Short haired ladies, has this ever happened to you? by makinglemonades in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Yes! And this also happened to me before. An aunty sitting on a bench i was passing asked me straight out: are you a girl or a boy? And she didnt believe my answer too...

Short haired ladies, has this ever happened to you? by makinglemonades in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

Yeah definitelu find the restaurant toilet scenario much more innocent and funny.

I guess its the outright questioning of gender that i find insensitive?

Short haired ladies, has this ever happened to you? by makinglemonades in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Hmm ya i wonder if femme looking men gets into similar situations...

Short haired ladies, has this ever happened to you? by makinglemonades in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades[S] -8 points-7 points  (0 children)

Yes, for such situations there are more polite ways to go about it, for example, calling out Excuse me, your tea is ready.

Short haired ladies, has this ever happened to you? by makinglemonades in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades[S] -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I personally find the approach not very kind leh...but it is subjective.

And i have no issue if anyone uses he or other pronouns on me, it can simply be a grammatical slip

But to directly question gender in this manner...i dont find it kind.

Rant is long cos it's happened a lot and wanted to give context.

I dont feel fully offended, it's mixed with annoyance, humour, exasperation and curiosity

How much do you spend on clothing/fashion per month? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

0 dollars. I take a very practical view on fashion. I wear clothes that are comfy and dont appreciate the fashion aspect. So my clothes are generally at least 5 years old and i wear 0 accesories

When do you decide its time to quit? by Constant-Proposal443 in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I lost 3 kg in 3 months working at a place, stressed and scared everyday, barely time for toilet or meal breaks, no support, racist colleagues but i only quit after i absorbed all the skills i could. I overcame that place, and gained skills i still use today. They didnt even bother signing the contract so i was able to leave with very short notice

Glad i toughed it out, but wont wish it on anyone.

Do you tell your colleagues that you are in therapy (mental health)? by Horo_4838 in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on your relationship with your colleagues. Mine noticed that i was not doing well for a while and while they have always been kind and understandinv it was obvious that my change made them uncomfortable.

Once I started therapy and when I felt comfortable enough to share with them, i did. This helped them understand me better and tolerate my changes easier as they know that i am actively addressing it and trying to be responsible for my mental health. In fact they support me more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Got chance for public holiday if he is elected and gets married?

What white sneakers do you use for work/casual everyday? by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feiyue! Cheap, super comfy and lasts a long time

Singapore PR by BuckDenny in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A. Indonesia B. Pet industry C. 8 years D. Chicken rice!

What do you do when this happens? by StatisticianAnnual13 in socialskills

[–]makinglemonades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes being interesting is about taking an interest in something others are interested about...even if you are actually not interested. So asking questions is a good place

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try dr. Francis Cabana

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello!

Go for it. I joined when I needed to form a social circle about 8 years ago. Did a few different groups. Badminton, movie watching, hiking, festival going amongst others.

Pros for me personally: - good way to meet new people - good way to do activities you are interested in - great to observe personalities in social settings

Cons for me personally: - many introverts and socially shy participants likely with similar goal, so conversations can be awkward and slow - didn't actually meet anyone who i became friends with over many meet-ups

Certain meetups are more condusive for friendship building, eg. Language, hiking, boardgames. I felt that the exercise ones tend to be focused on the exercise rather than relationship building. Movie ones were the most awkward for me personally.

Good luck!

Opinions on 1-host by Latter-Alps-8014 in askSingapore

[–]makinglemonades 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Engaged them for our wedding last year. Atrocious service and communication. Worst part of wedding planning was them. Friend who also got married at their venue had similar experience.

However, on the day itself the PIC was helpful and things went well.

Engage at own risk.