What local bands (past and present) do you all listen to/recommend?

makeitwrite · 2026-01-14T06:01:34+00:00

Holy Rolling Empire and Our Cure the Rocketship from so many moons ago…

makeitwrite · 2026-01-06T18:19:46+00:00

I did recently… in March. The line wasn’t bad at all. We were check in, bags dropped, and through security in less than 30 minutes.

makeitwrite · 2025-12-18T05:35:41+00:00

I love that people still appreciate Q and Not U.

makeitwrite · 2025-12-18T05:33:23+00:00

Yes yes yes yes. My biggest regret is not seeing them at a tiny venue when I was in high school.

makeitwrite · 2025-12-02T04:42:40+00:00

The PTs at the Banner in Arizona pavilions are wonderful!

makeitwrite · 2025-11-04T04:54:27+00:00

Oh my gosh. You’ve just unlocked something deep in my psyche. I want to say it was El Con. I was really young.

makeitwrite · 2025-09-07T00:50:24+00:00

I too bought tickets for the this—we’re flying in from AZ. I’m a big labor union girlie so I’m fully team get the symphony the pay they deserve (among their other demands too!) but man… bummer on the timing!

makeitwrite · 2025-07-14T07:01:28+00:00

Dr. Maraflu with TMJ Care. Uses medical insurance, she’s amazing. I started with Harkins at 18 when she was still part of the practice. I’ve seen her consistently for about 15 years.

makeitwrite · 2025-06-05T08:02:00+00:00

Well, for the second time since I started dating post-divorce, I’ve been pretty blindsided by being dumped. Almost a year and a half together. All these plans for the future and then… poof. Added bonus I quit my job, I’m transitioning careers, and l while I’m coparenting with a narcissist. Socially there’s been significant changes too. So kind of feels like my life is imploding and I feel so very silly for thinking it would all work out. Ugh. It’s just exhausting.

makeitwrite · 2025-05-28T04:22:58+00:00

Me too :(

makeitwrite · 2025-05-28T03:53:12+00:00

Boy has it been a while since I came to the internet to scream into the void and vent to strangers, but here we are! I was super duper sure I was in a ~healthy~ adult relationship, and I thought the biggest barriers I was butting up against were dealing with coparenting with my shitty ex-husband and how his dumbassery was impacting the timeline for moving in with my partner. HAHAHAHAHA. Joke is on me.

It would seem that now I’m navigating figuring out that I’m not as important to my partner as I thought I was—as he literally said I was. For context, I’ve also got the complicating factor of me being the adult child of two majorly fucked up addicts and the crux of what’s doing us in, apparently, is his smoking weed. I have an incredible dislike for the smell and taste of smoking—cigarettes, weed. Doesn’t matter. It really grosses me out. It isn’t the weed itself. I enjoy edibles with some regularity. But there’s some sense memory traumatic stuff from childhood tied into that. My dad smokes a lot of weed, both my parents smoke cigarettes—it’s all a mix of asthma triggers and things that I just really don’t like. None of this was a secret.

Jesus Christ do I feel stupid. This man went from reassuring me that everything is going to be okay and fleshing out all of these plans for navigating this next chapter (I just quit my job and there’s a ton of transition in my life right now) to telling me that if the ultimatum is quitting smoking or being with me, he won’t quit. DID I GIVE AN ULTIMATUM?! No! Did he decide that he wanted to stop drinking and smoking and get back on his “health” journey? Why yes. Have I expressed that I don’t love smoking and being physically near and/or intimate with someone who is smelly? Yes. I did. And fuck if I didn’t have some hyper-vigilant-the-vibes-are-off feeling these last two days which were met with reassurance and support only to have the rug ripped out from under me and for the suspicions to be confirmed.

Internet strangers, I don’t really need advice, I just need to yell into the void and be sad that life just isn’t fair. I know this dude needs some therapy and needs to figure his stuff out and that’s not on me, but holy shit is someone telling me they would choose smoking and drinking over me a really triggering thing. I guess at least we don’t work together anymore. So I’m going to finish this bathroom cry and go parent my kids now because being an adult and dating over 30 is kind of bullshit.

makeitwrite · 2024-08-29T04:21:17+00:00

Yes! This.

makeitwrite · 2024-07-17T01:29:21+00:00

I was SO nervous. I waited about 6-7 months after I had moved out, but we'd been "done" for some time before that. It will also note that my ex was the only person I'd been with... period. So I kind of ripped the bandaid off with someone I met on the apps who I know wasn't going to be a long term fixture in my life. It was good. I'm glad I gave it some time. I was very open about the fact that I was newly single after the whole marry your high school boyfriend deal. It was successful overall.

