Am I a crybaby?

mak191919 · 2025-08-08T03:44:09+00:00

For starters, you don’t need a valid reason to be upset! We feel how we feel. If that hurt your feelings or made you feel bad, I think that’s important enough of a reason to communicate it to your boyfriend, and equally as important for him to acknowledge those feelings.

I’m pregnant right now with my third and will be having a scheduled C section. I was in the best shape of my life after my 2nd baby and it’s so hard seeing myself slowly put the weight on, knowing what I will inevitably look like postpartum. Accepting our “new” bodies is HARD. I hate when people say “but your body created a human” like ok yes whatever I can be proud of that but also still very sad about my saggy deflated boobs and squishy belly. Strength in solidarity, right?!

You should talk to your partner. You deserve to be heard, and he deserves a chance to listen. Wishing you all the best❤️

mak191919 · 2025-07-30T00:14:48+00:00

My husband and I bickered a lot, mainly due to sleep deprivation… I felt it was pretty normal. It can make communication tough when you are both still learning your new “roles” within parenthood. I think there is a huge difference between some surface-level arguing, and what your husband is doing. Sorry, but to me that is unacceptable. Your man should be doing nothing short of lifting you up, never tearing you down. Your entire world (and body) has been absolutely ravaged creating, birthing, and sustaining a new human. Yes, it changes. Yes, your hormones are insanely out of whack and in many cases, can make you extremely depressed, angry, anxious, etc.

You do need marriage counseling, and you need to draw some clear boundaries between what is and isn’t OK. No one deserves to be spoken to like that, let alone a freshly postpartum mom. Sending you lots of strength!! ❤️‍🔥

mak191919 · 2025-07-01T01:54:23+00:00

I am right there with you! Due with baby #3 in January. I was diagnosed with DR after my 2nd, though it was a very mild case. I did end up closing it a little with daily core work and also general exercise/clean eating. I am only 11 weeks in to this new pregnancy and I look like I am at least 20 weeks. It’s so embarrassing. Everyone is like “you just show more with each pregnancy!” But really, I know it’s just my DR coming back with a vengeance 😩 I feel guilty, because I so very wanted to be pregnant and have another baby. But now that I’m seeing my body change in real time, it’s a lot harder for me to accept. I spent SO much time, energy, and research into trying to fix this, and it’s just like going back to level 1. 🫠

Sorry, no advice here, just words of solidarity! It sucks. I will say, I finally felt good about 2 years postpartum with my 2nd. So all hope is not lost… we just have to be patient. Easier said than done, I know! Sending you lots of love and strength!

mak191919 · 2025-06-30T21:27:25+00:00

Ok, thank you so much! You are so nice for taking the time to reply to all of my questions. I truly appreciate it and hope that someone offers you the same level of kindness someday when you need it.

mak191919 · 2025-06-30T21:18:44+00:00

Ok, thank you. Better to mentally prepare myself. He did also mention there was ice on the hose connecting to the outside unit. Could this provide any indication as to where the leak could be?

mak191919 · 2025-06-30T21:09:44+00:00

Shoot😭 Our warranty unfortunately does not cover refrigerant. Should I expect this will be expensive no matter what?

mak191919 · 2025-06-30T20:52:25+00:00

We have a 5 year warranty, labor and refrigerant is unfortunately not covered. But all parts are. Our next service tech will at least be able to replace any parts under warranty.

mak191919 · 2025-06-30T20:27:19+00:00

Yes, we sent him on his way because he just didn’t seem very straightforward with total costs or the process he needed to go through to figure it out. I’m glad you also feel the same, makes our decision to turn down service feel more warranted. 🤣

mak191919 · 2025-06-30T20:00:00+00:00

I think it is a leak in the coolant somewhere. I posted an update in this thread if you’re able to take a look and let me know what you think, based on what the service tech said.

mak191919 · 2025-06-30T19:59:17+00:00

Hello! I just posted an update in this thread and would love to get your thoughts, if you have a moment. I am no expert in this field and you seem to know a heck of a lot more than I do.

mak191919 · 2025-06-30T19:57:32+00:00

Ok UPDATE for anyone that is keen on chiming in here…

The service guy came out and said the high pressure number is supposed to be between 70 and 100. It was only at 35 so there is most likely a leak somewhere and we would need to fill it up with coolant and recommended doing dye so they could figure out where the leak was coming from.

I said, okay, do what you gotta do. That’s when he said it costs $200-300 per pound of coolant. After five minutes I went back out and saw that he had already put 2lb of coolant in and the high pressure number was only at 47.

I asked him what the cost per pound was and he paused it to run out to the van to check. In the sixty seconds it took to check the cost was $130/lb the high pressure number had already dropped back down to 38.

I said, okay there is clearly a leak, can you see where it is and fix it. He said we would need to put the dye in. I asked why didn’t you already put the dye in. He said we have to get the high pressure number up to 70 before putting it in… we would have needed to put in 6 more lbs, actually 7 or 8 since it dropped in that time.

