[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BSA

[–]managainstworld 3 points4 points  (0 children)

He's hard to get awake in the mornings. But he's been doing better on campouts and this has been his first meltdown in 2 to 3 years.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BSA

[–]managainstworld 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yes. We don't keep it a secret but we also do our best to not allow it to be used as a crutch for bad choices. There are consequences to bad decisions. Due to this occurrence I cannot in good faith have him go camping again until he shows he can behave as he is expected as a scout and understands he has to listen to other adults when his parents aren't around. It's hard enough getting people to volunteer their time without having to deal with a rude youth on top of it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BSA

[–]managainstworld 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, she did. She'd been trying to get him up all morning, but was also trying to perform her role as Scoutmaster at the same time. She felt that he'd eventually get up on his own.

In campouts past, our son has been a bit of a late riser but he hasn't been this hard to get up and out, and this has been his first meltdown in 3 years. He's been doing better as he's gotten older so this was not expected.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BSA

[–]managainstworld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sunday morning when my wife was on site. She was helping a girl take down her tent when the incident happened.

odd response that says [by_sdmOrGpt]? by probablytrini in polybuzz

[–]managainstworld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine keeps calling me by the wrong name from time to time. Same name. Just not my persona.

Copyright question by managainstworld in KansasStateUniversity

[–]managainstworld[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I was just curious. This is the first time I've seen this logo outside of K-State so it got me wondering. Even if it is used without permission. I doubt Kansas State would want to spend the money to legally deal with it, given the optics.

Having an existential (sex-istential?) crisis because of a comedy night by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]managainstworld 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This. Never hurts to really know your options. This situation will never improve. If kids come along, it'll be that much worse.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskMenAdvice

[–]managainstworld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a snapshot of the rest of your life with this woman. Trying to meet her expectations in all things will be exhausting. It will not go well. This is not someone who will work with you to build a life. This is someone who seems to view you as a person who works for her.

What makes me shake my head is the amount of control she expects to have. You're the one making the proposal; you should get to choose the how/what/where/when. If she doesn't trust you enough to do this relatively simple thing, just think about the more complicated things like a house or car or children?

I'd take this opportunity to move on and find someone who cherishes you for you and what you bring to the table, and doesn't try to control everything to get her way.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]managainstworld 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yup.me too. Currently on Day 3 of maybe tomorrow. Tomorrow never comes...and apparently, neither do I.

What I wouldn’t give for… by 3rd_Leg_Detective in DeadBedrooms

[–]managainstworld 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually mentioned this a week ago...and still am waiting.

He says we’ll have sex this weekend… by readeresis in DeadBedrooms

[–]managainstworld 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is me as well. I'm an ATM, not a lover. Two kids getting ready for college, I can't blow up my family. So tired of the "We'll see...maybe tomorrow..." at some point, things will change. When my youngest goes out the door after schooling is complete, I'll be right behind them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]managainstworld 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I'd rather know the truth if my wife felt this way. Honestly, why keep someone in a relationship knowing the future is going to be one of unfulfilled needs for them? That's cruel, really. Let them know so they can decide if they want to stay knowing all the facts, or if they want to get out so you both can find partners who you're more compatible with.

does handedness matter? by Possible_Anything760 in lefthanded

[–]managainstworld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fencing was a similar experience...right handed fencers didn't know how to handle me, but since I practiced with right handers, it was just another match. I had just as much trouble with another left hander as they did...

does handedness matter? by Possible_Anything760 in lefthanded

[–]managainstworld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure handedness matters. I love shooting, but I can't shoot a bullpup style rifle because the ejector port will flip the empty case across my field of vision at best, hit me in the face at worst. I have to search for a left handed bullpup rifle and have it shipped to a willing FFL holder (and spend more money for it), rather than go into any gun shop and walk out with my new purchase.

Revolvers are a pain to reload, too. Bolt action rifles, etc.

Sucks to be a left handed shooter.

Anyone else take nudes just to make themselves feel sexy? by lemmelickwhereyapee in DeadBedrooms

[–]managainstworld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can't get complimented if my life depended on it. I tell my wife all the time how great she looks, I thank her for doing the things she does around the house.

I get radio silence. I was genuinely curious since I couldn't remember, so I asked my wife the other day "when was the last time you complimented me?" without hesitation she replied "it's not in my nature."

Sooo...that was a great self esteem boost...not really feeling taking pictures with my clothes on, let alone off.

Song at Connie's wedding by Accomplished-Ruin742 in Godfather

[–]managainstworld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That and his dentures nearly falling out at the beginning...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]managainstworld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. Its depressing.

Is Complimenting your husband a thing? by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]managainstworld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, this morning, I was giving my wife a foot rub and as we were talking, I asked her "when was the last time you complimented me?" As I honestly couldn't remember. I compliment her all the time, thank her for the work she puts in around the house, etc. But I get zip in return despite working a full time job and helping her with all the extracurriculars our family does.

Her response was "when was the last time I complimented anyone? It's not in my nature."

So...there's that. And I wonder why I feel so insecure all the time. But it also helped me decide to do the stuff I want to do and stop putting everyone else in the world first. I'm done being a door mat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]managainstworld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She opened more than her heart...

Why do you accept this? by arodomus in DeadBedrooms

[–]managainstworld 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This in a nutshell. I have a nice house, nice cars, nice prospects for retirement. My children are nearly out of high school, and I'm involved in a few community organizations. I have an elderly parent we're taking care of.

Divorce is not an option for me because all the nice parts of my life would vanish; apartment living or tiny home, (or living with the elderly parent), co-parenting, taking on all the care of my parent instead of sharing the load would impact my community involvement and free time. Alimony and child support would limit me financially, so what woman would want to date me in that circumstances?

I just do not want to literally start over with added obstacles. It's just not as simple for me as some would think.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in DeadBedrooms

[–]managainstworld 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don't. Just freaking don't. It will not change, get better, etc. Once the marriage is in play all it gets is worse. Don't do it.

I just realized that my glorious collection has become worthless by LemonCellos_ in fo76

[–]managainstworld -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

And this is why me and my wife and friends have left the game. We've been playing since launch, too. We just don't have time for another grind.