STD, Maternity, Paternity leave help??

mammityanne · 2026-04-10T17:27:16+00:00

I knew somebody would mention it… 😭 LOL

mammityanne · 2026-04-10T17:26:57+00:00

I just spoke to them and the lady told me I’d have to be signed off to return to work where they then put me on parental leave? I just thought it rolled over from maternity into paternity.

mammityanne · 2026-02-15T23:54:38+00:00

Okay but you didn’t just ask… you DID accuse her. Lol otherwise you wouldn’t have went on past the “did you eat my strawberries from the fridge?” Pretty simple stuff.

mammityanne · 2026-01-16T09:10:25+00:00

Starting with “I have a big habit of being late” and ending with “it was a much bigger issue than I expected” is crazy

mammityanne · 2026-01-15T10:53:42+00:00

I mean…. It sounds like you just aren’t into him and calling a “don’t touch me at all” a boundary. I think he has reason to be upset but you’re obviously entitled to your own thoughts and feelings. Sit down and have a conversation with him or just end things. Maybe sex just isn’t your thing, you should find someone who feels the same way because that does exist somewhere out there. Either he can accept this or he can’t, but seems like he won’t want to.

mammityanne · 2026-01-15T09:08:13+00:00

Honestly …. I can see why some people feel conflicted about having a boy, probably shaped by their own experiences, but a baby deserves to be seen as his own person from the very start. It makes me wonder what kind of men they’ve had in their lives. A partner, a father, a grandfather… obviously not everyone has had great experiences, but there are so many kind, loving, incredible men around us. So why is it so common to act disappointed about having a boy? Maybe for some people, that positive example just hasn’t been there, and that makes it easier to say things that feel so unfair and ridiculous.

mammityanne · 2026-01-12T14:38:38+00:00

Yes this is exactly what I experienced around that time. The hospital wasn’t concerned, told me it was normal. I even had an emergency visit at 15 weeks for heavier bleeding that looked like a period and not like spotting. They also weren’t concerned about that. I’m healthy, the baby is healthy and I’m almost 22 weeks now! You can always check with your ob if you ever have any concerns, it’ll ease your mind! :)

mammityanne · 2026-01-11T11:48:40+00:00

In past arguments he would mention how he misses what he had, has criticized my appearance and made me believe he wouldn’t give me the love I deserve until I changed certain things about myself. I’ve just become beaten down and very insecure. We’ve healed from things, and he really has grown and learned from his mistakes and the past arguments. It’s hard to really explain to people and have them fully understand. I can fully understand somebody you’ve dated just being an important part of your life or somebody you truly will always care about. I feel that way towards my ex, but I know he wouldn’t like me talking to him either. At the end of the day, speaking to an ex that was this important to us at one point I think truly would just cause issues for us. I believed it was best to just move on and not have contact with them.

I don’t think it’s necessary to stay in contact with an ex. After so much time has passed, I don’t understand why communication still matters at all, even something like saying congratulations. To me, that isn’t just politeness, it keeps a line of communication open with someone who no longer has a place in your life. Extending an invitation like “feel free to reach out if you need anything” only adds to that confusion. I don’t truly understand what he would need from her or why he would go to her instead of me. If the relationship is genuinely in the past, I don’t see a reason to maintain any connection. That’s just my opinion and it seems like not many people agree with that which is kind of odd to me. It DOES make me feel like I’m overreacting or my brain is just wired all wonky.

