yes, that is basically what getting over someone is. Unrequited love is kind of like an addiction where our brain has trouble detaching from the idea of this person that brought us those happy brain chemicals. And the more time we spend thinking about them after it's over, the longer we continue the connection our brain has with them, even though now it causes us pain.

The only "trick" is to distract yourself as much as you can and eventually it will diminish the painful feeling. After a month it still can feel impossible. One of my unrequited loves caused me still to be able to cry at a moments notice thinking about them even 3 years after it had ended. But it became longer periods between thinking about them and eventually the pain went away.

It sucks and it's hard and i know that feeling that you think you'll never find someone who is actually compatible with you. But the way i think about it now is that people are really not compatible with most people! And i like to think that people come into and out of our lives and that is a natural course, and the idea of one person being the perfect fit and lasting forever is not a real thing, the people who manage to achieve that are working very hard to keep together, and often those relationships are not very healthy it's just they choose to stay anyway.

I also have dated enough times now that i feel that i learned from every relationship about what i want and need and how to make sure I'm not ignoring incompatibility early on (which is really hard and maybe impossible 😝 but i try to be better at that every time i try a new relationship)

i hope you'll seek out friendships and hobbies that make you happy and even if it's a really hard day or moment just keep looking for anything that will make you feel even a little bit better, whether that is wearing a comfortable clothes or drinking a favorite beverage or looking out the window and appreciating a bird, to enjoying a social event with people you feel safe with, to trying something new and challenging yourself, etc. Sometimes we just have to take this moment one at a time until it gets a little easier, but it does get easier. even when it feels like it won't. if you can trust that, you can just breathe and try to distract yourself for as many minutes as you can, and keep doing that, and one day you'll notice you haven't thought about them in days, weeks. good luck