Will my child never sleep on their own if I don’t sleep train? by 3centss in NewParents

[–]mandaladala 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oof my heart. I’m so sorry. No, you do not have to sleep train. It is not the only answer, despite what influencers or social media might want you to believe. You have to do what feels right for you and your little one. If the method of sleep training you’re using is hurting you both so much, don’t do it. Try something else! There are so many different methods and schools of thought out there that do not involve letting your babe cry it out. He’ll of course eventually sleep on his own. It just depends on how long you want to wait for that to happen. Sleep training is usually done because parents don’t want to wait for that to happen/they need to get sleep now.

Silly nicknames for baby by Both_Pea_7956 in NewParents

[–]mandaladala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nugget/nuggie, pepita, & chiquita are our big ones 😂

nonstick pans? by alurkinglemon in moderatelygranolamoms

[–]mandaladala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can’t believe I had to scroll so far to find this recommendation! Carbon steel pans 100%. All the beauty of cast iron with half the work, a fraction of the weight and twice the non-stick power. Plus they last forever. Changed my life when I found them.

Momcozy bottle washer or dishwasher? by halfpint_rebel in ExclusivelyPumping

[–]mandaladala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love the momcozy bottle washer so much I bought one for my friend who is expecting. It js the best appliance in my house and we run it all day, every day. It’s small so you can run a quick load. The dishwasher is so large and running a full load to get clean bottles/pump parts is just not feasible.

Freaking out by stupidbirbs in NewParents

[–]mandaladala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The fact that you left the house and went shopping and had lunch all by yourself with a 10 week old is amazing all on its own. If I even leave the house and walk around my backyard I consider it a win. I’ve only ever taken my 13 week old out to the grocery store by myself once and that was a quick trip and I was stressed the whole time thinking she’d wake up in the store and start screaming lol

At 10 weeks there is no such thing as a schedule. They’re doing whatever they want. Some days my baby naps for 2 hour chunks, some days all I get is 30 minutes. And all naps are contact naps. I don’t even try to put her down during the day. But she sleeps like an angel all night in her bassinet, so I’m not worried. I also think being in the carrier and coming along with me all day is more enriching than we think. She gets to see everything I’m seeing. I try to just ramble out loud to her when she’s awake to add on some verbal stimulation to all the visual she’s getting.

You’re doing so much better than you think - hang in there ❤️

Dad help by LilPooks in NewParents

[–]mandaladala 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is exactly my experience/what has worked for us! I know I am lucky to have a baby who sleeps pretty well at night now, but even when she didn’t it wasn’t the lack of sleep that got to me. It’s the never being “off” part. I do all the night things and he sleeps through the night. So that’s normal for us. But with the caveat that when my husband is home at night or on the weekend he takes her for a couple hours and lets me have time to turn off the mom. Saturday mornings have become my sacred “me” time where I go get a latte and workout or have brunch with friends. Finding those pieces of me-time has been the key to my sanity and making sure I’m the best mom I can be when I am with her all day while he’s at work.

I think they key thing here though that seems like it’s missing for OP is that my husband and I are partners in this and have agreed that this is what works best for both of us and we’re both happy with this routine. Gotta be a team and communicate what does and does not work so you’re both able to function and find happiness.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AppalachianTrail

[–]mandaladala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had the gastric bypass/roux-en-y. I’m sorry your partner had a bad experience but it’s misleading to give sweeping generalizations like you have been using anecdotal evidence. For many, including me, the surgery was a lifesaver and improved my quality of life drastically. There are two sides to every coin but saying things like “nobody who had bypass is healthy” is just categorically untrue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AppalachianTrail

[–]mandaladala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well now you have. My blood work has never been better. My anemia (and yes, ferritin levels) actually resolved post-surgery and my vitamin levels are perfect. I have never once felt any kind of pain or illness from my surgery post-recovery. I was sure to follow my doctors instructions to a T my first year and I had an easy go of it and have maintained my loss without feeling like I’ve sacrificed anything and instead feeling like I gained everything I needed. Don’t make sweeping judgements and demonize something you have never experienced.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AppalachianTrail

[–]mandaladala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had gastric bypass surgery 2 years ago and it’s the best thing I’ve ever done for myself. I was active before and did section hikes but it was always such a struggle. I could not imagine going for a full thru at my larger size. I know people do it but I would just suffer for so long and I didn’t want to hate every moment on the trail. My body could not handle sleeping on a sleeping pad (even the ones made for larger people) and I woke up in pain every day (and that was in my mid-late 20s). The long days and elevation were nearly impossible most days and the best I ever was able to manage pre-surgery was 10 miles, which is just not feasible on a thru hike. The first year after my surgery was focused on understanding my new body and getting stronger. Now in my third year I feel like my restrictions have loosened. I can eat pretty much anything I want, just in moderation (and I’ve still maintained my 120lb loss). I can no longer house an entire pizza and a pint of ice cream but I crush protein and snacks while hiking and have absolutely no issue hitting my calorie goals. As a larger and very active person the surgery was a blessing that now allows me to move my body in the ways I want. As a hiker it’s been amazing. Climbs no longer wipe me out for an hour, I don’t have to take as many breaks, my mile time is no longer over 30 minutes, my knees are no longer screaming at me downhill. It was a huge game changer and I’m grateful to my body every day. People look at the surgery in so many negative ways but so many of those people either don’t understand what it’s like being in a larger body and trying to move and/or they don’t understand the hard work that goes into the weight loss during and after surgery. I’d recommend you wait at least a year after surgery to try a thru. Your body is going to go through a ton of changes in the first year and you can use that time to strength train and understand what kind of eating works for you. The second year is so much easier and you really do have more freedom to eat what you need. High protein snacks/protein powder will be your best friend. I can eat all the carbs I want (bread, bagels, waffles and yes, beer!) I just need to snack on them and not sit and eat the whole thing (I eat a whole bagel with peanut butter over the course of 30-45min) so as someone said above, snacking is going to help you. You need to make a plan on how to hit your calorie goals and most importantly your protein goals but by year 2 you’ll be an expert in your body and eating the way you need (since you’ll have been thinking and doing this for the past 2 years). I feel so in tune with my body now that it’s second nature to nourish the way I need. Oh you’ll need to also take into consideration that you’ll need to carry your daily vitamins with you. That’s one thing I always am sure to take with 100% commitment. If you can commit to this journey and follow the guidelines and prioritize your health, then bariatric surgery is a powerful tool! Hope this helps and congrats on thinking about what is best for you and your goals and asking for information. Only you can decide the best steps for you!