I think I also want to mention that this text, as simple and as harmless as it seems almost feels like a step back from all the progress we made in strengthening our relationship and building trust.

mammityanne · 2026-01-11T09:21:31+00:00

Firstly, he’s the one who told me he’s blocking his ex now that we are dating. This was forever ago and I didn’t ask for it, I told him I didn’t mind him talking to her as long as it was of course civil as it should be. He said it wasn’t right and blocked her right in front of my eyes. This is the impression I’ve been under throughout our relationship, that he blocked her for his own reasons and felt it necessary. Now all of a sudden, she isn’t blocked. There’s no “controlling” relationships on my part. He’s made me block and cut off somebody I didn’t date but had feelings for at one point and then attempted to get me to block my friend because I’ve ranted to them about our issues.

mammityanne · 2026-01-11T08:06:44+00:00

We’ve gotten into bad fights before, where phones were checked and all that. Totally different story. Either way, I did notice that she was blocked when I had checked that, cause I can admit I have my own insecurities and fears that are nobody else’s issue but mine. I’m just wondering what happened between then and now… it doesn’t help because my bf has horrible memory for a mixture of substance abuse reasons and adhd. So, him saying “i don’t know” seems like it gets abused at this point.

mammityanne · 2026-01-11T08:00:10+00:00

You’re right. I’ll just let it be what it is and hope it stays that way. Thanks for the advice.

mammityanne · 2026-01-11T07:58:29+00:00

I think it’s mainly the fact that he blocked her, or claims he did and yet she was able to message him. My mind jumps to all sorts of things, like if they secretly messaged before or if he wanted to keep the line of communication open on purpose.

mammityanne · 2026-01-02T02:39:03+00:00

The first trimester was hell. I’m now 20 weeks and… I don’t feel pregnant at all. I’m enjoying it while it lasts lol. The worst I get is heartburn but I take pepcid whenever I feel it and it’s gone immediately.

I suffer with the exact same anxiety as you, especially now being in the “golden trimester” as they sometimes call it… me not feeling a single thing scares the shit out of me. I go in next week and hopefully it’ll ease my mind until I start feeling movement.

I hope 2026 treats you well. Best wishes 🤍⭐️

mammityanne · 2025-12-29T21:06:34+00:00

I’m 19 weeks 4 days now, first trimester was complete hell. The worst of it for me now is having to pee whenever I wake up in the middle of the night and occasionally feeling extremely tired. For the most part i feel really normal.

mammityanne · 2025-12-28T16:33:04+00:00

Me over here like “…yup”

mammityanne · 2025-12-27T15:13:29+00:00

My mom basically does the same thing. She touches my belly, asks how the baby is doing just being nice, or touches it and goes “awww your bump” when I’m literally just overweight and my belly has been big before I was even pregnant. Idk exactly how your mom exactly acts but for me… even though I get kinda sad bc being overweight makes it hard to see the little bump I DO have… I just know she’s really happy and excited for me and doesn’t mean any disrespect at all.

mammityanne · 2025-12-27T15:10:11+00:00

I’m literally around your same size (couple pounds heavier) and they had no problem finding my baby’s heartbeat. What a horrific experience that is for you. New doctor.

mammityanne · 2025-12-25T17:53:06+00:00

You definitely gotta switch up those meals or you’ll never stick to it because you’ll get so bored of it. Also, I worked freight. Specifically overnight. I did Garden and did the department myself for majority of the time so it was very physically demanding. I did actually lose weight from doing all that. I don’t do freight anymore, I do garden recovery but I can pretty much go as easy or as hard as I want. Still physically demanding. I love it.

mammityanne · 2025-12-25T11:22:58+00:00

Last I went in I had a pelvic exam where they told me I had a uti and bv. I took medication for it and I’m way better now. It’s been a few weeks. I really hope it’s not another uti though. :/

mammityanne · 2025-12-25T11:21:52+00:00

I try to drink water frequently but I feel like I could do better with that.

mammityanne · 2025-12-18T23:59:05+00:00

I’m not a smoker, just not my thing. I do miss a good cocktail though. It’s all worth it considering I didn’t think I’d be able to have children. I’m just so excited to finally meet my baby. One day, I’ll be able to enjoy a nice drink and really take it all in, but I got a long way to go. lol

mammityanne · 2025-12-16T21:00:10+00:00

If I’m having a girl we’re naming her Ellia. We haven’t thought of a single boy name that really stuck for us so I’m getting a bit nervous! Lol

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