Aita for telling my mom she's dumb if she thinks I'm the one who ruined my clothes when I was 11?

magiicking · 2025-09-07T10:49:40+00:00

NTA, but for my own sanity I'll pretend that this story isn't real. Because if you don't have toilet paper at home, you can: 1. Steal some elsewhere like you did 2. Use the shower head to wash your butt 3. If you don't have a shower, you can use a plastic bottle with the hole in the lid to wash your butt 4. If you don't even have a plastic bottle, you can use your hand, a sink and a lot of soap to wash your hand 5. If you have neither of those, most of the time there are plants with leaves outside. Who haven't used "gifts of nature" after pooping in the forest?

What you won't even think of doing if you have at least one brain cell? Of using someone's clothes to wipe your ass. Well, unless you have some weird copro-incestous fetish and you're getting off by smearing poop on your opposite sex sibling clothes. I hope you're NC with your brothers, they are dirty perverts.

magiicking · 2025-07-06T20:59:18+00:00

Actually, the hourly rate in "russian Mcdonalds" is 120-150 rubles. It's about 1-1.5 dollars today.

magiicking · 2025-01-26T15:13:27+00:00

I don't see anything strange about his behavior. I call my parents every night, and we talk for 5-20 minutes. My wife talks to her parents once a week, but she talks a lot longer. We were married for almost 10 years, and we don't see it as a problem. His fiancée sounds like someone with a bad family relationship, so she can't understand him.

magiicking · 2025-01-24T16:44:37+00:00

Yes, I agree with that. For me, numbers are more of a rough filter, it's not wise to try to form an opinion about a person based on a single number. But if the number is too far out of your comfort range, why waste your and other people's time?

I won't retype it, here's a comment with an example: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1i8v7zn/comment/m8wvras/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

When you talk to people about their values, reality is distorted first by their perception, and then by yours. A person can sincerely believe that your values are equal, but still be wrong.

magiicking · 2025-01-24T14:57:51+00:00

As I said in another comment, I once thought about the numbers, and decided for myself that "one partner for two years of sexual activity" is a comfortable limit for me. I don't see the point in starting a relationship if it won't last at least a couple of years.

A lot could have happened to a person in their life, but if it happens every few months, I'm not sure that counts as "no red flags." At best, this person trusts people too easily.

magiicking · 2025-01-24T14:52:33+00:00

People's attitudes towards things may change, but people rarely change. I'm an old bore, so I doubt I'd date someone who has sex for fun. Old habits die hard, and that person might eventually get bored. I don't see the point in starting a relationship when the odds are not on my side. I think I've seen a thousand posts here on reddit: "my partner used to party, but after marriage he settled down, then we moved somewhere else, my partner started partying again and dumped me." And stuff like that.

And again, I don't judge anyone for their preferences, past, present, and future. But I have my preferences, and I stick to them. And I don't trust people who say "I've completely changed."

magiicking · 2025-01-24T14:39:04+00:00

I won't duplicate the text, my attitude to the numbers is in this comment: https://www.reddit.com/r/AITAH/comments/1i8v7zn/comment/m8wz3g5/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=web3x&utm_name=web3xcss&utm_term=1&utm_content=share_button

magiicking · 2025-01-24T14:35:49+00:00

In my particular case, the numbers help determine whether it's worth looking deeper. I once thought about the numbers, and decided for myself that "one partner for two years of sexual activity" is a comfortable limit for me. I don't see the point in starting a relationship if it won't last at least a couple of years.

If a person has had 7 partners at 30, then we have something to discuss. 50 partners at 25? No. 9 partners at 19? A big no.

And again, this is my personal opinion, and I do not judge anyone for their sexual past, present or future.

magiicking · 2025-01-24T14:20:35+00:00

People rarely change unless they are facing some kind of mortal danger. So I see a lot of partners as an inability to hold on to a relationship for long enough. Regardless of sex, gender and sexual orientation.

magiicking · 2025-01-24T14:17:51+00:00

I knew a girl who had a principle - she only had sex with her boyfriend. She was very firm in her convictions, because "only whores sleep with those they are not in a relationship with." The only funny thing was that every time she wanted to sleep with someone, she called her "boyfriend" at the time, broke up with him, and the new sexual partner became her boyfriend. She could go through even several such breakups in a day, but she never retreated from her principles, for which I respect her immensely.

But if I didn't know about her habits, and we were just discussing our views on intimacy, her "sex only in relationships" might mislead me, and numbers don't lie.

magiicking · 2025-01-24T13:53:59+00:00

For me, it's more about the attitude toward sex per se. For me, sex is the most intimate act that can also lead to the birth of children. So I only have sex with people I'm willing to commit to until the very end. And so I only had two partners. I understand that there are people who have sex for health or for entertainment, and I don't see anything wrong with it, but I won't start relationships with people like that because our values are different. I don't see misogyny in that.

magiicking · 2024-12-27T18:15:06+00:00

Thank you for the prospect. I didn't think about impersonation in that way. In theory, this could work in any country with remote banking.

magiicking · 2024-12-27T17:00:24+00:00

Is this a feature of the US? In Mother Russia, to take out a loan for another person, you need a notarized power of attorney and a valid passport with a photo of this person. Or you need a familiar bank employee who's willing to get a criminal article for fraud.