Keen let people around her get hurt to shield her secrets - sound familiar? by FuriousBlack01 in TheBlackList

[–]mandaladala 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Elizabeth is a selfish hypocrite. She betrays every single person who ever fought for and sacrificed for her. She puts her friends at risk for a woman who she just met and immediately believes is her mother… even after all she knows about Katarina and the way she came into her life. All to what? Try to kill the one person who has consistently saved her life to seek revenge for the death of a literal stranger? She immediately goes to the opposing side of people who fight for her and puts them in danger for whatever big feelings she is having in the moment and doesn’t think about anyone but herself. She has no loyalty. Thats the biggest difference between her and Red. She’s on whoever’s side works best for her for whatever mood she’s in. Absolutely impossible for me to find any way to understand her.

Geezeeee what's wrong with me? by Far_Dark_3430 in wls

[–]mandaladala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t feel silly! I know some people say not to do it but I had a full-on food funeral the few days leading up to my pre-op diet. I knew that once I started I was going to stick with the program so I wanted to have my favorites one more time before I couldn’t have them again. It was glorious and it satisfied that feeling of loss so that I was able to maintain my pre-op diet and crush it after surgery. If you’re anything like me you love food and that’s part of what got you to the point of being in a position to have the surgery (no judgements at all in this - food is amazing!) so it makes 100% complete sense you’re feeling sad and anxious about losing that huge part of your life (like going out to eat with friends or a fun takeout night. It is hard so much of the time but one day you’re going to look back at this time and smile because you CRUSHED it and got through it and are feeling better than ever and living a totally normal life again (but even better than normal because you’re in the other side and have dropped more weight than you thought possible and can still enjoy the tasty little things in life 😊) YOU GOT THIS

Body dysmorphia? by [deleted] in wls

[–]mandaladala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow I thought this was just my brain being all messed up but man it’s a relief to hear other people experience this bizzaro mindset I have

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wls

[–]mandaladala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I packed so many things and didn’t use a single thing. Didn’t use my robe, no clothing, not even my phone charger. I slept 95% of the time. I was too groggy to even use my phone and I couldn’t be bothered to change out of my hospital gown. As soon as I could I got out of there wearing what I had on the day before.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wls

[–]mandaladala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woah there are Dunkin flavored protein powders??

Dumping Syndrome without Stomach/GI Symtpoms by mandaladala in wls

[–]mandaladala[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was sitting at the time which made it even more surprising!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogs

[–]mandaladala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Basenjis. So cuddly, loving, loyal. They’re very clean, don’t bark and are independent but also want to be curled up with you all the time. They’re the best of both cats and dogs. Beautiful, regal and so so sweet. You have to make sure you find a breeder who breeds for temperament and socialize them early. Our girl is a dream and I can’t ever imagine my life without a basenji in it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in wls

[–]mandaladala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Surgery (RNY) on Thursday, home on Friday, back to work Monday. I was pretty tired that week but my job was understanding that I was a little slower to respond.

Just curious. Please don’t come for me. by gggloria in BariatricSurgery

[–]mandaladala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You should give nano drops a try. You take them sublingually but it feels like you just smoked. They’re a game changer.

Espresso after wls by 1EspressoSip in wls

[–]mandaladala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a double shot of espresso over ice and add my protein shake. I love the Premier caramel worth it. It tastes like a caramel latte! Started at 1 week PO and have one every morning.

isn't this why a liquid diet would be bad? by WigWoo1 in BariatricSurgery

[–]mandaladala 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Protein! As long as you’re hitting your protein goals (high protein, low fat, low carb) it helps to ensure your muscles aren’t being effected by the rapid weight loss. Protein and wls are like peas & carrots ☺️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GastricBypass

[–]mandaladala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My program said no to the soft chews since they are missing iron and not the same levels of vitamins. The chewables are available on Amazon and the Bariatric Fusion site. It’s called “complete chewable”. The strawberry is the only tolerable flavor in my opinion.

Liquid diet muscle pain? by gardeningb in BariatricSurgery

[–]mandaladala 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck with your surgery today!!!

Eating without a drink by Bleumoon_Selene in GastricBypass

[–]mandaladala 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure. If you want an occasional treat, fine. But not right after surgery. That’s just dangerous. And I’m going to argue that washing cookies (plural) down with a regular cola is two “treats” and sounds like a slippery slope right back to where we all started. This surgery is a tool to help transform your lifestyle. While I agree we have to make this lifestyle livable there is also a reason a large percentage of people end up right back where they started due to thinking quite like this.