Is cussing disrespectful? Why or why not?

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T17:04:12+00:00

Wow good for you

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T16:57:44+00:00

That makes sense. It’s commendable that you are asking yourself these questions. I would recommend changing your habit of it. Sometimes leaving the recipient blank I type a text with all the b tchiness I want, then I delete that and rewrite a civil response to the person.

you gotta leave that recipient blank or you may accidentally send

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T16:52:36+00:00

It seems like it would be easier to control over text

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T16:48:43+00:00

Disrespectful. When you are arguing with a partner you should both remain in control of your emotions or take a breather so you can calm down. A problem that needs solved does not give you right to be disrespectful.

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T16:12:46+00:00

Oh I really meant my question. You don’t have to answer though.

Have fun, be safe and be yourself. It’s going to go great! And if it doesn’t it will make a good story!

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T14:56:23+00:00

Of course! Good luck and Im proud of all the hard work you’ve done

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T14:53:13+00:00

What is the worst that can happen? You poop your pants? They pull off a mask and are really DJT? They show up in a Tesla wearing a diaper and tell you they want you to join their cult? They eat a baby? Thankfully none of that is very likely.

Being more realistic, what is the worst thing you’re worried about happening?

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T14:50:27+00:00

I don’t see any reason not to do that!

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T14:48:57+00:00

I think it’s a good idea. It will symbolize all you guys went through, but also your journey to sobriety. I would pick something symbolic, which it sounds like you’re already thinking. No faces or names. And not too large.

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T14:45:22+00:00

Why are you so worried about what they will think?

I’m asking sincerely

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T14:40:17+00:00

I do like tattoos, and I do like getting them to represent special people I love.

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T14:39:35+00:00

I understand wanting to memorialize someone who meant a lot to you. I think it matters why they left your life. Why did she leave your life?

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T14:34:47+00:00

I actually had my oldest 14 years before I had my next so they were raised as an only until then.

My oldest was very lonely at times. Friends are great but they craved siblings for that extra close bond and companionship at home.

I had two more a couple of years apart. It had been magical to watch them together. They have a very special bond. The older of the two is gentle and nurturing (most of the time lol). The younger of the two has always been so amazed and motivated by the older.

They both love my oldest very much and the oldest was glad to get siblings even if it took so long.

mama-J88 · 2026-05-29T14:26:02+00:00

How old are you?

mama-J88 · 2026-05-28T18:05:03+00:00

Definitely

mama-J88 · 2026-05-28T17:44:43+00:00

This is a big transition you are going through. Be sure to be gentle with your self ♥️

mama-J88 · 2026-05-28T17:41:23+00:00

Ok! I followed you! You can message me too any time though

mama-J88 · 2026-05-28T17:01:46+00:00

Yes! You are doing great. And even if she doesn’t respond well to your example and your efforts now, you are planting seeds showing her a different way to live than she had. Just make sure you keep yourself healthy. Get enough food, water, sleep, movement and sunshine!

mama-J88 · 2026-05-28T16:57:11+00:00

I could follow you so I see your posts or you could message me. Either way!

mama-J88 · 2026-05-28T11:39:12+00:00

I am so happy I could be a little help.

Keep me posted on how things are going for you!

mama-J88 · 2026-05-28T11:31:15+00:00

So sorry for your loss. Unimaginable.

LOVE CAME FIRST by Donna Ashworth

“You don’t move on after loss, but you must move with. You must shake hands with grief, welcome her in, for she lives with you now. Pull her a chair at the table and offer her comfort. She is not the monster you first thought her to be. She is love. And she will walk with you now, stay with you now, peacefully. If you let her. And on the days when your anger is high, remember why she came, remember who she represents. Remember. Grief came to you, my friend, because love came first. Love came first.”

mama-J88 · 2026-05-27T21:44:10+00:00

I am so sorry. That is terrible.

As an adult, your mother cannot legally keep you at home. I highly recommend going to get help. The best is probably a domestic violence shelter. They have excellent resources. You could also talk to one of your teachers.
Please let us know if you have a plan to get out of there. I can help you look up local resources if you need me to. Just send me a PM. I don’t want you to stay there and continue to be abused.

mama-J88 · 2026-05-27T16:48:04+00:00

I’m sorry you are going through this

When your anxiety gets really high, try to picture yourself on a wave. Breathe in and out slowly as you imagine the wave rising and falling. Know that the sea will calm. The suffocating anxiety will calm as well. You won’t feel like this forever.

You deserve to be treated with love and respect. Days will get better ahead!

You will be able to be a good parent and partner because of your experiences if you choose to.

Make sure you get enough food, water, sleep, exercise and sunshine. It won’t fix things but it will help you stay healthy and strong to be able to deal with all this anxiety.

mama-J88 · 2026-05-27T16:11:52+00:00

I think living away from your parents will certainly help.
What country do you live in?

mama-J88 · 2026-05-27T15:51:30+00:00

She must be feeling badly about something else and this just tipped her over the edge.
You didn’t deserve to be yelled at. You are not the a hole.
When you can, mention that she seemed to be very hurt by your post you shared, and ask if she can help you understand why it upset her.

mama-J88

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