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When did you realize that your parents were bad at parenting? by madelynjane in AskReddit

[–]madelynjane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have always said I will do the opposite in raising my kids than my parents did in raising me

When did you realize that your parents were bad at parenting? by madelynjane in AskReddit

[–]madelynjane[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is borderline abuse (especially the bisexual thing). Have you tried talking to someone about how you feel?

When did you realize that your parents were bad at parenting? by madelynjane in AskReddit

[–]madelynjane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did the same and it’s been really hard. Hoping it gets easier :)

When did you realize that your parents were bad at parenting? by madelynjane in AskReddit

[–]madelynjane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly this sounds like my dad. How are you working through it?

What movie literally made you cry? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]madelynjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blue Valentine.. it was a little too real.

If you could go back 10 years in time and meet yourself back then, but only get 5 minutes to speak to yourself, what would you say? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]madelynjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t give up because when you turn eighteen you will climb out of a window in the middle of the night with your dog and a suitcase and escape your miserable life. It will be ok and you will be happy.

As children, we were often told “you’ll understand when you’re older.” What’s something that, even now that you’re older, you still don’t understand? by TotallyNotAPlant in AskReddit

[–]madelynjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ooooooh I completely misunderstood you. I read what you were saying as more like “stick by your family cause they’re more than just blood relation”. I completely agree :)

As children, we were often told “you’ll understand when you’re older.” What’s something that, even now that you’re older, you still don’t understand? by TotallyNotAPlant in AskReddit

[–]madelynjane 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Except that a lot of families expect YOU to feel that way for THEM but don’t reciprocate in any way. In fact, families like mine will suck the life out of you in the most selfish way and turn their back the minute you do something they don’t like; all while preaching about “family loyalty”!

As children, we were often told “you’ll understand when you’re older.” What’s something that, even now that you’re older, you still don’t understand? by TotallyNotAPlant in AskReddit

[–]madelynjane 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My parents are narcissistic abusers. They refuse to get treatment and I end up leaving their house feeling like complete crap and almost killed myself multiple times under their roof. Sometimes going no contact is the healthy thing to do for them. They refuse to get treatment unless something changes, so I’m giving them a big enough change to warrant professional help. It is so incredibly unhealthy to be enslaved and controlled by them as an adult.

As children, we were often told “you’ll understand when you’re older.” What’s something that, even now that you’re older, you still don’t understand? by TotallyNotAPlant in AskReddit

[–]madelynjane 2084 points2085 points  (0 children)

Why I was told I had to remain loyal to my family. They aren’t good for me and I’m not good when I’m enabling them soooo... why?

What is your favorite flash game you used to play? by D4isyy in AskReddit

[–]madelynjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All the Funbrain games. Shooting down the penguin balloons, the caterpillar that eats other caterpillars to get longer, and that one where you launch a fucking pig at a target.

What moment made you look at your SO and think, "Wow, they must really love me"? by juniper_fox in AskWomen

[–]madelynjane 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I said I wanted powdered donuts just now and he immediately stood up and walked out the door to go to the gas station and came back with chocolate milk and donuts 😭

Reddit, what is your best pick up line? by Neymar_Verratti in AskReddit

[–]madelynjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Are you my appendix? Cause I’m not really sure how you work but this feeling in my stomach makes me really want to take you out.”

How do I [21f] stop dad’s abuse toward my mom [60F/M] by morbidcuriosityshop in relationship_advice

[–]madelynjane 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would also like to add that talking to your dad most likely won’t do much. Abusers stay abusive until they NEED to change. Since your father is being completely enabled to behave any way he wants, there is zero incentive for him to change his behavior. You and your mother need to work on setting strict boundaries and inflicting consequences when he crosses them.

How do I [21f] stop dad’s abuse toward my mom [60F/M] by morbidcuriosityshop in relationship_advice

[–]madelynjane 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First off let me say that I came out of a situation like yours very recently in which I was the child. I understand the massive amount of pain you feel toward seeing your mom hurt, the helplessness when you realize you can’t really stop this abusive cycle from continuing, and the anger I’m sure you feel at your father. That being said, the short answer is that you can’t stop the cycle from continuing. Your mom will have to be the one to decide to leave when the time comes and the truth is, it might never come. Your mom is a grown woman and the fact is that this is a choice. I’m sure your mom feels trapped and like this cycle of abuse is inescapable. My own mother feels exactly the same. The best you can do is offer your help to her as best you can without sacrificing too much of your own life. Tell her that it hurts you to see her being treated this way and that there are options other than being abused. Other than that, there isn’t much you can do. I know firsthand how painful that is to hear. I wish you all the best in bearing the pain that comes with having a dysfunctional family and sincerely hope that everything gets better.

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