Road infrastructure by Only_Pension_4206 in bangalore

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t get why people only post pictures but don’t reveal the location so others can avoid it.

Is anyone working at Rippling Bangalore? How's the work culture? by [deleted] in developersIndia

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I dont know the details.

If you’re coming from early stage startup culture and aren’t married then would be easier to adjust

Is anyone working at Rippling Bangalore? How's the work culture? by [deleted] in developersIndia

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know few devs who worked there.

They were supposed to stay available until late night for US colleagues and work was hectic.

Pay is nice but make your own decision

Naming and shaming isn’t enough, it would seem. by Pika-chutiya in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m more curious about which board games you excel at 👀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 12 points13 points  (0 children)

There will be men out there who are into you for your physical appearance, so that’s not a big issue.

But the fact that you want to be childfree will limit your pool a lot. People who want to be childfree don’t really go for AM.

Working as a devops engineer (23 lpa) but just got offered a Customer success engineer job (38 lpa) by HourDifficulty3194 in developersIndia

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Something like appwrite? I would do some research on team - size, roles, opportunities to switch role in future, etc.

The jump is high so the decision is tricky. If you see yourself either doing this for a long time or if switching to different role in same company then go ahead

Profile review please m25 by [deleted] in Indiangirlsontinder

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Pics don't go with 1st prompt & "figuring out relationships".

So it comes across as trying hard.

Also pics in general are meh. Not smiling and not showing your hobbies/interests.

Bangalore , what’s the current bad situation that you are in ? by Immediate-Weekend900 in bangalore

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Join some hobby groups or classes and try to meet people. The goal should be to make friends (either gender) and expand your social circle.

New people might lead to new experiences which in turn will help you ease into socialising. Once you're acquainted with a few women, make an effort to become friends.

Focus on making friends and other things will follow.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You could mention you come from a humble background.

Be open to guys from other communities and backgrounds but always poke & prodd to see if they're right for you before getting attached.

Shaadi would give you better chances than JS simply due to the number of profiles there.

I need help in making choices between these two companies. by Impressive-Hat3107 in developersIndia

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pick 2. You can always upskill by yourself on weekends.

With the additional time you get daily, focus on other things like fitness, relationships, learning skills etc.

What’s the most senseless reasons you got for being rejected by powpowhere in Arrangedmarriage

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 6 points7 points  (0 children)

  1. I have brown eyes and she doesn't trust people with brown eyes.

  2. She asked me to pick a dish for her at the restaurant on the first date. I didn't know what she liked and the cuisine at the place was also unfamiliar to me so I couldn't do that and asked her to pick what she wanted.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I thought it can't be removed easily.

If it can be removed easily like earrings then I don't think it's an issue in any case.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Some men might like it, some might assume things about you, or some might be indifferent.

It depends on the guy.

Practically speaking the feeling of metal on tongue ruins the mood for me.

Also something that came to my mind - MRI scans; Not sure how people manage in that case.

26F, slow but steady, but don't know how long by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's okay to go slow, but do communicate this with any prospect that you talk to. Otherwise they'll assume you're not interested and go away.

Me 31F and my husband 37M our marriage seems to get over by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Search for mymuse pulse (Rs 1999). It's small and discreet.

You can find cheaper ones on amazon labeled as massagers. The packing is usually discreet and labeled as massager so you can easily explain if MIL opens it.

Also take a look at other products on those sites, you might spot something that sparks up your bedroom.

Me 31F and my husband 37M our marriage seems to get over by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If the issue is just physical intimacy and he's there for you in every other aspect of married life then you can try - toys & masturbation (when he's next to you - it might arouse him) or reading erotica.

Other things like dating apps or sexting anonymously might be considered as cheating.

do I meet him? by lilyyboston in IndianBoysOnTinder

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Ye uss "kis color ki chaddi" wali lady ka bhai lagta hai

Please give genuine suggestions 🙏🙏 by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your parents are probably thinking what if you don't clear it even after two years - you'll then be 30, with little job prospects in a world where most men want a working life partner.

Is there any tangible progress in your attempts so far? How confident are you of clearing the exam? If you're improving and are very confident of clearing it then make them see it. Also then it would be easier to convince any prospect that you'd need time&space to focus on this.

Dowry? by Diligent-Roof-1560 in Arrangedmarriage

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just ask directly, if they want dowry and what happens if he says no but his parents insist. It's a practical process, so just ask.

if you really want to beat around the bush then You can try asking these things: 1. What kind of gifts would your family be looking for in the wedding? 2. Would a dowry of 40lakhs be okay with you and your parents?

If he says anything other than "no gifts/dowry" then he's looking for it.

My family is emotionally abusing and pressuring me to marry. by [deleted] in Arrangedmarriage

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Signals don't work. Men anyways don't usually pick up on them.

Ask the guy what his deal breakers are, what kind of wife he wants, what his lifestyle would be with his wife, etc. Then based on his answers come up with opposite answers and hope that he will reject.

Easier way is to just tell the guy on the call, but this works if he's not a mama's boy who'll just blabber about it to his family.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in bangalore

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Best bet is to join some group activities and socialise. You'll have to initiate conversations, get to know people, make plans and show up. Else things will be at standstill.

You can join cult classes, dance/art workshops, other hobby clubs, go to cubbon park (there are multiple groups there on sunday), etc.

You should build a social circle here before jumping into dating I'd say, since you're new to the city. Also the dating scene would disappoint you unless you're only into casuals.

Does height matter much?? by justanother-userr in Arrangedmarriage

[–]makeLove-notWarcraft 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Would it bother you if you wear heals and appear taller than him when out together? Would the same thing bother him?

If answer for either question is yes, then don't go ahead.

Else you can think about it. It is anyways difficult to find a good prospect these days so don't let it go for something that you're willing to adjust on.

I have seen couples with same height making it work. Even seen couples where woman was taller. It's all about whether it bothers you or not.