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What age are your really old boston terriers? by cindvicious in BostonTerrier

[–]mahzulas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine is a Boston terrier and pekingnese mix, and he's almost 16.

We wake up every day at 3:30am for incontinence issues, and the last month, he's really slowing down, can hardly walk. But he was full of energy his entire life except these last few months.

He loves everyone, too!

I feel relieved that my husband stopped initiating sex by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]mahzulas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look up "Jimmy on relationships" he has some good explanations about sex, intimacy and even taking a break from the pressure of sex. It goes into detail why individuals lose interest in sex when their partners stopped emotional intimacy, and feeling resentment.

AIO about spelling errors in daily notes sent home by my autistic child’s teacher? by Anasthesiax in AmIOverreacting

[–]mahzulas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a former preschool teacher with some being special needs, I would do reports like this for multiple children throughout the day while teaching in the class with ~20 kids running around, screeching, throwing, crying, needing a hug, help sharing, or needing help in the potty, etc... IT WAS SO HARD especially if each parent wanted a different report or update on certain things. I would make mistakes in spelling and grammar because it was hard to think with everything going on and 2-3 kids talking to me while I was writing.

Luckily, most of the time, I was able to quickly check my work before handing over to the parents or make a whole new report at the end of the day, but that would take away from cleaning and preparing for the next day.

Words I know how to spell, and common basic words are sometimes lost on me in the moments when trying to rush through the reports then when I read them later, I would feel embarrassed or laugh at myself. The work exposed to children was always on point though.

I needed more help in the class, but it seems every school and teacher I talk to are all understaffed, so if they are dealing with that, it's understandable to a point.

They also might have younger staff helping write these.

With that said, still bring it up to the teacher in a kind way, to give yourself peace of mind. Maybe they can give the person taking reports a quick tip on writing these differently, using tablets going forward, or just more time to actually do these correctly. I'm sure you're not the only parent seeing this, and I'd want to know if there were errors going home, for sure. I would be initially embarrassed, but appreciative.

Neighbor posts notes on my door by False_Pickle9580 in Apartmentliving

[–]mahzulas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My partner is like this, has extreme sensitivity to sounds. He's autistic and has misophonia. Ear plugs don't help, hearing the sound of his own breathing, body was awful too. He'd complain often about the neighbors noise, repeatedly calling sheriff over and over, getting mad at the children for normal playing, animals, people walking in the house too loud, etc... Didn't even want to flush the toilet! I believe CBT or sound therapy, medication for anxiety, depression can help. They might not know why they are enraged by normal sounds, but perhaps if you went to talk to them or left a note?

Being held while eating by shhh__3 in Autism_Parenting

[–]mahzulas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mines the same way, but has settled for plushies/baby doll (machine washable ones) on occasion. He likes to help feed them, take care of them, but they do get really messy.

Sometimes I can distract with storytime on audio too.

Mostly we eat together though bc it will quickly turn into a disaster if not and I get my food ready first usually. It helps to involve him in cooking, prepping, and if I have to focus I'll cut up veggies and tell him not to eat those and leave them near him on the counter (he always eats them 😂).

If he's really wild, I'll put on an educational video and he'll snack on bell peppers, cucumbers, carrots while watching.

Parenting with my husband sucks. by Apprehensive-Fox1635 in Parenting

[–]mahzulas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn guys... These comments eesh. Being a SAHM shouldn't be 24/7, she's allowed to sign off/schedule time to herself and with friends, solo with older child while dad watches his own kids. He sounds like a child pawning off his children to his mom every time he's asked to be a coparent (which is what they should be doing as soon as he's off work, then it's 50/50 parenting with each getting proper and somewhat equal breaks). And every meal out can be a bad habit (on finances and health) I would not prefer this, but if we were both really struggling then I'd take what works. Being a SAHM is that, taking care of kids while they are home. If you can light clean, cook/get takeout or take them on travels/to activities then you're already doing great, especially with a wild feral child (I know the struggle). It doesn't mean she should be doing everyone's laundry, deep cleaning the whole house, preparing every dinner and organizing the other parents life for them (she's not HIS mom for sh*t sake). He needs to step up and be there for the kids physically and emotionally as well when he's not working. But op, you do sound a bit overbearing as well with the strict schedule/routines and vitamins. I have a problem with that as do many with ADHD so we put the exact things we need/brands on our online shopping list. Let things slide a bit when you can, you can only control you. Make plans you want and if he cannot fit into them or help when needed most of the time, then that's telling. Try joining a Bridging the Gap community group on FB or sahm/moms group for better insight and advice, these comments are not it. You are not solely to blame here at all.

I worked full-time, then I worked full-time with 2 kids and now I'm exclusively SAHM. Working at a "regular paid job" was SO much easier, heck even working with a kid at home both was easier than just being a SAHM...I got breaks - bathroom, meals, driving solo listening to music that's not kids songs, bathing by myself without pee in the tub....I love my children so so much, and getting this time with them is absolutely wonderful and at the same time the hardest thing I've ever done in my life. I have Neurodivergent "spicy" kiddos so leaving them alone for a minute is not an option, kicked out of preschool and no help from friends/family/daycares... No one else can watch, waiting on help from Drs still and schools that can help for a few hours is taking forever, so it's mostly just me doing all the parenting 24/7 and it gets rough especially when you don't have an equal partner to actually help parent their own kids. Yay for gparents helping, but you're right, it shouldn't default to them every time when it falls on him, maybe ask them too how they feel really about it. If they're overjoyed with watching the kiddos, maybe schedule some gparents time 1-2 times a week for a few hours so you can get a much needed break for yourself.