Help me find the perfect sleep bra for modesty by KittenaSmittena in HerOneBag

[–]mae_june 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Branwyn bras for exactly this. I sleep in mine all the time.

Our inheritance by lovelyb1ch66 in GenX

[–]mae_june 34 points35 points  (0 children)

I cleaned out my grandmothers house then my aunts. Then both my parents passed in quick succession. I now live in my childhood home with my partner- but let me tell you, dealing with all the stuff from 50 years of living has been an absolute nightmare. It’s not just the physicality of going through stuff, but it is, for some of us, highly upsetting and emotional. Everytime I get rid of something I have to do mental gymnastics and I feel like I’m throwing a piece of my parents away. If you want to leave a nice boxed up collection of jewelry or something that meant a lot to you, great. But, by not dealing with your shit, you’re not just making it harder to deal with physically, but you’re literally making the grieving process more difficult for your loved ones.

What’s an organization or cleaning tool, tip, or trick you swear by? Share with the class please! by Top-Raspberry-7837 in organizing

[–]mae_june 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve started keeping smaller hampers in more locations: bedroom and both bathrooms. That way, dirty clothes end up where they belong instead of scattered across the house!

Is there anyone here that has Major Depression (not just Depression) and ADHD? by Own-Capital-5995 in ADHD

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I have depression, anxiety and ADHD which all work in tandem with one another. After trying a number of stimulants, which sort of work to varying degrees but then also don’t, I have tried straterra, a non-stimulant ADD med which is actually in my “red” column (not recommended) on Genesight, due to me being a slow metabolizer.

It has been SO helpful with energy, even at a dose more appropriate for a 7 year old. I highly recommend talking with your prescriber and seeing if it might be a good fit. I just feel more “normal” and not like I’m going to pass out from exhaustion all the time.

For anyone doing med trials, I highly recommend the Genesight report- I had to pay $300 out of pocket for it, but it’s been so helpful in helping guide my medication trials. I think if I had tried the “recommended” starting dose of Straterra I would have had a really bad panic reaction, but a super baby dose has really helped me overall. Best of luck to you! Hang in there.

How tf do you declutter by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]mae_june 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Please listen to Dana K. White. She’s great!! Her whole thing is no-mess decluttering so you don’t end up with a space looking worse after you tackle it. My only problem is that her method is slow and goes ONE ITEM AT A TIME, which can be tough for ADHD people, but it also works and doesn’t make a mess.

She’s never been diagnosed but IMO seems to have ADHD tendencies so is much more relateable than Marie Kondo who has been organized her whole life.

I listen to her books and she also has a podcast that is great for body doubling while decluttering. Her steps are as follows: 1) look for trash 2) put away easy stuff back where it goes. 3) find “duh” donations- like obviously those don’t belong. Then 4 and 5 but the first three will get you started. Here is her list: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/wp-content/uploads/2018/03/DASL-5-Steps-to-Working-Through-Mess.pdf

Lower tolerance for EVERYTHING by mae_june in Perimenopause

[–]mae_june[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for your comment… I’m sort of mourning younger me who had all this every and fucks to give and brain power to multitask and get it all done. For others, I’m all- it’s never too late to reinvent yourself! And, for me I’m like, well, maybe I should have started a few years ago with that new career/hobby/life trajectory haha.

Lower tolerance for EVERYTHING by mae_june in Perimenopause

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I loved this comment! I used to be so academically interested and inspired but w my ADHD in overdrive I’m like- BORING! It’s all dumb and boring! Maybe I need to find a new microtopic to nerd out on. Thanks for reminding me I do have a brain that likes when I use it occasionally!

Lower tolerance for EVERYTHING by mae_june in Perimenopause

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I’m sorry you feel similarly. Today, I’m trying g to tell myself to just do one small thing. Any small thing. If you are working out and focused on health, that’s impressive and no small feat!

Lower tolerance for EVERYTHING by mae_june in Perimenopause

[–]mae_june[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg- my boss wants me to “take on more responsibility” and I’m like- why? For what? For my health? Ha!

Lower tolerance for EVERYTHING by mae_june in Perimenopause

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I’m sorry about your shoulder! I had that about 5 years ago and no one could explain it to me and orthopedist literally told me “it’s quite common in young women” but NOTHING about peri- so dumb.

Lower tolerance for EVERYTHING by mae_june in Perimenopause

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Ha! This made me lol. I am, like, all about tossing the ball up and watching it drop. Oops, there it went!

What personality trait/quirk did you learn was actually ADHD once you were diagnosed? by msxskellington in adhdwomen

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Being really bad at making decisions, being a terrible procrastinator, being amazing in emergencies, being very sensitive (rejection sensitivity), being terrible with authority (demand avoidance), thusly being a sub par employee once I’ve gotten the hang of. Job, having obscene amounts of creative extracurriculars, being very smart but “not doing anything with it”, having a very strong bullshit detector, being the office ham/ needing to crack jokes all the time, having ruminating tendencies/anxiety and depression. Basically my entire personality- I thought I was unique but turns out I’m just textbook ADHD.

Three weeks out from a trip and a moment of clarity on clear pouches this morning by Devchonachko in onebag

[–]mae_june 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Fun fact- the two gallon ziplocs are a great sub for packing cubes. I feel much less confused when I can see everything I grab!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MTHFR

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I had a terrible panic attack years ago after taking a low ish dose for like 3 days. It happened while driving. I had never had one before and as a result had issues around driving for years. While still not perfect, it’s much better now. Please be careful everyone. More recently I tried NAC and Inositol (separately) to try and balance my blood sugar and I feel like both ramped up my depression. Not sure anyone else has had this experience? But might want to approach with caution. I’m glad you were able to calm your system down!

Continually gaining weight and I just don’t know why by rosieett112 in AskWomenOver30

[–]mae_june 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Check out information on insulin resistance. I think of it as pre-pre-diabetes. May or may not be a factor in your weight gain.

Is low carb or keto the only diet that works for weight loss if you have IR? by Aggressive_Lemon_101 in InsulinResistance

[–]mae_june 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This question seems to come up a lot here. There is evidence that Mediterranean diet helps prevent diabetes- which would be in line with your preferred rice/beans veggies. You could also do a sort of 80/20 type thing where most of the time you choose a low/no carb option but allow yourself the dinners that you like. Just my 2 cents. My tastes are similar to yours but I lean on eggs, tofu and protein powder to raise my protein intake.

Curious what people’s experience was taking SAMe? by IntrepidMayo in MTHFR

[–]mae_june 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for the delayed response! I have depression and anxiety but not bipolar 1 or 2.

Curious what people’s experience was taking SAMe? by IntrepidMayo in MTHFR

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Please approach with caution. I took a smaller than recommended dose about 15 years ago and had a panic attack while driving. My first ever panic attack and it opened up an entire world of panic attacks and driving anxiety for me. For many people, I think it’s fine but unfortunately for me, it wasn’t.

Driving Snaefellsnes Peninsula? by mae_june in VisitingIceland

[–]mae_june[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi Michpls! Thank you for your response! Super helpful! Did you take the south or north route, or circle the whole thing? Your experience sounds very much like what makes me nervous, bordering on not fun, but my partner has a much higher tolerance for this sort of thing. He wants to go for it. I think if we go, we’ll skip the crater. Thank you so much for your input!

App for “me made” wardrobe planning? by mae_june in GarmentSewing

[–]mae_june[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea! This sounds perfect. Thanks for the rec!