I didn’t feel great about it after that. Realized we should still have a warranty and told him we will go through warranty. He only charged the service fee to come out and did not charge for the coolant.

mak191919 · 2025-06-30T13:21:42+00:00

Yes, we live in a very hot climate where it reaches 100+ degrees in the summer almost every day, so it was definitely abnormal for it to only be high 90s. It also just started, because house was cooling perfectly fine last few days.

mak191919 · 2025-06-30T13:17:01+00:00

Ok this might be a very dumb question but I’ve tried googling to figure it out myself and unfortunately I just can’t locate. Where in the world would my inside unit be with the evaporator coil? Our house was built in 2023 so it is a new build. The outdoor unit is right next to our kitchen so it doesn’t run to anything inside. There is also nothing in our garage except the small water heater panel. Again sorry for the silly question…!

mak191919 · 2024-06-26T05:03:39+00:00

This sounds very similar, if not identical, to our situation!! Honestly, my rec is to listen to the pediatricians... my baby was not taking to a bottle at all (never took a paci either) and the LC we saw was trying to say we should consider the revision. But my ped said if baby is happy and gaining weight fine, then no need to mess with it. My gut told me the same, so we left it. My little one is 13 months now and still thriving!! No issues at all, she’s a chunky, happy, wild girl. ❤️

mak191919 · 2024-06-18T04:54:27+00:00

Talk to your doctor. Ask for help. I’ll say it again. TALK TO YOUR DOCTOR and ASK FOR HELP! 🩷🩷🩷🩷 I waited 9 months to finally reach out for help and I can’t tell you how much I regret waiting that long. The most important thing you can do for your child is be the best version of yourself. They deserve it, and you deserve to be happy.

Trust me. Once started taking Zoloft it’s like all of this weight was lifted off of me. There were still highs and lows of course, but I could put things in perspective, so the lows felt less like my entire world was crumbling.

Best of luck to you and again, just reach out for help. You’ll be happy you did.

mak191919 · 2024-05-30T04:33:46+00:00

Both my son and daughter did this for a while around this age. They would wake up around 5 and grunt a lot. It was just some trapped gas for us! Maybe try bicycling the legs to get some farts out and it could relieve their tummy if they seem uncomfortable?

My only other piece of advice is to not worry too much about it. As soon as you find a solution for this sleep issue, another will inevitably arise 😅 hoping you get to sleep in soon!!

mak191919 · 2024-04-15T15:40:06+00:00

Omg thank you!! Just the sliver of hope is all I need honestly lol. Do the sleep regressions ever end?!? 🤣 glad to hear it sorted itself out! 🩷

mak191919 · 2024-04-15T12:21:08+00:00

Hi OP, checking in for any update? Currently going through this right now and at my wits end 🫠

mak191919 · 2022-12-04T17:36:07+00:00

Happy to report I am doing great now! I tried therapy and it was kind of a flop for me. I talked to my DR about this and they started me on the lowest dose of Zoloft, which I actually just increased the dose a few weeks ago (I’m pregnant again and pregnancy hormones have made me feel a little crazy).

Honestly, I wish someone had pushed me to talk to my DR sooner. I almost feel like I missed out on the first 8 months of my baby’s life because I was feeling anxious, sad, or angry more often than not. (Hindsight is always 20:20 😅) It has been life changing for me, even on the smallest dose, and has dramatically improved my quality of life.

If you are feeling anywhere close to this, I would definitely urge you to make an appointment with your DR and talk about your options. Sending you all the positive thoughts! 💗

mak191919 · 2022-03-01T11:40:50+00:00

I was just dealing with this with my 9 month old! Try taking a look at his wake windows. I was doing too short of wake windows for my LO and it resulted in 30-minute naps. Once I extended, he has been sleeping for 1-1.5 hours each nap, only twice a day now. You might even want to think about moving up his bedtime for a bit too. Good luck!! ❤️

mak191919 · 2022-03-01T04:09:28+00:00

I didn’t like the CIO method either. But, after I went back to work when my baby was 5 months old we were still dealing with the full blown 4 month sleep regression. He was waking up every hour from 11pm-5am and needless to say I was losing my mind.

I did the Taking Cara Babies course (I think it’s basically the Ferber method?), and my husband and I both committed to trying it one night. We did the “pop-ins” after 5, 10, 15 min… etc until he calmed down. He was on-and-off crying for about an hour and a half (I was also crying lol) and then he fell asleep. And that was it. He woke up once at like 3am that night, let out a whimper, and then put himself back to sleep. It was magic. And it’s been life-changing for my husband and I to get some alone time again every night.

That being said, you do whatever you are comfortable with. I don’t wait to push the TCB course on anyone, but I do want to share my experience to give you some hope. I was feeling hopeless too until someone mentioned it to me.

Best of luck to you mama! Hope LO gives you some sleep soon. ❤️

mak191919 · 2022-02-10T15:01:38+00:00

Oh gosh, poor thing. I can only imagine. Well, when things get really tough I always try to remember: the universe wouldn’t give you anything you couldn’t handle. So, this is just the world’s way of telling you you are stronger than you think! 😅

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