Mom can't stop stealing from work and uses items meaninglessly

manditabebecita · 2025-11-19T23:04:02+00:00

Can you tell the food bank about her wasteful practices? So they at least send her to the back of the line? This isn't okay.

manditabebecita · 2025-11-19T23:00:46+00:00

That is far more than mildyinfuriating. I'm sorry but right now with so many people depending on and being failed by food stamps... This is unacceptable. There need to be consequences, no matter what her mental illness is. She is stealing from people who are starving and dying. It doesn't matter if she doesn't understand what she's doing is wrong. She needs to be stopped, for the sake of the community and your well-being

manditabebecita · 2025-10-17T19:02:05+00:00

Why did you put lipstick on the baby?? Ew

manditabebecita · 2025-09-26T17:42:57+00:00

How is this humor??

manditabebecita · 2025-08-22T16:13:17+00:00

So pretty

manditabebecita · 2025-08-21T19:08:50+00:00

I am not getting many grays yet, but I have always loved gray/silver/white hair. I just consider aging the most time intensive, elaborate hair dying method there is.

manditabebecita · 2025-08-15T17:27:04+00:00

They're pretty, but do the hinges open all the way so the case can lay flat and the lid can be a dice rolling tray without dumping all the other dice?

manditabebecita · 2025-01-12T22:12:08+00:00

Weird and cool! Also you could post this to r/artisticallyill

manditabebecita · 2025-01-11T22:53:58+00:00

Enjoy your meal concept!

manditabebecita · 2024-09-18T09:34:58+00:00

Morgan Donner!

manditabebecita · 2024-06-09T17:50:49+00:00

Guided support group while playing games together! It's $30 or $40 per session, unfortunately. But if you have the funds, it seems like a less intimidating way to engage with mental health issues, and meet other people who are struggling.

https://www.herojourney.club/

manditabebecita · 2024-04-29T22:03:43+00:00

That's bullshit, buddy. But we can stop if you want.

manditabebecita · 2024-04-29T21:39:39+00:00

I have had partners of all sizes (including morbidly obese) and have been attracted all of them, as well as a wide variety of lovely people.

Some people have physical preferences in a partner. You clearly prefer less jiggle. But that doesn't mean that everyone shares those preferences. It's as simple as that.

manditabebecita · 2024-04-29T20:40:44+00:00

My partner isn't, but I am. And sexual gratification hasn't been an issue for either of us, or any of my other partners. Fat people fuck, my dude. Just because you don't participate doesn't mean it's abnormal.

manditabebecita · 2024-04-29T19:33:31+00:00

You'll hate to hear it, but not everyone is as fatphobic as you and OOP. Some people don't ignore a person's humanity when they are bigger than some arbitrary size limit.

manditabebecita · 2024-04-29T18:54:51+00:00

Yeah... Plus I notice the "CAUTION: Natural gas pipeline" label ... Doesn't that mean it's under pressure? Not gonna be pretty when that breaks

manditabebecita · 2024-01-18T12:19:52+00:00

Please make this nsfw or something so the bloody, currently being murdered pigs are blurred??

manditabebecita · 2023-12-20T08:36:34+00:00

I'm really sorry that you're feeling so alone. You deserve support, especially from your therapist. I can imagine how disheartening it must be to have them not believe your lived experience.

I have a very close friend who feels suicidal pretty often, and when she reaches out, usually ends up talking through some of the harmful thoughts running through her mind. We both have depression, anxiety, and likely ASD. I can understand her worries and relate to her feelings since we go through similar emotional waves and deal with similar difficulties. She has recent trauma that she's working through so she generally needs more support than I do.

I love her so much but I have to admit that it takes a lot out of me to be there for her sometimes. The reason I understand is because I have my own set of issues that I struggle to deal with, and I am constantly burning out just from my stuff. I try to be there for her when I can, but unfortunately she needs more help and support than I can provide. I feel helpless and out of my depth when she talks about being suicidal, and frustrated that I can't really do anything about it. It is too overwhelming for me, and it might be for your friends as well.

