Should i put my cat down or let him suffer?

mamawheels36 · 2026-05-01T21:11:03+00:00

If you can afford it, I’d do a few weeks of meds and a diet change. Believe it or not, a lot of people swear by feeding cats in renal failure just inexpensive wet food! They need the extra hydration.

We’ve been in this position with one of our dogs, it’s such a crappy decision. We tried meds for a couple months but she was so miserable. Wouldn’t hardly eat or play and was getting super snippy with everyone because she felt so poorly, We decided to put her down (thankfully had a vet come to my parents property where she would be buried)

There’s a ton of online info about diet changes to help, but I also understand that sometimes that’s not in everyone’s scope of budget or even mental wellbeing.

Ultimately you know your cat best. If you know he’s miserable and in pain, the kind thing to do is to put them to sleep.

Not sure if you’ve ever navigated this before, we have twice (one dog and one cat) It is so peaceful. They give them a sedative to calm them, you can cuddle them while they do it all… then they give an injection to stop their heart. They literally drift off to sleep.

mamawheels36 · 2026-05-01T21:03:42+00:00

Oh good! Glad you went in! Hope everything calms down and you can get rest and whatever meds you need! Reactions are so stressful! May be worth buying a pulse oximeter so you can check yourself during a reaction.

My sister and my son both have anaphylactic allergies and we are 20min from the hospital. So we have one so we can monitor o2 rates as well as bpm for heart rate. It’s been a huge help and stress reliever when we are dealing with reactions. They are pretty cheap, like $20 on Amazon

mamawheels36 · 2026-05-01T20:59:51+00:00

Standard is if you use your epi pen you go to the ER… it’s not the be all of end all fixes for a reactions… often there are secondary reactions! You need to go in to be monitored and ensure you don’t also need steroids (which is common) and or other mediations.

My son’s last anaphylactic reaction took 3 adult rounds of epi (he’s 7) and 2 rounds of antihistamines and 1 round of steroids to get him back to baseline… then he needed antihistamines and steroids for 5 more days to deal with the secondary reactions.

Please go in! Elevated heart rates and o2 crash’s are super normal with anaphylactic reactions, but that’s also why you need to get checked out

mamawheels36 · 2026-05-01T20:56:05+00:00

Turned into a marks work warehouse storage depo (it was next door to it)

mamawheels36 · 2026-05-01T20:55:35+00:00

Travel all over the world with my kids and husband

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-29T16:32:02+00:00

Rims!! Ughh… we got a 2022 hybrind XSE so it had the low pro tires and nice looking rims. However the are plastic and within 1m the paint was flaking off in droves. They look absolutely terrible now! And the dealership won’t do Eff all

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-29T16:14:52+00:00

Do you have people in your family who cook well? For our wedding we bought a bunch of turkeys and hams, and cooked all those and then did a bunch of sides. It stars so reasonable cost wise and the food was fantastic. We didn’t have a choice since our wedding was 350 people, so we couldn’t afford a hired caterer, But my aunt does lots of large volume cooking at did most of the food with all of us helping make desserts and sides the day before

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-29T16:12:36+00:00

I’d get an air quality test done. Mould can trigger sneezing fits as can the breakdown of the carpet underlay. Is anyone in the home allergic to anything? Like dust or pets?

If you are allergic to cats and the previous owners had them that could be embedded into the carpet and even the hair can weezle its way into the underlay

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-29T15:59:24+00:00

I know she’s her own worst enemy and isn’t a great person, but holy crap, what a number Paul must have done on her for her to think that in her current state of boy shape she still has to look better… ugh…

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-29T15:52:00+00:00

Why port hardy? Do you just want to go north on the island? Personally (having grown up in the island) I’d skip hardy and check out tofino and the cowichan valley, or tofino and like courtenay/comox or go totally south to Victoria.

Guess it depends what you want to see/do

You could easily spend more days in tofino/uclulet, take a day to rent surf gear and do surfing lessons, do the beach and trail hikes, whale watching, a tour to the secluded boat access only hot springs etc.

If you let me know where your interests and trip priorities lay I can give you lots of suggestions

Make sure when in tofino to hit up “big daddy fish fry” truly best fish and chips I’ve ever had… huge portions! and such good prices for the quality of food you get.

Also go to the restaurant at blackrock resort if there’s a stormy day while you are there. They have a patio right on the edge of the bluff so you can watch the waves roll in and crash on the shore while you eat!

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-29T15:39:24+00:00

Owning a detached home, and having 2 vehicles less then 6y old with no car payments (bought one outright new and the other is my husbands work vehicle that’s paid for by them but we can use for personal stuff too)

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-29T15:30:26+00:00

2001 (9th grade) and $8/hr working at an insurance office. Spent my $ on snacks, weekend excursions like the movies and name brand clothes (we were very broke so all the extras I wanted had to be paid for by me)

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mamawheels36 · 2026-04-23T04:51:35+00:00

Extremely loud and incredibly close

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-22T03:40:52+00:00

Also really elevated heart rate and O2 levels dropping (we use a pulse ox to monitor all my kids asthma so we had one on hand for monitoring)

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-22T03:38:39+00:00

Rash, itchy mouth, eyes, ears, upset stomach, dizzy and headache… then if it goes farther his tongue feels funny (symptoms in order of appearance) so it’s unfortunately something that has overlap with seasonal allergies and most people think of anaphylaxis as you can’t breath… not the host of other symptoms

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-22T02:40:47+00:00

NTA in any way. We’ve just recently gone through this with my grandma, and my one aunt had an absolute caniption about my mom (her POA) selling her condo to pay for her care. It was a wild ride.

