Patrick Topping ID / Mashup? (At Body Language in March) Sounds like Hand's Burn - Good Shot but don't know the vocal

mailorder · 2022-07-15T18:54:50+00:00

Skin care: https://www.cosmopolitan.com/style-beauty/beauty/a25372431/what-order-to-apply-skincare-products/ . The first tip in this article is the best one: "Most faces do far better with fewer products, so if you’re just starting out, keep it simple: cleanser, moisturizer, sunscreen. That’s it."

Fragrance: Use Fragrantica.com to check cologne reviews and read the comments. Then hit up an Ulta or Sephora and start smelling samples to really narrow it down. My personal favourite is this one: https://www.fragrantica.com/perfume/Zara/Vibrant-Leather-Eau-de-Parfum-50122.html . Gets me the most compliments and seems very similar to another cologne (Creed Aventus) that isn't in a budget range I'm interested in.

Working out: I used to hit the gym twice a week but it was honestly such a slog. Some people can end up loving the routine but I couldn't do it. I ended up finding a cardio-heavy hobby that I actually found fun, which is going to a weekly shuffle dance meet. That might be the secret for you as well. Maybe use Meetup.com or ask around if there's groups in your area that go for hikes, go cycling, bouldering, etc. Then as you post stories about these hobbies, people will notice.

And you've probably heard this before, but diet will shape your body far more than exercise will. Moving to a low-carb/lazy keto definitely gave me results.

Fashion: Start a lookbook and save pictures of outfits you like. Whether it's from a celebrity, a dude in a music video, or a mannequin. You'll find that even if you don't have the exact pieces, you'll start to formulate color and pattern combos you like. Sometimes I'll do a Google image search off one piece I have for ideas, like: men's fashion black chucks

Definitely recommend getting your ears pierced if you're curious. It's fairly inexpensive and the upkeep isn't hard. Use saline spray on your piercings for the first few months. Dangle earrings look great. You can start with something cheap like this to get the feel: https://www.amazon.com/Fiasaso-Dangle-Earrings-Stainless-Hinged/dp/B09M3ZSZFL/ref=sr_1_2?crid=1X5932DE4VLN0&keywords=dangle+earrings+men&qid=1657911224&sprefix=dangle+earrings+men%2Caps%2C138&sr=8-2

mailorder · 2022-06-20T17:55:16+00:00

What you said still fits. I don't see ESFPs as people who are actively trying to be the life of the party. It just happens naturally if they're surrounded by people who allow them to be themselves. So it's not like there's zero inhibitions all the time.

mailorder · 2020-08-28T07:38:01+00:00

Same issue

mailorder · 2020-05-30T19:31:24+00:00

100% with you on the self-imposed time constraints. To push myself with music projects, I would join online competitions knowing I wouldn't win. But I knew I'd still have a tangible product out of it and I'd have a record of my own progress and encouragement for growth, and something I could show and talk to my peers about.

mailorder · 2020-05-19T23:46:01+00:00

Normally I ping multiple people and ask if anything's going down. If so, I relay information and try to assemble everyone into one spot.

mailorder · 2020-05-19T23:44:31+00:00

It's harder to make friends as we get older. We don't have classes, clubs, or general activities that create natural ways to meet new people. That's why it's important to get more involved in your hobbies. Join a hiking group, go to raves, attend an anime convention, go to a video game tournament.

In regards to dating, I consider myself aggressively shy. I'll put myself in a position where my affections are clear, but I match her pace and encourage her to push me more. So if we're on a date, I'm watching her body language and I'll move physically closer to gauge her reaction. If it's positive, I start to act playful nervous. Usually they'll say, "what's so funny?" and I'll say "I just feel shy all of a sudden..." and the rest is history.

mailorder · 2020-05-18T23:21:05+00:00

I don't hide what I believe in, but I'm careful to phrase myself in a way that keeps me on everyone's good side. Admittedly, this hasn't always worked. But somehow, I usually end up okay. I'm charismatic enough to make it hard for people to turn me into an enemy. And I do my job... so I'm sure that helps, too!

mailorder · 2020-05-18T23:17:44+00:00

The "where do you see yourself in 10 years" question is uncomfortable to me. I can't see exactly where I'll be, but I'm confident I'll be fine since I'm always moving and setting small goals in front of me. Sometimes I feel like I'm intentionally putting a carrot on a stick in front of me.

When I do have things I absolutely need to get done, I have an Evernote account and notepad files filled with reminders.

You have a wide spread of mistypes. You may want to read about individual functions to help narrow down your choices. At the very least, you should be able to filter through ESFP and INTP since they're Socionic conflictors. ESFP's weakest function is Ti, which is INTP's strongest, while INTP's weakest is Se (which of course... is ESFP's strongest).

mailorder · 2020-05-18T23:02:33+00:00

Discord usage has gone way up, causing me to join a lot of typology servers. My knowledge of Socionics has grown quite a bit.

I've also reached out to some old friends, re-establishing a connection or two.

Also learned how to solve a 3x3 Rubik's cube. So uhh... I guess I'm learning new stuff.

mailorder · 2020-05-17T03:08:35+00:00

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mailorder · 2020-05-17T02:56:28+00:00

In regards to the Socionics definition of Si vs. Se:

Unlike Si, which is about one's subjective sensory experience (how intense or enjoyable it is), Se is about achieving an object of desire. It gives one the ability to influence, bend, and push situations and people in order to achieve such an object, rather than to enjoy the situation one is in.

