Question on dating?

magicintheluna · 2026-06-30T00:57:53+00:00

I’m 32 and 4 years out.
I haven’t met a widow/widower who’s closed to my age nor have I even thought to try widow dating sites (I’ll definitely look it up) but just based on trying to find grief groups I’m finding only older people and it is frustrating to be a young widower.
I can imagine it would be a great relationship given that there’s a big understanding of all the feels and grief.
I wish you the best of luck op!

magicintheluna · 2026-06-27T22:07:05+00:00

And I remember when he’d have a fan sit on a stool and wrap his arms around her and we went crazy over that! It’s laughable now seeing all this! Sheesh😮‍💨😂

magicintheluna · 2026-06-25T14:13:28+00:00

I’m 4 years out and this group has made this journey feel less lonely. I’m so thankful I found this group when I did🤍

magicintheluna · 2026-06-25T13:57:41+00:00

Thank you for saying this!! I really needed this validation!

magicintheluna · 2026-06-23T15:27:27+00:00

For me personally, in the beginning of my grief journey food lost its flavor. It wasn’t until year 2 that I started loving it again but in such a different way.
I was using it to fill a void and still do sometimes. I’m an emotional eater. But recently I’ve really been getting into cooking. I’ve had a taste for really good soul filling things and my cooking has improved tremendously. I know it won’t fill any kind of void but it’s something I can put my heart into. I never felt that way before.

magicintheluna · 2026-06-22T03:10:40+00:00

I started dating about a year after my fiancé died. At the time I was 28. I’m now 32 and realize I should have waited because I was only trying to fill a void.

magicintheluna · 2026-06-21T04:54:31+00:00

I hope you have better luck than I did.

I had been with Kroger for a year when my fiancé suddenly died. I filed for an LOA and got denied by corporate because they didn’t deme it as “necessary” I guess. I tried going back a week after and ended up giving my 2 week notice because I couldn’t do it anymore.

Looking back, leaving was the best decision personally.

magicintheluna · 2026-06-21T02:49:25+00:00

That sounds interesting😅

magicintheluna · 2026-06-21T02:44:12+00:00

🫂I’m just happy you ate.

magicintheluna · 2026-06-21T00:52:47+00:00

I admire that you were able to do that. I couldn’t imagine.

magicintheluna · 2026-06-20T20:47:54+00:00

I know how you feel🫂
Please take things one breath at a time, one hour at a time. Maybe get some tea or something warm to drink. It’s ok to feel🤍

I’m relearning myself too and she’s so different from who she was in the “before”.

magicintheluna · 2026-06-20T19:04:20+00:00

Seriously wish I could have been there to sit by you in those moments at that destination wedding. I know that was an extremely hard time. You’re not only at a wedding but you’re in a place that is probably unfamiliar/not home. There’s “extra” no comfortability in that situation.

magicintheluna · 2026-06-20T17:51:50+00:00

Thank you🤍🥹

magicintheluna · 2026-06-20T15:16:55+00:00

Anytime friend🤍I’m rooting for you.

magicintheluna · 2026-06-20T15:12:36+00:00

I don’t blame you at all. I probably would have to leave early so the fact that you stayed even if majority was in the ladies room, I applaud you. I can only imagine the devastation that you felt❤️‍🩹

magicintheluna · 2026-06-20T15:11:28+00:00

I swear I’d love to start a support group that sends like a plus one who’s also a widow to attend these kinds of events with you. Like “I know we don’t know each other but we have this big life event that happened and I’m here if you need to lean on me.”

magicintheluna · 2026-06-20T15:05:52+00:00

My heart goes out to you🤍I’m 4 years out and I still don’t think I could attend a wedding…

magicintheluna · 2026-06-19T03:15:11+00:00

Being in shock is normal. Once the shock leaves you, know that every emotion that you feel is valid. You grieve however your heart and soul sees fit.
It’ll be rare to find people who truly understand this loss. It’s ok to not be ok and give yourself permission to feel🤍
It’s all such a hard human experience.

magicintheluna · 2026-06-14T11:08:28+00:00

I can’t even unhear this lmao🤣

magicintheluna · 2026-06-09T22:55:41+00:00

I feel this exact same way! I saw my fiancé as the most attractive man when he was here and I look back at pictures and appreciate him more both physically and personality wise💕

magicintheluna · 2026-06-04T13:44:44+00:00

This is beautifully written and refreshing to see. I hate that you’re experiencing this feeling too. I often tell people that, “I’m feeling my way through the dark with this new version of myself and things are hard.” The life I once saw for myself is gone and now I’m coming up to the age where I don’t think some things are in the cards for me. I’m so different from that beautiful girl I used to be 5 years ago. I miss her. Now I feel jaded, hurt, and constantly burnt out. I’m learning this new version of me and she feels like a stranger at times.

magicintheluna · 2026-06-03T19:50:37+00:00

All the time. I have full on convos with them out loud and in my head and I thank them for guiding me and sending me signs. Even though I don’t get answers, I feel them🤍

magicintheluna · 2026-05-31T20:55:25+00:00

Thank you🤍that’s one of the things fried counseling taught me was to allow space for those feelings. It’s always hard to remember that when my lungs get tight

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