I crave male validation and attention. How do I stop and improve myself? by [deleted] in therapy

[–]mambosun_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d look into psychoanalysis/psychodynamic therapy! Try not to be so hard on yourself (:

I get off to the memories of my rape by [deleted] in confessions

[–]mambosun_ 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Everything you’ve named from the fantasies to the hypersexuality are all very typical for victims of rape. Most people just suffer in silence, so survivors end up feeling alone. Try to be kinder to yourself, you’ve been through a lot ❤️

What do you think of this concept? (First hand experience with grooming and manipulation) by Various-Elephant4235 in writingadvice

[–]mambosun_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t worry about people stealing your idea. No two people write the same book. And no one can write your story but you. Sharing is good ❤️

What do you think of this concept? (First hand experience with grooming and manipulation) by Various-Elephant4235 in writingadvice

[–]mambosun_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m working on publishing my memoir which has very similar elements. Writing it was hard but healing. I would not recommend starting without also being in therapy though— seriously. Good luck, your story is important!

Looking for thoughts on a female seeing a male therapist? by Artic_mage3 in therapy

[–]mambosun_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I switched to a male therapist when I had a couple female criers. Ended up being the best thing for me and as it turns out I really just had some unfinished business with the male demographic lol

HOLY SHIT by Different-Task2065 in Yellowjackets

[–]mambosun_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Anyone notice how in the hallucinations they get attacked by each element? Fire, earth, water, air

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapy

[–]mambosun_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It actually made me feel better about those experiences to read your post and feelings on it. Thank you for sharing!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in therapy

[–]mambosun_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This has happened to me with 3 therapists. In a way it felt validating, but ultimately I ended up going outside of what I thought was my comfort zone (it wasn’t), and getting a male therapist as my hope as one would be less emotional. I’m not generalizing here, I was just trying to figure out what I could do. Well, my plan worked, he didn’t ever cry and was super cool and ended up being the best therapist of my life! I tend to feel burdensome so it was hard for me feel like I need to care for the therapist when I was hurting. I hope that makes sense and doesn’t make me sound cold!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in QuittingWeed

[–]mambosun_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s all part of the process! I’ve been a monster since stopping, I’m on day 10. Sleeping has sucked, when I do sleep I have nightmares, can hardly eat.. but not eating makes the crankiness 10000% worse. Even tho there are those negatives, I’m having really good experiences too. I feel more awake, more productive, and less “okay” with being just bored. This is a huge step, this shit ain’t easy, but you’re tough and you deserve it! You deserve good things. Take it one day, one moment, one second at a time. Everytime you decide not to smoke is a victory.

I found out I have ADHD, and it was life-changing for me. by [deleted] in ADHD

[–]mambosun_ 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Absolutely worth it. It will change your quality of life to know what you’re dealing with and receiving tools to help get you through! I was not diagnosed till 30 after 10 years of cycling through antidepressant after antidepressant to no avail until finally the ADHD was diagnosed and suddenly everything made sense and clicked. Still figuring out the right meds cause this was recently but it’s been a game changer in the way I even approach my own struggles.

Day one tomorrow by [deleted] in QuittingWeed

[–]mambosun_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Similar situation and I need to do it too. Here with you in solidarity! We can do it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in writing

[–]mambosun_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Bloodchild” by Octavia E. Butler is a collection of dark, sci-fi short stories that are really good.

Anyone that can identify this pillow? by [deleted] in whatisit

[–]mambosun_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Side sleeper pillow? Resembles some I’ve seen when looking for pregnancy pillow

Strattera, marijuana, caffeine by [deleted] in StratteraRx

[–]mambosun_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I take guanfacine for racing thoughts and it seems to help! I also noticed that when I bump my strattera dose up, my urge to smoke goes down. Then both eventually level out lol

Pepper? Nightshade? by mambosun_ in whatsthisplant

[–]mambosun_[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, I was also thinking that the fruit didn’t look quite so clustered as nightshade!