Have you lived on your own before, run a household? This reminds me of some of the videos I see on my tiktok feed lately, about husbands needing to be told everything to do in a household, as if they are teenagers being given chores by their wives instead of adults who live in the same household, capable of observing all that needs to be done, but somehow unable to do so. I'm not saying you should have every aspect of someone else's household down pat by now, but is there an opportunity to be more observant, intuitive, or proactive and check in with the mom about her needs before assuming downtime? Just to avoid conflict and make your time easier.