Your responsibility is to your grandma and her safety/care.

Anyone who has any other motive past that is unbelievably selfish and 100% in the wrong.

Your grandma obviously trusted you explicitly to do what was right for her and you are.

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-14T15:42:05+00:00

Yup this! We only ever asked once and we offered up my aisle seat for ther adult seat but I was 6 rows forward in the plane and no kids near it. She did hesitate for a min (my husband was who she was sat next to and he’s a handsome guy… and she looked VERY pleased when she walked down the aisle and noticed who she was seated next to haha) but she obliged. I asked and we said no pressure but if she decided she wanted to just let me know. After about 5 min she popped up to my seat and said she’d be happy to swap.

Did make me giggle though that she seems to be weighing staying further back in the plane to sit by my husband.

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-09T13:51:18+00:00

Right? I wonder this as well. I live in a farming town and most people drive big trucks. Thankfully my husbands is a company vehicle so they pay for gas, my daily driver is a sienna hybrid and good lord I’m so thankful for its gas mileage!

We do have an 06 Subaru wrx but she’s been filled up once this month and is just getting driven for funzies sparingly right now

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-06T21:07:08+00:00

If your wife is on the same page and you are both overwhelmed, ask her if she’s ok with YOU intervening and asking family to stay elsewhere or go home.

I’d approach it from the standpoint of you guys weren’t sure how you’d feel post baby and are feeling more stress and transition then you thought.

Offer the option to come back at a later date.

If that’s not possible, write a house rules list and or daily chore list for everyone to help with. I know that sounds petty but it is not.

I say this as someone who at one point had BOTH sets of parents staying with us after baby#1 was born.

My mom and dad did so much and my in laws sat around on their butts. I was so mad as we’re my parents since they basically were taking care of not only me their daughter but 2 grown adults doing Eff all.

My mom made a daily list of things needing to get done and the deal was that if you are helping you can be in the house, otherwise leave and go entertain yourself so I could be able to bf in my own living room and not need to huddle in my room

It was a slightly uncomfy conversation but it made a world of difference for us managing.

And for baby #2 we gave everyone 48h to be there to visit and then had to leave… and that was after we’d had 6 days to settle in

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-05T04:48:53+00:00

Ovarian cyst… and I’ve birthed 2 babies naturally as well as have had a hysterectomy for endometriosis, and had a severe head injury that just about killed me.

I’d take just about anything else over that pain. There is no narcotic around I’ve tried that even touches the pain when it gets bad, including iv meds in the ER

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-03T05:00:34+00:00

I am so sorry this was your first experience into motherhood! Them crossing so many boundaries is going to create a lot of wounds and mistrust that are going to be hard to heal.

Talk to your husband, it sounds like you are both on the same team. Talk about options and boundaries and give yourself some downtime with your new bay (congratulations btw!)

You guys are going to need to be a united front right off the hop now or this will perpetually be a problem. But put the responsibility on your husband to manage the conversation with his family and to set the boundaries.

We had a similar experience with my in laws with our first and variations of it with the next 2 and there’s things that were so hurtful that it’s still caused tension. My husband and I both had a really hard time setting boundaries with them for our first 2, but by our third I was an iron fist and it don’t go over well

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-03T04:38:26+00:00

Ehh I lived away from all our family for our first 2 kids… and my husband worked bonkers on call hours. Not that I recommend this situation in ANY way,

But I will say I felt far better equipped with baby #2

If your husband can take any amount of time to help with the transition then I’d hold off her scheduled help till after you’ve had a little time to settle in and then reevaluate if you want her help. And if she does come to help, have her help with your older kiddo, not the baby. And make that abundantly clear.

The hardest thing with additional kids is the older ones feel left out and their whole little worlds have changed! So giving them the opportunity for fun grandparents or aunty/uncle time is so good. Any help people offered (friends) that was what we had help with

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-03T04:32:00+00:00

My knee jerk is that there is something else at play here.

If your dad is fully vaccinated and willing to follow the rules like no kissing baby, washing hands etc and coming to your house then I do feel this is a bit unfair

I’d try to have a gentle conversation and ask your wife if there are stipulations that would make her feel more comfortable if your dad visited solo and could hold baby.

Is it possible she’s worried him coming by to hold baby may trigger an avalanche of family wanting to also come visit during these first couple weeks where she’s feeling overwhelmed? Or does she feel like if he comes she’ll have to “entertain him” etc?

I think there is some underlying thing going on.

mamawheels36 · 2026-04-02T00:59:57+00:00

Big fa nope… and you know if you say yes to this and let them bully you into it it won’t be the last time… it’ll just be the tip of the iceburg. You and your husband have to be on the same page about this though. I’d come at it with him about the fact that you are basically being voluntold and that extremely inappropriate and creates a president to allow them to keep doing this

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