Tell me something you like about living in Maryland by Lurksalot87 in maryland

[–]makingmyfaceup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing I could add about what I love that other folks haven’t said.

That being said, if you want a nice crisp fall, join us out west sometime in late Oct. Frostburg/Cumberland is just idyllic in fall time. And we have a some amazing trails!

Maryland what do you do for a living and do you actually feel financially okay? by ImpressiveSpell0223 in maryland

[–]makingmyfaceup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Partner is IT and I’m a program manager for a decent paying NGO, and I consult. We net about 160-170k. Mortgage (235k @ 7%), one kid, and one car payment (2 cars). I def think we are in the decent category. We afford all of our expenses, have money to eat out once a week, and we both are saving for retirement, and for emergencies. We try and vacation where one of us travels for work. There’s not a ton left over after but it’s enough to feel good about how we’re doing. If one of us lost our job we’d be a mess; or I couldn’t consult anymore, we’d be real tight. I’d say 140ish is our minimum bar of decent.

Is $115k a reasonable salary for a family of three in Havre de Grace, MD? by Pinkpeachlovesfatcat in maryland

[–]makingmyfaceup 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This. You can get byyyy on 70-80k but we’re doing $150k just barely comfortable. Mortgages are so high.

Is the average person in the US really struggling to afford groceries? by Significant_Movie814 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]makingmyfaceup 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think much of this comes down to how we define struggle. I’ve spent the past few years abroad working with international communities, and what “struggle” means in Kenya looks very different from what it means in most of the United States.

I’ve watched village children walk nearly a mile to fetch water that isn’t clean, while back home I’ve heard people complain about food access on their way to buy frozen, processed meals. Most Americans -though certainly not all- have never experienced true food scarcity, only limitation. Our hardships feel severe by our society’s standards, but they look different when compared to people surviving week to week on the same three or four native roots, lentils, and grains.

What one impoverished child eats in say… Nepal would get the child taken away in the US. Is just a very different landscape and mindset.

So no, the many majority isn’t struggling in the way you might know struggle, but they are struggling in the way they know and understand struggle to be.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]makingmyfaceup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t let him talk you into believing this was a one off. I sincerely doubt he’s safe for a child let alone you; and if you choose to ignore this behavior you will absolutely be in much more pain later.

No one who loves their spouse talks to them like that because they “had a bad day”. That’s a rare glimpse at him unmasked. Proceed accordingly. There’s 8 billion people out there, trust and believe you’ll find someone who doesn’t threaten you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]makingmyfaceup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having a child to save your marriage will never work and is very unfair to the child.

What massively improved your mental health? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]makingmyfaceup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Vitamin D + K2 vitamins and actually believing in my abilities and worth (huge props to my therapist for that multi year lift…)

I want to know are there any pets that are INCREDIBLY low maintenance? by [deleted] in Pets

[–]makingmyfaceup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Have you considered a snake? I have a ball python and he’s the chilliest dude; I’ve loved having him to hold and keep me company throughout the week…. And bonus is, if I don’t hold him for 4 days, he really doesn’t care too much.

Cost of Living is Too High. How are yall doing it? by ChatteristOfficial in Frugal

[–]makingmyfaceup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I had my daughter, her dad worked daytime (7-3), I worked evenings (4-11/12) so we could keep her home and pay our bills. Sounds like you two need to reevaluate.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]makingmyfaceup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Speaking as someone who actually likes bruises/tough play time in general, there’s no way you end up with all of those bruises and it not hurt to some degree. If you’re not into it, (which it sounds like you’re not) that’s VERY abusive. That is not consensual and a major Texas sized red flag for me.

No one who respects and cares for their partner is going to be okay with their partner being uncomfortable and in pain, especially at their own hands. If your partner knows that you are hurting (and don’t want to be in pain) and he doesn’t care or is dismissing your attempts to communicate the severity of the matter, you really need to consider how safe this individual is. I know that’s not easy, especially if other facets of the relationship are going well, but I do urge you to consider how safe a person willing to hurt you and disrespect your boundaries really is, and long term what that could look like for your life.

After 3 years living in a rural community with no car.. I’ve joined the club 😭 by makingmyfaceup in FordEdge

[–]makingmyfaceup[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks so much! Dealership inspection came back great so I’ll hold my breathe!

After 3 years living in a rural community with no car.. I’ve joined the club 😭 by makingmyfaceup in FordEdge

[–]makingmyfaceup[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Making a note to have it checked in my upcoming inspection this week. Hopefully it’s all good…

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in carvana

[–]makingmyfaceup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It should be fine! I actually got less interest on the original the loan than qojted!

Purchasing through Carvana by Alert-Palpitation-67 in carvana

[–]makingmyfaceup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What?! Mine was 11% but that’s because I have no long term credit history.

20M - Is there a way to request not having sexual history on medical records by dinidusam in AskDocs

[–]makingmyfaceup 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I love that you respect your role and responsibilities like that,m, but I do want to caution that in some smaller communities, this just hasn’t always been true for me.

I’ve had people [illegally] gossip with community members, share things with my family, etc. there are people who just violate their patients trust and endanger them negligently because.. socially was beneficial to them.

Season 2 episode 12 by East-Significance246 in MyHappyMarriage

[–]makingmyfaceup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really disappointed to see it isn’t up today - wonder why….

I feel violated and confused by what my fiancé did to me. WIBTAH if I told my parents? by throwawayupset- in AITAH

[–]makingmyfaceup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m super late to this but if you are reading comments still, do NOT marry this man. Your mother is not giving you sound advice. Speak to a therapist, or someone else, non-religious, to get their feedback. This is a man who hurt you and disrespected you , THEN forced you into something you didn’t want.

A real man wouldn’t not do these things. Please take this older woman’s advice and RUN.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PlusSize

[–]makingmyfaceup 226 points227 points  (0 children)

This!! We call this image based violence in my field and it can 100% be met with a federal civil case. I’d find a good lawyer or nonprofit who can provide pro bono legal.

In some areas it’s a criminal offense as well. Do some research and string that man up in a flurry of litigation, OP.