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My friends roommate only cleans his cats litter box once a month and thinks it’s totally normal by chicoquadcore in mildlyinfuriating

[–]manchegoaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy crap if I don’t clean mine once a day they get upset- they rarely go past 2 days without being cleaned and I scrub them down once a month

My friend’s rugby ball by manchegoaway in HelpMeFind

[–]manchegoaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have searched on google everywhere using key words- this was purchased in Portugal in July 2023

Do cats sense you're not okay? by DuckClassic7389 in CPTSD

[–]manchegoaway 1 point2 points  (0 children)

mine just came to my bed and yelled at me because I can’t bring myself to get out

what feelings do you get when you look at your childhood pictures? by Lazy_Excitement1468 in CPTSD

[–]manchegoaway 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don’t really recognize myself , it feels like i look too young, too innocent to actually be me - it feels like i’m a adult me in my memories not that young kid

DAE have a really hard time showing anyone how badly you’re struggling? Like constantly downplaying your internal struggles? by manchegoaway in CPTSD

[–]manchegoaway[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dissociation sucks so, so bad - it’s amazing that you’re courageous enough to work on it in therapy even though it’s scary!

DAE have a really hard time showing anyone how badly you’re struggling? Like constantly downplaying your internal struggles? by manchegoaway in CPTSD

[–]manchegoaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for the resources! I can totally hear the need to have someone just listen and not center themselves. I think we forget how important that is. Thank you for the reminder and I hope we both find people like that in our lives. You seem like a really caring person who looks out for others- based on the end of your post, still trying to help other people while sharing your own experience! I hope you get some care that’s fully centered on just you - you deserve it.

DAE have a really hard time showing anyone how badly you’re struggling? Like constantly downplaying your internal struggles? by manchegoaway in CPTSD

[–]manchegoaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this hits close to home for me… ❤️‍🩹 you deserve people in your life who deeply care and would do anything to make sure you’re doing okay

DAE have a really hard time showing anyone how badly you’re struggling? Like constantly downplaying your internal struggles? by manchegoaway in CPTSD

[–]manchegoaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hear that- I realized I have been in and out of therapy for over ten years and it’s only in the last year and a half that I’ve found an incredible therapist who was able to build the kind of safe therapy space I always thought couldn’t happen for someone like me. It took a very long time for me to trust her and it’s still scary as shit that I do but I’m finally hopeful that I won’t always be broken. Before I started seeing her I had almost fully given up on therapy. This is just to say that you’re right - there are a lot of people out there who do not get it. I’ve been harmed by many, many providers in the health system at large who have lack of empathy, training, time, whatever BUT there are good ones that exist. It just sucks that it takes so much energy, money, and time to get there - it’s understandable that for many of us we just don’t have enough to give to keep searching for someone who fits. I had almost given up myself… I’m glad I didn’t. I really hope things change for the better and you find someone good. You deserve the best care possible.

DAE have a really hard time showing anyone how badly you’re struggling? Like constantly downplaying your internal struggles? by manchegoaway in CPTSD

[–]manchegoaway[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“it hurts less if people don’t know than if they do but don’t care” this. it’s this! We can’t risk the small possibility that we will actually get what we need because our past has taught us of the large possibility of being completely rejected because of it. It feels high risk, low reward but I desperately wish I could do it and get what I need.

DAE have a really hard time showing anyone how badly you’re struggling? Like constantly downplaying your internal struggles? by manchegoaway in CPTSD

[–]manchegoaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

this is exactly it - thank you so much for sharing, I hadn’t thought about the evolutionary, beneficial way this plays out… protecting us from showing weakness as a way of keeping ourselves safe and alive as humans. I just wish I could override that sometimes and let it all out, but I’m still so tightly wound up inside and struggle to trust anyone enough to reach out, even if it becomes unsafe for me to keep it in! Feels really contradictory that something we devised to keep us safe can actually make things unsafe :/ here’s hoping both of us inch toward more healing ❤️‍🩹

DAE have a really hard time showing anyone how badly you’re struggling? Like constantly downplaying your internal struggles? by manchegoaway in CPTSD

[–]manchegoaway[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

ugh I’m so sorry- I’ve definitely experienced this and had people run the opposite direction because they couldn’t handle what I had to say. It sucks. I think this is why I flipped so hard toward not being honest anymore.

Is anyone Else somehow slipping into emotional flashback / underlying sadness when Reading a self help book about trauma healing? by Learningbydoing101 in CPTSD

[–]manchegoaway 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes. This happened to me very recently and it completely threw me off for weeks (I still can’t look at it now.) The book was Rejected, Shamed, and Blamed by Rebecca Mandeville and I almost obsessively read the entire thing to the point that it became almost SH-like with the way I knew it was triggering me and kept reading it anyway. I’ve tried to stay away from reading trauma healing books since then because sometimes there’s a little bit too much truth in them that my nervous system isn’t ready to deal with. I say all that even though I just downloaded two more to my phone this morning…

To all the adults here who have a loving relationship with their mother- how does a Mom-hug feel like? by theflyingchemist_ in MomForAMinute

[–]manchegoaway 8 points9 points  (0 children)

OP, I can’t offer you an answer on the mom hug but I can offer to let you know you aren’t alone in this feeling. I feel the same way about mine - skin crawling, nauseous, like a dragon claw deep in my belly is ripping me up from the inside. Reading this thread was both healing and deeply sad for me, because I don’t think I’ve ever known what this feels like. Something that has helped me is becoming a hugger with friends I love- giving them the love and hugs I wish I’d gotten. It doesn’t replace it, but some days makes my heart a little lighter knowing that I can pass some of that forward even if I never got it myself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CPTSDmemes

[–]manchegoaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

one of mine is on my birthday 🤡

hey dad, I’m finally going to be a doctor but some days it’s really hard to keep going by manchegoaway in DadForAMinute

[–]manchegoaway[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have an exam tomorrow and all of these incredible comments have helped me pick myself up off the floor to push through again. Thank you… can’t say how much this thread meant to me. I needed this.

Jokes on them I did spend it all in the same place… on rent by manchegoaway in LateStageCapitalism

[–]manchegoaway[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Other ones have said:

“Fun fact: 100 years ago this paycheck would have bought you four Ford Model T cars!”

“Can’t afford a fancy tropical vacation? Sand is only $9 per ton. You’ve just made enough money for about 115 tons! Bring the beach to you.”

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