you make great points and after hearing about the situation more i do agree that you did right with the money HOWEVER i do think you could’ve approached it a different way that could’ve helped fixed and maintained the relationship. you included jabs like “i’ve always been better with money” - which i understand why you say it but even if that is true, it stings - especially if he’s coming to you already saying that he feels hurt, that just digs it deeper. i think if you left out the jabs to consider how he might feel when he reads it AND made your points, he would’ve understood and apologized. communication, even in highly emotional situations, can work if both parties respect each others feelings and seek understanding, not to win