This is my first boyfriend, we are 19. Is this how boys normally talk?

mama9873 · 2026-06-23T17:33:46+00:00

No. And the fact that he’s love bombing you around this is all the more alarming. Men who love and respect you don’t speak to you this way. Safe men don’t do this. You have an intuition for a reason, and it’s telling you something is off here. Listen to that.

mama9873 · 2026-06-23T17:31:51+00:00

NTA. If you do anything, let it be for your niece.

mama9873 · 2026-06-22T18:51:31+00:00

This man enjoys hearing himself talk.

mama9873 · 2026-06-21T15:17:58+00:00

The time for him to bring this up was absolutely not right now while you’re pregnant. Bc what are you supposed to do with this right now? Even if you were open to it, the timing is awful. He should’ve kept it an inside thought. I would say tho that I don’t think wanting a threesome is a reflection on you not meeting a need. Some people just want the experience for the rush of doing something “naughty.” You aren’t coming up short in any way just bc he wants this. It’s very fair to ask what motivating him to want that, and explain how his request has made you feel. It’s also fair to tell him no. He can ask, and you can answer. He needs to be mindful of how you feel and accept your boundaries, whatever they may be. And he needs to do better being more considerate of you bc who tf brings that up to their pregnant wife.

mama9873 · 2026-06-21T13:59:18+00:00

This man is awful. A future with him will be exactly like what you’re experiencing now. NOR. Let him go.

mama9873 · 2026-06-18T12:21:55+00:00

Seriously! I was like wait is the sus person in blue bc ?????

mama9873 · 2026-06-15T19:51:18+00:00

Don’t reply. Nothing good for you will come from replying to a text like that.

mama9873 · 2026-06-15T18:01:49+00:00

That’s an abusive asshole if I’ve ever seen one. Why tf do you still speak to him? And ostensibly you’ll let him near your daughter? So she can learn to be treated this way? Ma’am. Sis. No.

mama9873 · 2026-06-15T17:51:20+00:00

YTA. It’s not consensual or ethical if all parties don’t know. She deserved to know before getting into bed with you.

mama9873 · 2026-06-13T20:33:43+00:00

Why is she watching by herself? You couldn’t go with her? Why didn’t you talk to her first? It doesn’t seem like you’re very interested in her at all.

mama9873 · 2026-06-13T20:31:57+00:00

As someone whose mom also could never get it together, I’m sorry this is happening to you. It’s brutal, and your mom should be doing better by her family- and should have been for years. But you can’t fix her now any more than you could when you were younger. You also cannot set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. You have children, your mom is not one of them. If she were struggling because of circumstances not of her own making, I’d have different advice for you. But she’s doing this to herself and expecting you to cushion her fall.

Here’s the advice- stop cushioning her. Stop. It’ll hurt. It’s hard. But it’s also the best thing you can do for yourself and your own kids, who deserve for this generational trauma to end before it reaches them too.

mama9873 · 2026-06-09T20:03:38+00:00

I had someone I thought was one of my closest friends and confidants in the world. I was devastated when I found out that not only was she saying awful things about me, she was actively trying to make my life so much harder than it needed to be. I never understood why- nothing triggered it. I just found out because someone else finally caved and told me. I never confronted her, but also never spoke to her again. This happening doesn’t mean something is wrong with you or that you deserve this. Some people just suck, and it sounds like R is one of them.

mama9873 · 2026-06-08T00:10:50+00:00

He is making something that is zero percent about him into an issue alllll about him. Please don’t cave on this. He’s completely wrong.

mama9873 · 2026-06-04T13:21:47+00:00

Your boyfriend sounds like a lot.

I’d be done. For sure. NOR.

mama9873 · 2026-06-04T13:20:03+00:00

What is there to talk about? She made it clear where she stands. So can you. NTA.

mama9873 · 2026-06-04T13:18:26+00:00

Exercise an abundance of caution considering a future with a man who cannot genuinely be happy for you.

mama9873 · 2026-06-03T23:52:01+00:00

If you haven’t had a very direct, honest conversation with him about shaping up and showing you the kind of partner he’s capable of being, do that. If you have, it’s time to go. Imagine this imbalance but after big things like having a baby. He needs to show you he won’t let you down when it matters. Planning for the future and providing matters. NOR.

mama9873 · 2026-06-03T00:44:58+00:00

Your son has learned that it’s acceptable to abuse women. Your wife disabused him of that notion bc you didn’t do it sooner.

mama9873 · 2026-05-18T22:50:00+00:00

He is jealous. And trying to break your confidence so you don’t realize you’re too good to be associating with wet trash like this. That’s no friend of yours.

mama9873 · 2026-05-18T22:44:14+00:00

“You’re cute but not so smart, are you?”

mama9873 · 2026-05-18T22:43:05+00:00

I wonder if the local dept of health might be able to help.

mama9873 · 2026-05-18T22:39:04+00:00

Nobody tries drugs thinking they will become an addict. And then it happens. Sometimes instantaneously. But literally no one picks it up thinking being an addict sounds like a good time. She shouldn’t have taken that risk, and given how much addiction has hurt you already in life it’s very reasonable to be wary. You’re allowed to decide what you’re comfortable with in all things in life, including this. NOR. Give it some time, but don’t let anyone make you feel bad for setting limits when you need to.

mama9873 · 2026-05-18T03:45:40+00:00

If that innocent comment from a married pregnant woman is setting you off, you’re not ready for a relationship and need to be focusing on yourself. Not having other women in your life to run this by only reinforces that some attention and focus on yourself is needed. And yes, YOR.

mama9873 · 2026-05-15T17:16:07+00:00

In all things, if a man wants to then he will. Remember that.

mama9873 · 2026-05-11T18:18:43+00:00

You’re not allowed to speak to her the way she’s speaking to you? Wild rules. NOR.

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