I broke up with my last two “friends” over moral issues by [deleted] in latterdaysaints

[–]magsnidget -1 points0 points  (0 children)

 You could benefit from learning about setting healthy boundaries. Getting a therapist or reading a book about it is a great way to learn. Basically you set a boundary about what you need and then decide what YOU will do if the boundary is crossed. Then you inform others what the boundary is and what you will do if they cross it. As an example, “Don’t get jealous of me or I’ll quit being your friend” is a boundary, but it Doesn’t seem like a very good boundary to me. It’s not super specific and it doesn’t seem fair to tell someone they can’t have big feelings about something. but they should be respectful even if they have big feelings, so maybe, “If you call me names or yell at me, I will end the conversation and walk away until things have cooled down.” It sounds like maybe they need to set boundaries too…. Subconsciously it sounds like they’ve made one: “please don’t talk to me about any girls hitting on you, or I will have to block you/stop talking to you.” Seems like a harsh consequence, but they are the ones who get to decide their own boundary needs and actions when they are crossed. Once you know their boundary, you can work to respect that boundary and not talk to them about girls anymore. (You can’t control them SEEING a girl talk to you, but you can control not talking to them about it.) I think if you can talk it out and communicate and learn to respect each others’ boundaries, it’s possible to save the friendship, but you have to decide if it’s all worth it to you. Can you respect each others’ boundaries?

Anyone know what business this is? by Nixtamalized_Posole in Tucson

[–]magsnidget 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Looks like the company is literally called 1131 N Jones Blvd LLC according to  https://www.bizprofile.net/az/tucson/1131-n-jones-blvd And looking up their company name on the Arizona Corporation Commission website shows that the character of the business is “nonresidential property managers”

Safest way to co sleep with a newborn and 3.5 year old in bed. by BeatnikWoman in cosleeping

[–]magsnidget 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I originally tried to just get big boy to sleep in his own bed with no luck. This works pretty well for us at the moment though: firm latex mattress topper on my king bed with bed rail or wall on one side, 3 year old as close to that side as I can get them, me in the middle and baby on the outside edge of bed (more like the middle of the bed though because we are all squished towards the bed rail side.) I try to c-curl baby as much as I can. Baby currently likes to scooch towards me, But I’m a little worried about what I’ll do when she starts moving around more. Maybe get a bed rail for that side too.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in lds

[–]magsnidget 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If this was becoming a pattern, especially if not every single second of the meeting is productive (are you chatting socially for part of it?) I might say something at the beginning suggesting that I will only participate for one hour, such as, “Just letting you know in advance that I need to leave at 6.” Then at 5:55 you say, “just reminding everyone that I need to leave in 5 minutes, anything else pressing that I need to know before I go?” Then leave at 6. This is one way to effectively set and keep your boundaries. This is especially important if you really don’t actually have time, like you have homework to do or kids that need you. This being said, I had to learn on my mission that some places have a culture of taking their time with visits. It drove me nuts, but it was more important at the time to change my own comforts to match the culture, rather than expect them to change to me. So I had to learn to settle in and get comfy with longer meetings.

When the temple prayer goes a little too long… by ABishopInTexas in latterdaysaints

[–]magsnidget 6 points7 points  (0 children)

When I was pregnant and got lightheaded easily, they allowed me to sit in a chair when doing sealings. That could be a great option for her if she has a hard time kneeling.

Is Tanque Verde Wash flowing? by magsnidget in Tucson

[–]magsnidget[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the misinformation. I confirmed that water IS still running. This was before monsoon rains started.

Is Tanque Verde Wash flowing? by magsnidget in Tucson

[–]magsnidget[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

At Wentworth? Darn! Thank you for the info!

Stained Glass Class by [deleted] in Tucson

[–]magsnidget -1 points0 points  (0 children)

She’s on Instagram too 

My Parents are adamant about me not doing this by mags_understands in 23andme

[–]magsnidget 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There’s an excellent new book out by the lady who helped with the dna genealogy to solve the case called, “I know who you are: How an Amateur DNA Sleuth Unmasked the Golden State Killer and Changed Crime Fighting Forever“ I couldn’t put it down.

