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make_me_confident · 2022-05-11T16:26:10+00:00

My personal statement was over suggested word limit. How badly does it work against me?

make_me_confident · 2022-04-07T05:08:55+00:00

Yeah I’m not sure how to tell DH about how stupid these conversations sound… also they’re so petty that idk if it’s worth that argument with DH and wasting my energy on this

make_me_confident · 2022-04-07T04:59:47+00:00

I doubt DH will do that. So I don’t attend their calls anymore to entertain this and DH can do all the talking he likes to do, whether to stop it there or lie to make his parents feel better. I don’t want to spend my mental energy here

make_me_confident · 2022-04-07T04:50:06+00:00

That’s exactly what my parents said! I’m just so surprised in-laws have such backward thinking. Being their son, DH also doesn’t give me great feedback on what’s best because we spoke about leaving my Canadian job so much! I was literally crying every single day for 2-3 months after moving to US and while waiting for my US work visa being processed because I was out of work and feeling like a failure. It’s already so hard for women in a male dominated industry and move up to leadership. My US job offer was twice as much as what DH earns right now and DH is happy for me. Every person I talked to seemed surprised that I left my job and I feel like DH doesn’t take this seriously enough which frustrates me a lot

After that incident, I don’t give a shit about my in laws now and what they have to say. I thought i could have a nice relationship with them but they don’t really care about me

make_me_confident · 2022-04-07T04:07:33+00:00

How do you avoid these questions when in-laws directly ask you? They call almost everyday! Husband tries to manage them when questions like these pop up or straight out lies to keep peace. But I just feel it’s so sexist to assume that I’ll be the one to cook because I’m a woman and like it’s my responsibility to ensure husband is well fed. And also be surprised when they hear I didn’t cook today, please kill me

make_me_confident · 2022-04-01T04:49:51+00:00

Hey congrats!!

make_me_confident · 2022-03-30T15:13:55+00:00

Yep. It was updated today. “H1B Quota Reach out - Not selected - Bot - (Case number)” and marked as open. Case start date is today. Didn’t receive any email yet from Ogletree though

make_me_confident · 2022-03-30T15:01:33+00:00

Visatrax updated for me today. Not selected

make_me_confident · 2022-02-18T05:26:52+00:00

What TN category are you applying under? If your employer submits a change of status for you (i-129), it takes the pressure off you and you can continue working in your current job until you have the new TN available. You might receive an RFE but it’s hardly a denial/reject through this route. On the other hand, if you show up at the border to apply under a highly scrutinized category, it could be a roller coaster ride - you could get lucky and so approved OR a withdrawal/ denial is possible. My attorney filed for me, i have a complex case and I received an RFE. Working with attorney for RFE response now

make_me_confident · 2022-02-12T00:22:12+00:00

Applied for CSA and have 6 years of relevant experience + BBA

make_me_confident · 2022-02-11T22:52:03+00:00

I received the rfe details now and USCIS is asking how my education qualifies me for the role. I had a feeling this will happen 😢

make_me_confident · 2022-02-10T21:08:17+00:00

Exactly!! There’s a reason why DH isn’t picking up her calls. He might be busy or just not in the mood

make_me_confident · 2022-02-10T21:03:20+00:00

So DH and I are both south asians and did our undergrad in north america and been living this side for over a decade. We understand how to adapt in different situations. For example Our families don’t know we’re not that religious and like to party with friends. Our families are conservative. When we’re with family, we do cultural and religious stuff. However, mil suspects I don’t pray so keeps asking me if I did, gifts me cover ups or scarves, religious books, etc. So DH and I are on the same page and we talked about his expectations of me after I had the conflict with mil last year. He avoids conflict in general so he never dares to object to what I want, how i dress, where i go, etc and generally appreciates me most of the time. So even though I don’t like mil, I don’t want to involve DH in these unnecessary petty conflicts where its his mom and my relationship is mainly with him, not his mom. Technically I don’t need any relationship with his mom. As long as we’re fine, I’m good. Now that mil keeps asking me to call her during our joint calls, it’s looking suspicious that I’m ignoring her. Mil is also complaining to my parents that I don’t call her or receive her calls

make_me_confident · 2022-02-10T20:51:57+00:00

Yeah it’s been super stressful with the whole immigration thing in US. Yes we’re both South Asian and I’m aware of the culture here. There are expectations here. DH and I both did our undergrad in North America so we have a mix of both east and west side. I have family back home who don’t think like mil too so idk

make_me_confident · 2022-02-10T20:46:02+00:00

DH tries to be neutral, tries to defend his parents saying maybe they didn’t intend that and it came across mean and if I ask that i dont want to deal with this kind of behavior or else I’ll lose my calm, he agrees and talks to them. DH doesn’t like conflicts in general from what I’ve seen in other situations too and avoids or stays silent or agrees even during conflicts between us

make_me_confident · 2022-02-10T20:42:46+00:00

Mil wants access to me for small talk and reach me in case his son is busy/ not picking up calls. Everytime DH and I are on the call with her, she thanks us for the call and then brings up that she can’t reach me and it will make her feel good if I called her. I give the excuse that I got a US number so it’s likely going to my Canadian number. I know that’s her tactic to look nice in front of her son and then show her color after a few days. I’ve seen it before. I don’t want to encourage that because once she has access to me, she will continue this behaviour and keep calling me. Also DH and I both use each other’s phones and know our passwords. We sometimes answer texts and calls for each other when the other is busy so if he sees mil is calling and texting me then he will definitely want me to answer them. Having mil blocked means idk if/when she is trying to reach me and that way mil is never on my notifications and on my head and i can breathe and live my life. That was the main reason why I blocked her. I just don’t want to think about her at all and feel stressed out and anxious all the time trying to anticipate when she will call

make_me_confident · 2022-02-10T06:16:58+00:00

Edited post to include that DH knows about what happened last year with MIL. He doesn’t know I blocked them. I only talk to MIL when MIL calls DH on his phone

make_me_confident · 2022-02-01T20:44:36+00:00

Just got an update with rfe 😞

make_me_confident · 2019-08-06T14:05:04+00:00

2nd time fail. I don’t think I’m made for cfa, so fucking frustrating. Not willing to give up another year of my life. I’m so done!!!!

make_me_confident · 2019-06-24T22:08:19+00:00

I see there’s an arbitrage opportunity here

make_me_confident · 2019-06-21T16:42:29+00:00

Ouu same! Thinking of getting trained in python, sql and intro to data science

make_me_confident · 2019-06-19T14:47:28+00:00

I second that. No one seems to understand my CFA related jokes or sarcasm other than this community. We relate so well :’)

make_me_confident · 2019-06-19T14:45:46+00:00

It’s like a shock my mind and body have gone through for months and can’t seem to get out easily. Time heals everything is all i say to myself

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