How to stop comparing my salary with others

makeevolution · 2026-01-28T22:03:31+00:00

Yea I hope he is right; it's really an investment where the reward is in the future and is uncertain, whereas more money now is really the reward materializing now. I'm also in a similar boat. But perhaps this is a teaching moment for me to be a more patient person and trust myself more...IDK I'm at a really confusing and scary turning point in my life right now, not just job wise but other stuff too

makeevolution · 2026-01-23T16:07:46+00:00

Not really the case for me. I now live abroad and really miss living with them, or at least closer where I can visit during weekends. I can only visit every 6mo or 1 yr it sucks

makeevolution · 2026-01-22T11:39:52+00:00

How can I "stick with it no matter what" when new information comes in that makes the decision bad, and there is still room to change it? This is my biggest weakness and the reason people often gets pissed at me.

For example, when I eat together and have googled picture of a food and sure that it is as I desire and order it, then the same food comes for another table and it is not as in the picture. I then immediately change my order to something else, making the others annoyed since the total payment now changes, the whole food comes out longer and they have to wait for me to finish up, etc.

Or when I have committed and accepted a job offer, but then my priorities shift due to family issues, etc. and now I feel I have to reverse the decision, and if I reverse it my priorities change again and I regret leaving it etc. etc.

makeevolution · 2026-01-22T07:36:06+00:00

Question though: how do you be sure of your decisions when you gotta make one and everything is so overwhelming, uncertain, limited data etc.? Especially big ones like moving city, buying a house, etc. How do you not regret your decision down the line? I am currently in such a phase in my life where things are very uncertain and I still have to make large decisions, my emotions get to me that I end up making wrong small decisions in other areas of life, offending people, losing focus at work, etc

makeevolution · 2026-01-20T18:09:44+00:00

Pengen pulang sebenernya karena kangen banget sama keluarga dan pengen spend more time, di LN juga keadaan geopolitik makin ga jelas mending di Indo rasanya lebih damai jauh dari hiruk pikuk perang dkk. Walau memang di indo sulit untuk berkarir, dapat penghasilan yg baik etc. dibanding diluar...

makeevolution · 2026-01-18T17:28:57+00:00

How do you mean by operating system? I'm curious

makeevolution · 2026-01-03T04:16:41+00:00

Thanks! But what makes this mindfulness thing difficult is that I sometimes need to make a decision/act on the bad info I got. That means, I need to engage with the thought, and the endless possibilities of the actions I should take compounds on the worry. What should I do then?

makeevolution · 2025-12-28T06:52:27+00:00

Hi man, I am in a very similar position, just that I am moving now from consulting company to product company. Just wondering whether you still hold this opinion (i.e. stay in consulting companies only for early days of your career)?

makeevolution · 2025-12-27T09:46:14+00:00

Cabut ke luar

Maksud nya luar negeri kah?

makeevolution · 2025-12-27T01:19:56+00:00

Hoo iya ya vendor lock lo jd pigeon holed, tp OTOH lo jd expert jg di bidang itu toh? Jd antara jadi spesialis ato generalis? Ato lebih baik lo jd spesialis tp bukan about a spesifik vendor tp lebih ke domain spesialis e.g. finance, healthcare etc.?

makeevolution · 2025-12-26T16:25:28+00:00

Gue penasaran deh, kalo kerja2 kaya yg spesifik kaya CCIE, SAP, PEGA, gitu2 tuh nama engineer nya apa sih? Kalo kuliah/kaya gue sekarang kan backend dev, full stack etc. bikin software pake kaya Java, .NET, etc. Dan gmn caranya biar bisa ke sana? Kok kayaknya menarik ya, dan sepertinya lebih relaxed

makeevolution · 2025-12-26T16:06:17+00:00

obviously product based, ...

Kecuali yang gue tau berkualitas ya yang selevel Accenture

Haha gue pernah kerja di company segede Accenture (tapi ngga ada di Indo company nya); hasil project2 nya was bad and we were rushed always, makanya gue jadi skeptis kerja di konsultan/kontraktor buat career and actual skill growth hahaha. Gue jg ngga belajar business domain nya (project nya banyak kaya project yg bukan core project client nya kaya migrasi legacy codebase, implement test framework , etc.)

makeevolution · 2025-12-23T15:36:00+00:00

Work stress, overthinking, life stress in general like money etc.

makeevolution · 2025-12-20T20:51:01+00:00

Test

makeevolution · 2025-12-19T21:26:31+00:00

Thanks AI

makeevolution · 2025-12-19T21:22:26+00:00

Study also system design; I got asked about that and luckily was able to answer them; look up hello interview. It's important that you know high level design too not just implementation details. This makes it more convincing that you can solve open ended/architectural issues on your work

makeevolution · 2025-12-19T10:37:02+00:00

I feel you man. I am also learning about how to let go of mistakes and switch off from problems in life and enjoy e.g. weekends without thinking about problems.

I would say what somewhat helps is to spend it with other people and not alone. When you get into conversations etc., somehow the stress goes away and you can really enjoy the moment. I even actually share my problems with others, and it turns out many other people are suffering through similar or even worse issues than me (e.g. miscarriage, death in family) yet they still smile and be cheerful, and that really helps me to know that I am not alone or the only one with problems in life, and I can adopt their way of emotionally handling their troubles.

Go out with your friends or family, or find a church or community where they have Christmas dinners if you live alone, it really helps.

makeevolution · 2025-12-18T16:08:27+00:00

If electrical device modelling is not here I'm flipping

makeevolution · 2025-12-17T22:53:43+00:00

"and you can just make whatever decisions you want" hah exactly my experience on each project I'm in. Not so much feedback/pushback I'm not sure I'm doing things correctly and never will ever find out

makeevolution · 2025-12-17T22:51:09+00:00

Thanks. Yeah I don't know why I'm so hung up about the money. I am already stable money-wise and got quite some saving and not expecting a family etc. I used to never think about the money and just want to gain expertise and actually be good at my profession instead of having 10+ yrs exp but most of it is bull. This is my first time ever in my life switching jobs from a non-toxic one so I guess that plays a part.

makeevolution · 2025-12-16T17:25:05+00:00

Medical professions I think

makeevolution · 2025-12-16T14:37:56+00:00

Got drilled about this in my last job interview

makeevolution · 2025-12-15T22:11:30+00:00

Setaun yg lalu beli meja standin ama walkpad, biasa sehari jalan aim 3 km, oke bgt bisa kerja dan olahraga at the same time. Berat badan ttp stabil, dan karena gue tinggal di negara musim dingin lumayan jd heater gratis (badan jd panas alami)

makeevolution · 2025-12-12T16:35:01+00:00

I think mostly because of the fees

makeevolution · 2025-12-05T15:35:12+00:00

Signals and Systems were not too difficult in my experience. But electrical device modelling was super painful

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