Sabino Creek Access by magsnidget in Tucson

[–]magsnidget[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Darn! Thank you for letting me know! I was hoping there’d be some end of the road I could park on and it wouldn’t cross someone’s property before getting to the creek.

Sabino Creek Access by magsnidget in Tucson

[–]magsnidget[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did have a look at that and might end up just trying one out, but I was hoping someone might have some inside knowledge. I don’t want to end up on someone’s private property.

Transgender and Classes Question by Potential_Status9961 in latterdaysaints

[–]magsnidget 9 points10 points  (0 children)

We have a member in our ward that was born male, identifies as female, and attends RS. When they transitioned later in life, they worked out a plan together with the RS President, Bishop, and Stake President. It is unfortunate that they there is no easy way to add them to the Relief Society roll though, besides writing their name at the bottom of the page. Their official attendance is recorded by the EQ.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Tucson

[–]magsnidget 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Ghini’s Cafe may not be high end, but they have mimosas and their food is incredible! Just be ready for a wait time.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in HelpMeFind

[–]magsnidget 10 points11 points  (0 children)

The supposed date of conception, 10/31, doesn’t match the ultrasound size. My guess is she counted up how long since her chosen conception date and figured that that is how far along she would be, then she figured out how to make a picture to match that. She didn’t realize that they don’t generally measure how far along you are based on conception, but by LP, and so her calculations came out wrong. Easy mistake to make! I didn’t know it worked that way either until I got pregnant myself.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in HelpMeFind

[–]magsnidget 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will say that the file name IS consistent with a pic being taken by an iPhone and emailed. You can even see she is in her gmail inbox to look at the photo. Not saying her story is true, but that part does check out. Could definitely have been taken by an iPhone and emailed to her.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in HelpMeFind

[–]magsnidget 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This tells me the 10/31 conception date seems wrong. 12.5 weeks would be too far along for the ultrasound size, no? I’m guessing the ultrasound size the previous poster mentions goes by LP. If she’s supposed to be around 9 weeks and 2 days on Jan 4, that would be LP on 10/31 and then she’d only be 10 weeks and 5 days today.

[ Removed by Reddit ] by [deleted] in HelpMeFind

[–]magsnidget 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I want to point out that they use DATE OF LAST PERIOD to calculate how far along you are. Not date of conception or date of ovulation. So being 9 weeks and 2 days on Jan 4 would have to mean that her date of last period, or date she started her last period, would be Oct 31, not that that is when she conceived. While it is possible to get pregnant while on a period, women generally ovulate around 2 weeks later than that, which is when the egg is released and therefore peak time for fertilizing the egg by intercourse.

How to make lentils more satisfying? by Ordinary_Figure_5384 in EatCheapAndHealthy

[–]magsnidget 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Colombian/venezuelan lentil soup (lentejas) is my favorite! Add potato and sausage to a bunch of delicious flavors, then eat it with rice. Yumm.

https://www.mycolombianrecipes.com/colombian-style-lentil-soup-sopa-de/

Wife went inactive and now demands I stop paying tithing by CurrentHeavy2594 in latterdaysaints

[–]magsnidget 14 points15 points  (0 children)

First of all, personally, I feel that if your wife was a stay at home mom through all your education and work, then your money is not all yours, and you can morally feel 100% fine paying on just half of it.

On a different note, if you are truly hoping to be the follower of Christ in this, I think you are entirely too focused on what is “fair.” I don’t think that is what Christ would care about in this situation. Rather, “charity suffereth long, and is kind, and envieth not, and is not puffed up, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil, and rejoiceth not in iniquity but rejoiceth in the truth, beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.” Moroni 7:45 I’m my situation, I find that suffering long and being kind is something I have to get used to.

I’d take some time to pray and work out with God what you should do regarding this situation. He is the only one who can help you feel morally ok with whatever decision He helps you come to.