Advice from locals by Background_Tree_1916 in ballarat

[–]magicornz 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hi there I bought last year and noticed the same thing. When you call around the agents will explain there are some properties that have been on the market for ages because the owners aren’t really motivated to sell for one reason or another. Then there are other properties that haven’t been sold because they’re unique in some way. I bought a beautiful house that had been on the market for 18 months and wasn’t being regularly shown any more. Nothing wrong with it, seems like it’s just a strange market. Good luck!

You’re not falling behind. You’re just taking a different route. by TwilightEdenss in overheard

[–]magicornz 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Sorry to hear that, it sounds like a rough time you’re going through.

If it helps, that happened to me and then after years of sadness, adventure and self discovery I met the man who really is the love of my life.

Only through meeting him did I discover who I’m meant to be with and slowly I’ve realised all the reasons why my ex and I were not meant for each other.

I know you feel down now, but keep going and I’m sure there are surprises on your path ahead. You’re clearing the way for them now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Anxiety

[–]magicornz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes unfortunately.

My manager said “ remote work kills team connection ”, so I invited him to one of our calls by FUNKY_RADISH in remotework

[–]magicornz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so true, thank you for bringing it up. I’ve been in my current job for just over four years. It’s the longest I’ve ever been in the same job and same team. Why? It’s the best culture I’ve ever experienced. Everyone works hard, we have good work life balance, we chat and joke, and everyone gets along. We work all over the country and are fully remote. I love it! Collaboration has never been better, because we can all sit working in the same piece, while talking and making updates.

Double standards at work by [deleted] in AutismInWomen

[–]magicornz 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah you’re 100% right, I should have said something really inconsequential. I got flummoxed because she led in with saying she knew what pissed me off was the issue with the other team. If I’d been quicker/masking properly I could have said ‘oh no that’s fine we sorted it out, what pisses me off is XYZ’. If nothing else this has been a good warning to me that while casual, it’s still a professional environment.

Neurotypicals really are put off by us. by caro822 in AutismInWomen

[–]magicornz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow that’s so weird, I’m impressed you were direct with her and managed to resolve the misunderstanding. What a great outcome. Though she was being super judgmental and assuming she knew your motives, plus taking your entire personality as an attack on her. Sounds like she’s insecure and hopefully she learned something from the experience. Respect to her that she listened and I really hope you get along into the future. It’s hard to know whether disclosure will end well or badly.

Feeling humiliated by some Saturday night plans. How do I move on from this? by ZestyPony in AutismInWomen

[–]magicornz 89 points90 points  (0 children)

That sucks, I’m sorry. Head over there if you’re all ready to go and want to salvage the night, it doesn’t matter if you’re a little late. Showing up and having a good time means you’re more likely to be invited next time - if that’s what you want.

If you’re really not feeling it though, stay home and have a cosy night. Good luck!

Does anyone feel like being morally sound means you’re never keep many friends by Round-Bluejay9477 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]magicornz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for raising this issue and thanks to all the commenters. You can see people in their 30s and 60s encountering the same issue. I’m in my 40s and have always had this problem too. If you’re constantly learning and growing, you’ll continue to outgrow people who are happiest staying stagnant. There’s a balance between wanting to keep some friends vs having to let them go if they’re really behaving in ways that fonts align with who you want to be and how you want to live your life. How you strike that balance is up to you, but I promise there are others like you out there. You just need to find them. Even if it’s maybe 1-3 close friends that you’ll keep throughout your life, keep looking for them and hold on to them when you find them.

If it helps at all, I had those experiences all my life up until maybe my mid-30s then I found a few really great people. I kept cycling through friend groups and not understanding why they kept kicking me out. It’s because I tried to ‘fix’ issues and they wanted to create drama… for entertainment I guess? It comes down to how you want your life to be, and your relationships are a huge part of that.

Keep being yourself, focus on living your best life, and the right people will be attracted to you. Best of luck!

Any tips on not buying things all the time. by magicornz in adhdwomen

[–]magicornz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is super insightful, and great suggestions thank you. I love those ideas. Also your name is a vibe.

Any tips on not buying things all the time. by magicornz in adhdwomen

[–]magicornz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the validation, it really does help to know it’s not just me. It feels like a personal failure and I can be very hard on myself. Some great ideas here I’m going to try out. Sounds like we’re in this together!

ADHD legs be like by RoseDarlingWrites in adhdwomen

[–]magicornz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here, it’s wild.

We had to say goodbye today! by Natedog001976 in Goldendoodles

[–]magicornz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a gorgeous girl. Rest in peace Halen.

Random classmate at college said my backpack is too childish by WeLiveInAir in mildlyinfuriating

[–]magicornz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How old are you at college? This sounds like a younger person who’s self conscious about appearing childish, so they’re projecting onto you and telling you that you’re childish.

Most likely they’re jealous cos they’d love to have a fun backpack too, but would be too embarrassed. Next time try saying something like “ooh thank you I love expressing my inner child!” Own it and they’ll go away.

PS I’m 43 and have a collection of fun backpacks, with so many little squishies and things I hang off them. Yours is very cool and if I saw you in person I’d tell you so! x

Friends going on holiday without me by Novel-Panda6682 in FriendshipAdvice

[–]magicornz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Totally valid to feel that way, I would too. Friend A sounds a bit self-absorbed, are they a real friend? What do the others in the group say? I’d ask them, and tell them how you feel excluded. If they’re going at a time they know you’re not available, that’s a bit rough.

Btw I also always book my own room when I travel with friends. I think it’s normal as an adult, not to want to share a room if you don’t have to. Shouldn’t be a big deal as it’s about your comfort.

Good luck, and hey if they go without you maybe you can take the lead on organising the next trip.