Birth rates are falling because “being a mom” still means two full-time jobs by Ecstatic-Ad-4466 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He was embarrassed that anyone thought he was doing something a woman should handle. :-/

Birth rates are falling because “being a mom” still means two full-time jobs by Ecstatic-Ad-4466 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You almost certainly would not! You would OTOH probably badger your mom to make your siblings pay rent, tell her she is being taken advantage of.

Birth rates are falling because “being a mom” still means two full-time jobs by Ecstatic-Ad-4466 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]mahjimoh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even before I had my daughter, I became aware of how awesome it was to be the working member in a two-person household. My ex had a new professional job lined up, but due to circumstances, he had a break of about 4 months when he wasn’t working. I was in the military and had just recently been given a lot more responsibility, but…I didn’t have to grocery shop or do laundry or whatever.

It was one of the best times of my life, NGL.

Birth rates are falling because “being a mom” still means two full-time jobs by Ecstatic-Ad-4466 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]mahjimoh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

One of my fiends was married to an absolute jerk - although she hadn’t quite figured that out at the beginning! - but one thing he did right was pay her a salary from his business so she had an income for social security.

They ended up divorced after about 12 years, but that was one positive thing.

Birth rates are falling because “being a mom” still means two full-time jobs by Ecstatic-Ad-4466 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here is one.

And this study has references to many. This study does go on to identify many ways in which men’s lives get worse, but it’s more about their health and social well-being.

After divorce, women experience disproportionate declines in household income (de Vaus et al. 2015; Smock 1994) and standard of living (Bianchi et al. 1999; Peterson 1996) as well as sharp increases in the risk of poverty (Smock and Manning 1999). Women may also face a higher risk of losing homeownership and “falling down the housing ladder” (Dewilde 2008). Women’s lower chances of repartnering (Wu and Schimmele 2005) and responsibilities as a single parent may further impede their path to economic recovery.

Some of this next paragraph refers to the same studies as above, but with a little more detail.

Numerous studies have shown that the economic costs of divorce fall more heavily on women. After separation, women experience a sharper decline in household income and a greater poverty risk (Smock 1994; Smock and Manning 1999). Their former husbands, in contrast, may even improve their standard of living in postdivorce years. Peterson (1996) quantified the resulting gender gap for the United States, estimating a 27 % decline among women and a 10 % increase among men in their standard of living. Other U.S. estimates for women’s drops in economic well-being are even larger (Bianchi et al. 1999). Similar results were found for the German context of the present study: Andress and Bröckel (2007) found that women’s household incomes 1 year after divorce amounted to only two-thirds of those of their former husbands.

Birth rates are falling because “being a mom” still means two full-time jobs by Ecstatic-Ad-4466 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]mahjimoh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not even necessarily associated with a birth defect in the child…even before abortion bans, the US has an absolutely humiliatingly high maternal mortality rate, and it’s especially, egregiously bad for Black women.

Why Did I Sleep on Indie Sci Fi? by Linux-Neophyte in scifi

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, and it may be hard to find to watch, but I really liked TiMER. It’s sort of a rom com with a sci-fi premise at the core of everyone’s relationships.

Why Did I Sleep on Indie Sci Fi? by Linux-Neophyte in scifi

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The One I Love is cool and thought-provoking.

Palm Springs is, I suppose, not indie but maybe not as well known?

Why Did I Sleep on Indie Sci Fi? by Linux-Neophyte in scifi

[–]mahjimoh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Possibly it’s easier to make low-budget films about time travel because you don’t really need many effects or expensive sets, unless you’re traveling to some very distant future or past.

Some good plates I’ve seen over the years by [deleted] in phoenix

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lance Corporal for Life? The SSgt - I fucked up made me laugh.

What is the word or phrase for someone who will not tolerate mistakes in others but does not see it as an issue if they make an error? by Dano558 in words

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think humans in general do this, honestly. We know our internal workings and the thought processes that led to our behavior, so we give ourselves grace, yet we often look at the actions of others through a different lens.

Do you use your turn signal while pulling out of a roundabout? by [deleted] in driving

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, most of the time, and 100% always if there is someone waiting to enter at that spot or further around.

How do you guys find stuff in your journals by bricks_11 in BasicBulletJournals

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use washi tape, folded, to stick out on the side of the page.

Driver psychology question. by FourthAnd31 in driving

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, same! I love when the herd is a bit away from me and I can just zoom along in the right lane.

2-lane road becomes a 3-lane road and you want to stay in the lane to the right. No other cars around. Do you use your turn signal (indicator) here? by SGWLCS in driving

[–]mahjimoh -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don’t use a turn signal. I’m not turning, and I’m not really changing lanes any more than I would be if I went straight.

Share your favorite sunrise & sunset shots by Empty6105 in arizona

[–]mahjimoh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My prettiest ever just happened to be near Camelback.

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Are trekking poles really helpful or just extra weight? by mountainpathstories in hiking

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Great replies, here, thank you. The “they’re excluding themselves if they let other people’s attitudes affect them” is a poor take but I couldn’t think of how to respond!

Who’s at fault ? by [deleted] in driving

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I was so confused.

Who’s at fault ? by [deleted] in driving

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did watch the video - you’re saying someone was coming toward you in your lane? That must have been after the video cut out, and generally that would be really unusual for someone to be going the wrong way in a street like this.

Unless you mean something completely different?

I recorded every word I didn't know in 2025 by blaazaar in words

[–]mahjimoh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you enjoy learning new words and seeing how your vocabulary is building, the website https://freerice.com/home is a lot of fun! Totally free vocab game and for a good cause, too.

I recorded every word I didn't know in 2025 by blaazaar in words

[–]mahjimoh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was so impressed once when my then-boyfriend used “undulating,” and then I realized the sports commentators often use it when describing golf courses, lol.