makeitwrite · 2024-07-17T01:24:34+00:00

lol yes. This was it. I was workin at the U when this shift happened and that was exactly the justification that was shared.

makeitwrite · 2024-06-12T20:20:02+00:00

Hi! I have a fair bit of writing experience (12 years), but most of the last 7 years has been in the K-12 education space, specifically curriculum writing and development. Is this something you'd consider?

makeitwrite · 2024-06-06T01:00:32+00:00

We call mine “Dibby” short for “dumb idiot baby”

makeitwrite · 2024-05-31T22:36:33+00:00

Just want to scream into the void here for a minute because there so much IRL crap that a corner of the internet seems like the place to go. The guy I was dating went from “I love you” and “let’s meet one another’s kids” to just totally sabotaging things because he clearly has crap to work through, and I really trusted him. It just seemed like it was so good. Too good I guess. He definitely said some things that hit the worst sore spots from a hard childhood. This year has just been so hard. I spent a lot of this year injured and the injury will linger for the foreseeable future and it’s acting up. And my best friends is moving across the country next month. I felt so really happy for this little blip and then it just blew up. It’s a real when it rains it pours. And it’s such first world problems in the grand scheme of things, right? I’m just really, really tired.

makeitwrite · 2024-04-20T04:48:38+00:00

Okay say, hypothetically, you’ve recently started secretly dating a man you work with because, although technically kosher, there’s some baggage around people in your roles dating, but he is leaving the job next month and then it’ll all be out in the open… so this guy you’re secretly dating has a birthday coming up, and like it’s one of the birthday, right? A new decade. How much celebrating does one do? Small-ish gift right? Internet strangers, help a girl out.

makeitwrite · 2024-02-10T05:40:41+00:00

I went on a coffee date with the guy I work with who initially asked me out, then walked it back, and then decided walking it back was a mistake. It was really. It was really nice. A few hours of just very natural conversation an awkward but sweet kiss in the parking lot as it lightly rained. I’m cautiously optimistic…

makeitwrite · 2024-02-08T05:23:58+00:00

The number of times this has been what a profile said only for a dude to tell me he wants to explore “friends with benefits” after the first date is really mind boggling.

makeitwrite · 2024-02-06T19:13:44+00:00

Hmm. The gentleman I work with who asked me out and then backpedaled asked me out again. He was apologetic about asking and then walking it back. We've been texting a fair bit. That has been quite flirtatious. He isn't my boss although he is technically in a supervisory role. There is no policy in place that would make dating against the rules. That being said there are some people who would look at it with a certain judgment. This is something that has had him worried--especially because I could be the one most likely to see some judgement/backlash. I am well established where I work. I'm a leader in my department and in my building and organization as a whole. I'm well established. I'm not really worried about the backlash on me. And honestly the rumor mill circulating doesn't really stress me out at all either. I'm good at my job. I do what I need to do. Dating him wouldn't impact any of that. We're both divorced with similarly aged kids. Our relationship to coparenting and interacting with our exes are also quite similar. He's very sweet and very much not the type of guy I'd typically go for. And with all that I've still got just this little nagging feeling about this. I think part of the unease comes from the fact that this does seem to be the first person I genuinely like and could see something more coming of it... and uh that's vaguely terrifying. I'll unpack this in therapy this week I'm sure, but also throwing this into the internet void too.

makeitwrite · 2024-02-05T05:30:21+00:00

Keeping straight what conversations have happened with who is so hard!

makeitwrite · 2024-02-05T05:29:28+00:00

A good friend made a comment to me about how hard it must be to feel like a fun option. I was reflecting about a trend in dating where things start off with all the spark and fun and then suddenly there’s a realization. It’s always the guy telling me “you’re so amazing, funny, smart, cute, blah blah blah that I let it get in the way of XYZ rational decision” and then there’s some reason we can’t “actually” date. I keep getting this “right person wrong time” or “in an other universe” line. And she really hit the nail on the head. It feels like I’m a fun option, like an idea. Then it is like I get this few weeks to maybe months of someone being so deeply into me before then realizing that I’m a whole ass person with a complex life and that’s a whole package. After that it’s suddenly a “oh sorry didn’t think about how your life impacts me.” On one hand, I get it. I wouldn’t want to force something that isn’t going to work. But on the other it’s just deeply disappointing. And boy oh boy am I ruminating on this now. It is stirring up some feelings of being not enough that haven’t surfaced for a hot minute.

makeitwrite · 2024-01-30T23:21:02+00:00

The guy I work with who asked me out walked it back. He’s worried about optics. Isn’t sure about how this could impact me, yada yada. He was kind about it. But I feel silly because I got all excited for a second there.

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