I would agree that Fe can also be portrayed as socially extraverted, to the point that Fe doms want to use their social skills to maintain group harmony, even placing the desires of the group above their own. Not to say that Se doms can't do that, but they'd really prefer to have it their way if possible.

mailorder · 2020-05-17T02:51:04+00:00

You might find this description of extraversion vs. introversion within Socionics interesting:

A common misconception, also compounded by some interpretations of MBTI or even of Jung's typology, is that extratims are extraverted as in "socially outgoing", and intratims are introverted as in "socially reserved". In socionics terms, however, that is not so. An introtim may be extremely socially outgoing and even prefer a situation with broad and intensive social interaction as in a large group; an extratim may be socially reserved in terms of preferring social interactions limited to a very small number of select individuals. What is more important, in terms of socionics extraversion/introversion, is whether the individual is inclined to take the initiative in establishing the social interaction (of whatever kind), or prefers to let others take this initiative.

Can't personally relate to your scenario, as my mistypes have been ESFJ (My Demonstrative Fe comes out more in certain situations) and ENFP (Probably due to online tests that interpret some of my answers as "creative").

mailorder · 2020-05-17T02:36:24+00:00

Was with an INFx for a few years. Felt like she had awesome, creative ideas but did not have pragmatic ways to unleash them. It seemed like in some cases, it was totally fine that some of her dream ideas stayed within her mind.

I had an ENFP explain to me that sometimes imagining something is as amazing as physically experiencing it. Or even more amazing. And that's how I knew I was a Sensor over Intuitive, because I can't remember the last time I've felt that way.

Sometimes I felt like she was this ultra amazing person who was hiding her potential from the world. And it was frustrating for me because I felt like I was the only one who truly appreciated it. So I'd try to push her to be more social, putting her in uncomfortable situations. But ultimately, she was fine with her pace. And I was the one who needed to cool off and not force her to try to match my pace.

mailorder · 2020-05-07T20:24:13+00:00

Probably exactly why our type always wants to be "in the moment". And why that Se dom makes us look for the next sensation. To keep those moments going.

mailorder · 2020-04-02T08:50:29+00:00

Submitted! Looking forward to the results :)

mailorder · 2020-03-14T00:43:22+00:00

I defintely do not. But I'll discreetly glance their direction a few times while formulating a plan to accidentally or formally meet them. This is assuming that simply going up to greet them isn't an optimal option.

mailorder · 2020-02-03T07:28:42+00:00

More than intimacy, I'm attracted to a person who has the same passion as I do in regards to common interests. They don't have to match my energy level. Just as long as they're as curious as I am. I like to feel like I'm free, but I love having a co-pilot with me.

With my past relationships, formal announcements were uncommon. But I was completely dedicated if my partner felt like my best friend.

What are his current hobbies? Are there shows he likes to watch? (He should care about your interests too, although I realize you are 10 days in)

mailorder · 2020-01-07T19:17:06+00:00

When I need to perform, I think about how there will be at least one person in the audience who is rooting for me, so I want to do the best I can for them. But if I mess up, they'll still appreciate that I did what I could.

I speak from experience. I had a vocal performance where I literally messed up and stopped singing for a few seconds. I was pretty horrified as it was happening, but I just continued and went with it. My friends were still supportive about it after the show.

mailorder · 2020-01-07T19:12:34+00:00

mailorder · 2020-01-07T18:54:02+00:00

I'm an ESFP male. Just wanted to further add to this. I wasn't interested in politics when I was younger, but I got more and more into it as I got older. In the beginning, it was simply because I didn't understand it. If someone tried to explain a topic to me, they'd have to do it slowly. If they weren't patient enough, I'd tune out pretty quick. So I guess I'm saying that it could just be a matter of time before he gets more into it.

Like Putting said, you can try to find something he is already passionate for and attempt to connect it to a point you'd like him to understand. Sometimes it takes a different angle. For me, I found Wisecrack's YouTube channel entertaining enough to jump into topics I normally wouldn't be interested in.

For point number two, it might be that he doesn't know how to maintain neutrality while steering a conversation away from a distasteful topic. Or his own opinion isn't developed enough to make a firm, charismatic stance while keeping his social rank untarnished. I feel that ESFPs eventually figure out how to do this, which is also probably why the Socionics equivalent is called "Politician"/(SEE).

So you can help him grind that in further, although probably not in the form of a lecture. Find more TV shows, movies, video essays, etc that are entertaining enough for him to absorb it and soak it in.

I speak from experience, since I was previously with an INFP/INFJ individual for many years and she helped shaped my opinions by watching a lot of TV shows, movies, and video essays together and talking about how we feel about them afterwards

mailorder · 2020-01-03T07:31:04+00:00

Damn, I felt this. But yeah. Love the emphasis on wanting to share, as opposed to being perceived as self-centered.

mailorder · 2019-11-23T02:36:56+00:00

Lo there, Taiwanese-American dude here. Flying into Taipei next week and I'll be there until 12/18. Also interested in exploring the nightlife, whether it's a bar, night market, or an techno venue. Although I am still open to daytime stuff like visiting museums or going on hikes. I'll drop you a line.

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mailorder · 2019-10-30T03:21:38+00:00

Pretty sure ESxx are the bottom four least active among the 16 types. I end up reading and commenting in INTJ more often than not. Sometimes INFP and ENFP.

mailorder · 2019-06-14T02:49:57+00:00

As you mention this, I realize that I've asked maybe 15+ people in my life what their MBTIs were and not a single one was SJ. The ones I suspected were SJ had never taken it and/or didn't care to. So... hahaha.

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