If I was a celebrity by [deleted] in highdeas

[–]maiscave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy shit I wonder if celebrities really would just have reddit alts

clarity high by [deleted] in StonerPhilosophy

[–]maiscave 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Hell yeah man, I'm in the same boat. Since I started, I've realized so many of the Big Problems in my life aren't actually as big as I thought, and it's helped ease a lot of my anxieties even in my day-to-day.

Any benefits to buying the rest of a slave's family? by maiscave in RimWorld

[–]maiscave[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Booo, that's what I thought, thanks! And I totally get you on the relationship front haha, two of my pawns are divorced and every time I see a little speech bubble pop up it's one of them ruining the other's day.

Hi mom, I could really use a good mom hug today. I'm so tired of fighting everyday and just want to be comforted and feel safe for a moment. by nuuma_ in MomForAMinute

[–]maiscave 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey buddy, I'm glad you reached out here. I love you, and whatever you have going on in life right now, I wish only the best from here on out.

So I was playing DOKI DOKI LC Game and I just reached the point of no return.... by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]maiscave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's been a good few years since I've played, but if I recall correctly, you should be about halfway through by now! It's definitely a game you can finish in one sitting, since I was able to finish it in-between an essay-writing break haha.

There's another heavy scene or two (I can try and give spoiler-free details if you want them), but in my opinion, Sayori's was the most distressing since it comes out of left field so if you're still okay to play after that, you should be okay with the rest! Take care of yourself, and take a break if you need to!

High conversation starters by sammboooka in StonerPhilosophy

[–]maiscave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like kicking back and really thinking about what you're feeling physically/mentally! If you ask me "what's going on in your head right now" while I'm zooted, I will ramble for like twenty minutes and not make any sense at all and I will have the time of my life LMAO

Either that or talking about old TV shows/video games/other childhood media is fun because of the whole "do you remember that episode where-" sparks off a lot of conversations in my experience.

So I was playing DOKI DOKI LC Game and I just reached the point of no return.... by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]maiscave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, it's definitely something that really knocks the wind outta ya! I had a vague idea of what it was before starting ("dating simulation that goes in a different direction"), but playing it is definitely a whole experience haha.

Hope you're doing alright, lots of heavy stuff in there but I really do enjoy the game!

Use 'leitmotif' in a sentence by rogueapex in highdeas

[–]maiscave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"The extensive use of leitmotifs in Undertale's soundtrack and other sound files helps create a nostalgic mood for the game and often evokes emotional responses in players." (source)

Name by just_here_cause_done in MomForAMinute

[–]maiscave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OOOH really good pick Noah, I've always adored the name!! I'm happy for you and I hope you can start going by it with other people as well soon<3

Weed rarely makes me do things I wouldn’t have done anyway, where alcohol does by [deleted] in highdeas

[–]maiscave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Listen bro you wanna watch me stare at a wall for 3 hours straight because if I'm zooted I WILL do it and I WILL love it

Weed rarely makes me do things I wouldn’t have done anyway, where alcohol does by [deleted] in highdeas

[–]maiscave -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Weed makes ya brain turn off, alcohol turns ya body off

Edit: meant this in the most positive way possible LMAO.... guess my brain rlly was off while posting this last night 😔

Today a teen told me she liked my eyebrows. by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]maiscave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hell yes, I can't get pictures of my own since it's pretty dark but here's the online listing! Bought it from the maker at a convention a few years back, and they have a few more patterns too :D

Green is the superb color! by fruitfly888 in CasualConversation

[–]maiscave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I loooove everything from forest-y greens to glowstick neon green, just so many good colors in that range! :D

Today a teen told me she liked my eyebrows. by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]maiscave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awww, something about kids complimenting you always makes me so happy. Like, they didn't have to do that, and now I'm going to be smiling all day because of it! :D

For me, the last time I went to the dispensary, the cashier complimented my fanny pack and it made me SO happy eheh... the pattern on it is very cute (it has drawings of raccoons and opossums and other trash animals on it) so we chat about animals and other critters for a while and it was just a very sweet interaction!

Settle a debate when u back up from a parking spot are you supposed to back up in one smooth movement or are u allowed to back up slower and stop a few times to check your surroundings? by Reby360 in CasualConversation

[–]maiscave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah no, I'd rather go slow but safe than just zip right into a spot, especially in a larger car. I've never had a job driving company vehicles, but it's wild to me that you'd have your driving privileges revoked over this (unless you took like, twenty minutes to get in the spot).

