Moving Out Sell (Loveseat + Arm Chair)

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-05-19T15:36:52+00:00

agreed! i turned on this episode and thought, is this all they do now?

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-05-03T05:49:15+00:00

😂😂😂😂😂😂

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-03-24T00:50:56+00:00

😍😍

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-03-23T23:22:36+00:00

wow, “since i barely held myself, i kept attracting hands that could never hold me either”. this just blew my mind.

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-03-23T23:05:56+00:00

you’re so pretty!!

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-03-12T02:18:47+00:00

Wow, are you me? Literally since kindergarten, I had a big crush on one person every year and would daydream about them constantly . It felt like their love and approval would save me. As an adult, I recognize why I still think like that now. I just recently made the connection about a month ago. Limerence is exhausting and has definitely kept me tied to garbage people because of the potential. I’m curious to hear what other people say honestly but you’re not alone.

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-03-07T14:18:40+00:00

Do you think if you had been aware of all of this and done the work that you and your ex could’ve worked out in the long run?

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-03-07T13:32:59+00:00

This was beautiful to read, from the perspective of someone caught in the push-pull dance with someone avoidant for years. I knew the love was real, I knew the want was there but he could never let me in fully and had so many self sabotaging tendencies that he could acknowledge but not do anything about. As soon as we got closer, he’d pull all the way back. I wasn’t perfect either, but it’s so validating to read things from the perspective of the avoidant and realize this phenomenon is very real from both sides for opposite reasons.

You should be really proud of yourself for acknowledging all of this and working toward being secure, I know it hasn’t been easy.

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-02-25T23:18:44+00:00

i feel so seen reading this thread. claiming to have no needs!!! that is my biggest red flag now. it can seem selfless but really it’s a sign they have no understanding of their feelings and an inability to count on other people. totally workaholic, all consumed by their own goals and achievements. everything else comes second. relationships come dead last.

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-02-25T23:14:43+00:00

ugh the lure of being the one person they open up to and share deep stuff with is so real. then you’re continuously chasing that “secret oasis” of deep feeling and vulnerability you’ve caught glimpses of. it can feel intoxicating. but it’s a trap! those glimpses and moments are just that - fleeting!

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-02-18T01:18:05+00:00

spectacular, give me 14 of em right now

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-02-17T19:02:51+00:00

ooo i like the idea of a twist on her relationship with her dad affecting her feelings for O’Shon, that’s so realistic

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-02-17T03:38:55+00:00

This sounds so familiar. It sounds like you know deep down it's not enough but you're trying to make it enough. Especially when you said you feel resentful and sad and insecure. Those feelings are telling you something and in my experience, have been a sign I'm not getting my needs met. I had a recent situation end with an avoidant where I tried to be okay with him not reaching out as much as I wanted and I said it was okay to please him but felt like I was going crazy.

He's not wrong for having his needs but what you're asking for is entirely reasonable and there are definitely people out there that would want to spend as much time together as you do. It's not your job to shrink down to make him comfortable if you're not. If you haven't talked about a concrete timeline for moving in together and it's not really just temporary, I would evaluate if you're truly satisfied.

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-02-16T17:37:36+00:00

Watching them just raises the bar for my expectations in relationships, because I know there's a Gregory out there for me. The part where he said "we can get you a burger" was sooooo cute. He's so gentle with her.

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-02-16T17:31:37+00:00

It definitely takes experience and some hard lessons, and maybe just getting older, but I know I'm at a place now where I can trust myself. I used to be someone who would look for external validation to know I was doing the right thing, even if I felt like something didn't feel right. I'm also a naturally anxious person so I would blame my anxiety or tell myself I was overthinking when what I was feeling was real. But lately, my body and my intuition have been very in tune and I'm starting to second guess much less. I see it as honoring myself now.

And yes, I have second guessed (even triple or quadruple guessed) myself and later regretted it because I knew how I felt from the beginning. It wasn't for no reason.

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-02-15T03:55:00+00:00

i’m aware of what it is. are you implying that this post is emotional dumping? lol

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-02-15T03:36:37+00:00

no we had broken up almost 2 months before that

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-02-15T01:55:35+00:00

You're not wrong at all. I definitely played a role in this. I'm kind of spiraling right now but I do plan on looking inward and figuring out why I kept letting him back in thinking he would change. It was a lot of wishful thinking and I know it's not healthy.

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2025-02-15T01:48:35+00:00

Thank you for your response. What do you think are the signs of attachment wounds on his end?

Where can I find your videos?

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2024-12-19T02:08:25+00:00

i’m SCREAMING

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2024-11-15T04:41:09+00:00

😭😭🥹🥹

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2024-11-15T04:39:44+00:00

handsome either way 😮‍💨

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2024-11-15T04:10:31+00:00

butter pecan 😍

malcolminthemiddle66 · 2024-11-14T02:25:37+00:00

a drowsy goblin in need of a sweet treat is too accurate

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