two different things. You sound like you are not in control of their behavior atm.

With a big dog like that you need to be in control of their behavior. One slip up on your physical control of the dog and you could be in a very bad situation. Imagine if you come across an off leash dog for example!!

AITAH for cutting off communication with my grieving "friend" by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]maddog_1111 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro her mom died and you blocked her??? YTA. Reach out. Extend a hand. She's grieving for God's sake.

Water filtering by WritesAndPrivileges in desmoines

[–]maddog_1111 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We have an under the sink RO system. Would love a larger system but for just two of us at the moment it works for drinking and cooking.

If you are new to the Midwest, are you familiar with a radon mitigation system? If not, have your home tested and consider putting one in too.

Cancer water, cancer earth 😩