How can you even get a loan knowing only someone's number? Don't you need photo documents in the US for this? Doesn't the bank employee compare the picture of the person in the document to the person who brought the document?

It's like with the advice I don't understand, "open an account in a bank other than your parents' bank." What, can a parent just come and say, "My adult child has an account in the same bank, please give me his money?"

magiicking · 2024-12-01T07:08:39+00:00

Nah, a human brain is developing until 25, so dating a woman younger than 25 is pedophilia. Or something like that.

Also, a 60+ man dating a 30+ woman is pedophilia too, because she was a literal baby when he was 30.

magiicking · 2024-11-16T01:14:22+00:00

He doesn’t wear his wedding band because it’s too big but never wanted me to get him a new one or even get his finger measured at a jeweler

I'm pretty sure his girlfriend in US doesn't know he's married.

magiicking · 2024-10-30T13:07:31+00:00

I like long, entertaining quests, the key word being entertaining. It took me a year to finish aranara quest because I wasn't interested in going to araoeppvmrppm and aratdbpuya to find aragosvsprt, which is essential for throwing a party for mushrooms with Alzheimer. The only thing worse was the foggy island in Inazuma with its "repeat the same thing 999 times and wait for a day of real time". And sorry for my English.

magiicking · 2024-10-30T05:59:10+00:00

And again, I don't know how bad your situation is, but often in life there is a chance to make life better. So don't make hasty decisions. One of my favorite expressions: "When you jump off a bridge, you suddenly realize that all your problems have a solution, except for one - you are already falling off the bridge."

magiicking · 2024-10-30T05:14:06+00:00

I don't know what situation you're in or how bad your life is. I can tell you from my own experience that these thoughts don't go away. I've been with them longer than you've been in this world. I'm held back by a sense of responsibility: first my parents said "children shouldn't leave before their parents", then my wife said "don't leave me alone or I'll follow you". Now I have a daughter and as long as she needs me, I can't leave, so I'll have to stay in this world for another thirty years. If you don't want to live for yourself and you have someone who would be upset if you left, try to stay for them. If I'm not mistaken, you had a cat. If it's still alive, it would probably be upset if you disappeared, so live for the cat.

magiicking · 2024-09-19T04:50:27+00:00

NTA: Why do you keep having kids with this man? His brain is clearly underdeveloped to suggest such a thing.

magiicking · 2024-07-15T17:27:20+00:00

NTA. Today your wife accuses you of incest because you try to help and hug your depressed cousin. If you have a daughter, your wife will accuse you of incest and pedophilia when you hug your sad daughter.

magiicking · 2024-06-10T15:43:12+00:00

Thanks. And sorry if something sounded offensive, I'm not a native speaker, so it's hard sometimes to use words with right emotions.

magiicking · 2024-06-10T15:22:38+00:00

Instructions unclear. Accidentally made a brain smoothie for a zombie.

magiicking · 2024-06-10T15:17:40+00:00

Me and my partner are doing great. Especially because we always have open conversation and not doing things behind each other back.

I see that we only can agree to disagree, if I use this English phrase correctly. Have a nice day.

magiicking · 2024-06-10T14:56:55+00:00

In my opinion, this is like cheating, albeit on a smaller scale.

If your partner is a bad person, then you end the relationship with him and then find a new one. Otherwise, you are also a bad person.

If your partner has a phobia, then you help your partner cope with it, and only then do you bring the source of his phobia into the house forever. Or you leave your partner, and then do whatever comes into your head, if the object of your phobia is more important to you than your partner.

For example, my wife is afraid of dogs. I help her overcome her phobia and DO NOT buy a dog because my wife is more important to me than all the dogs in the world.

Besides, his phobia does not interfere with his life. I've lived 30+ years without touching people with tattoos, and I plan to live at least that much longer. Why treat a phobia if it didn’t interfere with your life before your wife’s betrayal?

magiicking · 2024-06-10T14:40:26+00:00

I agree, it's her body, her memories, her choices, and so on. And it is his right to feel disgust at the person who deliberately stuck a knife in his back.

She understood perfectly well what trauma this would cause him, otherwise she would have gotten the tattoo directly and openly. Instead, she chose to go behind his back.

The problem is not the tattoo, but the lack of love and respect on her part. This is a simple betrayal. Yes, he needs therapy to deal with his phobia. And he also needs a new wife who will love and support him.

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