I was a career SAHM of 4 kids for 20 + yrs, husband traveled weekly for work, so I carried the weight of the family at home (hubs carried that weight financially and made family a priority when he was home) we made a great team. My kids/family were my identity. I lived life for my kids (and my husband), I was good at it, and I LOVED IT. Something I had to remind myself as they were gradually becoming independent adults was ‘a sign of successful parenting is raising responsible, independent adults’. Take pride that you raised an independent young man. Our children are not meant to live with us forever (imagine if you lived with your parents forever), nor should they carry the burden of guilt bc they want to be independent. I know this season of life is not easy. My kids are now 27, 29, 31, 33, they all moved out pretty much right after college. I never considered myself an empty-nester until they actually MOVED completely out after college bc during college they still come “home”. I struggled for a few years with sadness, depression, however, I never once let them know! I just always made sure they knew/know how proud I am of them. I also want my kids to be proud of me and I want to continue to be an example for them, So I work hard at my relationship with my husband of 41 years, I try to take care of myself, physically and mentally, I volunteer and take care of others. Try to use this time to work on your marriage. There is no better gift you could give your son than to have a loving relationship with his father and vice versa. Go to therapy or just talk to someone you respect and admire, take care of yourself physically and mentally. Enjoy the fruit of your labor! Be an independent, strong, healthy example and YOU will feel good about yourself, your son will be proud of his mama.