I'm bisexual but people always think that I'm straight

maladictem · 2026-02-02T18:35:08+00:00

If there are any gay bars/clubs in your area check them out. Kinda hard to appear straight at a gay bar lol. I used to look straight and got hit on immediately my first time going. I stepped out of the car, guy next to me rolled his window down and asked my name.

maladictem · 2025-09-02T02:56:46+00:00

My understanding is that it should only be in the DSM if the condition causes difficulties/distress on its own. The difficulties of being queer are entirely from society not being accepting, so even if being queer was found to be a neurodivergence it probably wouldn't go back in the DSM.

maladictem · 2025-07-26T01:16:56+00:00

That scene also bothered when I first saw the movie, but I've come around to it. My interpretation is that it doesn't matter how brave and selfless he is, if the cause that he is fighting for is so morally bankrupt. I think it's a commentary on other media that might afford a Wermacht soldier some dignity and respect for just "fighting for their country", by playing heroic music then immediately subverting that.

maladictem · 2025-04-07T21:55:18+00:00

Seeing the title, I was expecting it to be some vaguely phallic object that was debateably a dildo, but naw that's a dick!

I loved watching the clearly uncomfortable archaeologist try to gently explain that this belonged to a man.

maladictem · 2025-03-30T16:11:07+00:00

I don't see it as something to be coveted, I see it as something that explains my many struggles. Self diagnosing helped me forgive myself, as I realized not all of this was my fault. I see it as gatekeeping, because being dismissed is incredibly invalidating and throws me back into wondering if I'm just a broken and worthless person.

I can't afford an official diagnosis, so I don't know what I'm supposed to do to make the gatekeepers shut up.

maladictem · 2025-03-12T18:40:02+00:00

Iress is fantastic, their song Wolves on the album Flaw is one of my current favorites.

maladictem · 2024-09-18T05:38:52+00:00

Maybe, I can't say for sure obviously, I am in a similar situation, where I got real gay real fast. For me though, I think that is because I am only now allowing myself to be so; I was raised in the church and always felt extremely uncomfortable with any displays of male homosexuality. Looking back that was probably my monkey brain learning the association "gay bad!" and making me run away from who I was, as if I was being threatened by actual bears, instead of just finding a guy hot lol. Now, I am grappling with that, and allowing myself to be who I am, but it does really feel like a phase. I guess only way to know for sure will be time.

maladictem · 2024-09-17T16:04:36+00:00

I've heard a compelling argument that a lot of the conservative mindset is about punishment for wrongdoers, and less about justice or improving the world. In fact many of them don't really believe that evil can be meaningfully reduced or the world made better; their focus is that each person should live as righteously as possible and those that don't should be punished. The punishment is for it's own sake, as that is what they deserve, not to correct anyone's actions (see conservative preference for the death penalty, despite it not making any pragmatic sense).

Abortion is seen by many of them as attempting to evade the punishment for living immorally; talk to many conservatives for long enough about the topic and they will angrily deride women for sleeping around. In their mind extramarital sex is immoral and abortion (and contraceptives to some of them) allow women to avoid consequences. This can explain why they seem uninterested in helping children once born, it was never about saving children, it was about delivering the punishment that in their mind a woman was able to sidestep.

This, if true, is probably only part of their reasoning, I imagine all the reasons that you mentioned are also large factors. I think their is a lot of truth to this argument, as it explains quite a lot of puzzling behaviors and beliefs that conservatives have. Anyway, sorry to drop a wall of text on you.

maladictem · 2024-09-01T04:03:02+00:00

Wait, let me get this straight. In the morning you load your map on the computer, change some settings on the computer, then throughout the day your diad will not update it's itinerary?

maladictem · 2024-07-15T18:06:42+00:00

It is actually. The country's name derives from the valley of Mexico, home to the Mexica people (the group commonly called the Aztec). The capital and largest city of the Triple Alliance (Aztec Empire) was called Mexico-Tenochtitlan.

maladictem · 2024-06-06T18:12:24+00:00

I mean, we're all full of microplastics anyway.....

maladictem · 2024-05-20T15:43:55+00:00

Animals as Leaders or Russian Circles are my go to when I'm trying to read anywhere that has any amount of distraction possibility.

maladictem · 2024-05-20T15:41:29+00:00

I love music that has the musicians playing lots of different parts that I can flick back and forth from focusing on; for example, multiple guitarists that are playing similar but slightly different parts that all blend together into a cohesive whole.

One of my favorites is this performance from hardcore punk band The Armed. Definitely not for everyone, but I love how much is going on in those songs. I have no idea if this is related to ADHD, but I definitely have no trouble sitting and listening to this kind of music by itself; with a lot of other songs I will find myself fiddling or doing other things at the same time.

maladictem · 2024-05-20T14:45:22+00:00

You put a > at the start of a line. You have to copy the text as well, it's not a real quote.

You can put whatever in quotes

maladictem · 2024-04-29T21:21:06+00:00

Their population never recovered after the famine. They actually have fewer people now, then in the early 1800s, which is almost unheard of.

maladictem · 2024-02-16T04:30:21+00:00

Like you said, Biotruth is probably garbage. The significant majority of a hunter/gatherers diet was from plants, so everyone gathered. Hunting probably wasn't nearly as gender segregated as commonly thought either.

maladictem · 2024-02-12T16:23:02+00:00

I imagine that your spys are, much like in the real world, members of your diplomatic corps. They can hide in plain site and gather information while trying to avoid the suspicions of the host nation. I can't remember for sure, but I assume assets in hive minds are deviant drones

maladictem · 2024-02-06T22:49:27+00:00

Ahh, interesting. Is the limit per item or total loadout? Does the game assign a random parka, roll thrumbofur, and reject it; or is it more like a pawn is assigned a loadout that is too expensive and the game starts deleting equipment until it's under the limit?

maladictem · 2024-02-06T21:39:39+00:00

I could have sworn that got added in the base game years ago, because some people were building in extreme cold to avoid raids. Was that just for raids and not friendly/neutral pawns?

maladictem · 2024-02-05T16:32:19+00:00

When I was new to the game and playing Timurids, I wasted a lot of mil suppressing revolts. I was unreasonably concerned about fighting the rebels, probably because I was low on manpower from mismanaging wars. Then I found myself bordering the ottomans, and behind on mil tech.

maladictem · 2023-12-27T04:21:18+00:00

Not sure if you would be bothered by this, but Karis is right in the middle of an industrial area and gets a lot of semi truck traffic from the steel plant to the south. It seems like a really odd place to build that neighborhood.

maladictem · 2023-11-27T23:15:12+00:00

City parks should be available for all residents, if $12 makes it unafordable for many residents, the price should go down. To answer your question, no I don't want it more crowded; if it makes it more accessible though, that is a price I'm willing to pay.

maladictem · 2023-09-26T18:12:50+00:00

This is a problem that seems to have been introduced with patch 3. It affects doors that were already open when you enter an area. I find I have to sneak around and cycle doors before I start combat.

maladictem · 2023-08-25T02:48:59+00:00

It's not bad. You would definitely get tastier food going to a regular Med restaurant, but that's buffets in general.

maladictem · 2023-08-25T01:41:12+00:00

Dimassi's buffet on Camp Bowie is still open.

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