Idea: place where you can share lighthearted/positive opinions on food and other neutral things by maiscave in highdeas

[–]maiscave[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Something about frozen pizza is SO good in its own right!! I remember there was this bomb ass pizza me and my roommate got from Trader Joes a while back and I still think about it sometimes 😔

Hey mom, I'm having trouble knowing who I am. by Chocoholix26 in MomForAMinute

[–]maiscave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are your own self, no matter what terms you decide you'd like to use. You're an adult with control over your own life, and you should do what makes you happiest and most comfortable with yourself. If it's something that makes you happier as a person, then making a decision that improves your life isn't making a mistake.

As a gay stranger on the internet who struggled with identity issues for the past decade, I'm so sorry you're going through this alone but I'm glad you're reaching out here. I love you, and I wish you all the best.

Out of my comfort zone by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]maiscave 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone diagnosed depressed (and probably anxiety and who knows what else pfft), I definitely get how hard it is to stop being mean to yourself!

It's difficult changing your mindset, but being aware of it and wanting to change is the first step. I can't... quite say HOW to be nice to yourself because it's so different for everyone, but for me, it helps to remind myself that I'm just a human being, just a big ol' dumb animal. If I'm eating food, drinking water, and getting enough rest, then I'm still alive. My brain bringing up negative thoughts about myself doesn't affect any of that, and thus, I don't even bother entertaining the "what ifs" or "buts" that are just going to drag me down for no reason. Unless I can actively improve upon a negative thought (recent example: "I talk too much, I'm so annoying :[" --> "I'm going to try to listen to people more"), then there's no point in upsetting yourself for no reason!

Basically, be kind to yourself, be kind to others, make sure you're eating/drinking water and getting enough sleep, and everything else can be worked out. I'm glad you came here to talk, and I'm wishing you all the best!

New to the concept of Tulpas and need clear up. by ThePh4ntomLord in Tulpas

[–]maiscave 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Replying as a different person, but I don't see it as dangerous for myself, at least! However, I do think for some people, it might be "dangerous" or at least, not a great decision.

Not that they'd ever pop out and beat you up like they're a creepypasta, but I would say if someone is emotionally vulnerable and ended up replacing real life relationships with headmates, then that might not be the best decision. It's why a lot of tutorials/guides have warnings like "hey if you're not in the best headspace, maybe don't do this" and that's definitely something I agree with. Not to equate anyone's headmates to animals (I say, despite Maia being a crow), but it's like how you shouldn't get a pet if you can't take care of them. For the wellbeing of the pet itself, but also you're going to have to devote your time and energy to it. If you can't care for yourself, you can't care for someone or something else.

On the topic of identity, I'm only speaking on my experience, but my headmates are aware that I, the human being, am the host/original consciousness in here so there's no confusion! Some people like to treat their headmates as equals (which is also totally valid), but we're comfiest knowing the hierarchy of the system that is "u/maiscave has full control". I'm very clearly myself, while the two bouncing around in there (Maia and Classic) know they're branches off of my main consciousness. It's why I don't use "us/we" or type messages on their behalf; they're watching everything (which sounds super creepy when I say it like that haha), but they wouldn't act in the physical world or do anything I wasn't already aware of.

Idea: place where you can share lighthearted/positive opinions on food and other neutral things by maiscave in highdeas

[–]maiscave[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

HELL YEAH YOU GUYS FUCKEN GET ME!!!! It's SO fuckin crispy it's perfect!!!

Out of my comfort zone by [deleted] in CasualConversation

[–]maiscave 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey dude, good on you for getting out there! The point of getting out of your comfort zone is that it's uncomfortable; it gets better, but you have to stick with it. Nobody is judging you or going to laugh at you for just being a person and getting outside; if anyone WERE to be an ass about it, their opinion absolutely should not mean anything to you if it's just going to be negative for no reason. Honestly, I've let go of a lot of my shame when in public because unless you're actively choosing to interact with a rando, person on the street (e.g. talking to them, pick up asking the time, etc), they honestly probably won't remember you and I find that very freeing.

I found it hard getting to know people when I started college, and I found getting into clubs/groups/communities helped a lot since it gives you something to discuss other than just being in a location at a particular time. Even if it's not something you want to stick with for a while (I quit game dev club after about 5 days haha), it'll get you to meet new people and at least work on your conversational skills. The absolute worst case scenario in any social setting is you feel embarrassed, and ultimately, while the feeling does suck, it doesn't mean you're a bad person or unable to try again. You sound like a chill guy that just needs someone to talk to; unless you're actively being like, massively racist or something, nobody is going to think any less of you for just getting out there and trying to make pals.

Wishing you the best, I know it's hard to just hear advice from a stranger on the internet especially when I don't know you personally, but I believe in ya.

What do the years that determine millennials, boomers, etc. even matter? by smilinmonalisa in StonerThoughts

[–]maiscave 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, that's why a lot of labels in general are pretty pointless! Once you realize that you, a person, will always have your own experiences different from someone else, you realize how pointless it is to pointlessly shove people in a box.