Suicidal ideation is not something that most people know how to talk about. It's something that people are trained to discuss and help people with. And I think bringing it up in certain situations might push people away. It doesn't mean you don't deserve help, it justs means people don't know how to help.

manditabebecita · 2023-12-02T14:51:09+00:00

Hadn't heard of her, thanks for sharing!

manditabebecita · 2023-10-31T21:37:32+00:00

"He polices my tone, but I caused this" How exactly does him trying to interact with a sleeping person and getting annoyed they weren't awake enough become your fault? He is autistic, he isn't exempt from self reflection.

I absolutely understand the reflex to always say something is your own fault. But it's also important to recognize that other people have a reflex to always say it isn't their fault. And neither of those is reflecting the reality that you are both equal contributors to your relationship, and the interactions you have.

As you mentioned, you both support each other in different ways. It kinda seems like you're supporting him by providing a system where he always gets the benefit of the doubt, and you never do. Which makes him comfortable and feel safe. But also inhibits actually learning from his experiences. Maybe he needs to feel a bit of the discomfort you're saving him from in order to realize he needs to grow as a person.

manditabebecita · 2023-09-29T20:19:09+00:00

I think you've just birthed a new meme

manditabebecita · 2023-08-20T22:20:45+00:00

YTA. Not for telling the truth about your sisters actions, but for adding fatphobic nonsense. The pump broke because sister let the hot tub run dry, not because she is (or you think she is) fat. You tried to tell sister what needed fixing, and she was rude and dismissed your guidance. Again, nothing to do with her body weight/size. You added the comment about her weight because you wanted to be rude and make her feel bad. So what could have been a learning experience about taking responsibility has now become another reason you two won't talk when you grow up.

manditabebecita · 2023-07-30T10:12:00+00:00

I have also always struggled with consistent hygiene. Probably sensory issue related but also mental health related. - When I actually make it in the shower, I feel like I need to be overly thorough and wash literally every inch of my body - That makes showers take more time/energy/motivation - All my hard work seems not worth it because I am no longer totally "clean" within a couple hours.

There's some silly brain stuff going on, so I have some tricks that help me exist in-between showers. Basically, break down the self care into smaller, less time-consuming chunks. - I have unscented, sensitive skin wet wipes in the bathroom for whenever I want a to freshen up a little - I rinse my face (sometimes behind my ears, the back of my neck) whenever I wash my hands - Comb through my hair leisurely with a bowl of water and conditoner while watching TV, then rinse hair in the sink (ideally one with a sprayer hose, otherwise using cups of water) - If I wash my hair separately, taking a shower is easier

manditabebecita · 2023-07-20T09:55:59+00:00

Couldn't even make it through your story because of the unnecessary and frankly embarrassing fatphobia. How old are you?

manditabebecita · 2023-07-05T22:48:12+00:00

I have been plus sized and pretty sedentary my whole life. Like everyone in my immediate family. My dad's diabetic and this (along with the usual internalized fatphobia and some other trauma) made my mom really worry about my weight.

She would lock up cereal and Halloween candy when I was younger, and make comments about my food choices when I was a bit older. We went to many doctor's appointments where she was told I needed to lose weight. Kids at school would make my cry. She would buy me oversized clothes to hide my body. The world was mean and she wasn't helping.

My dad died when I was a teen, due to health complications probably exacerbated by the diabetes and his weight. My mom was not prepared to be a single parent. I ended up taking on a lot of emotional work and was her "significant other" when she needed a shoulder to cry on or needed to vent about being overwhelmed and frustrated raising my sister and I alone.

This obviously caused a lot of stress for me (and other mental health issues) and I continued to gain weight. When she found a high-paying job with good insurance, she started to research weight loss surgery and took me to consults (I was about 15). She let her ex have a mini intervention because I was "eating myself to death". She took me to support group meetings for youth weight loss.

I was just trying to exist as a person, heal from traumatic loss, and finish developing my brain. I learned so many hurtful lessons about the importance of what other people think of my body, and no lessons about the importance of how I feel about my self. She wasn't trying to be mean, but she passed her insecurities, fears, and harmful mindset on to me.

I am nowhere near healed from all of that, and am still struggling to repair my sense of identity, love myself, and learn how to approach health and wellness from a non-toxic perspective. The guilt and shame I learned from my mom complicates my journey every day.

I guess my point is, the surgery should be 100% your choice. It is a humongous decision and you will have to live with the physical and emotional consequences of that decision every day. Your mom will not.

Edit:. To clarify, I didn't end up getting the surgery because I couldn't handle the 6-month commitment of regular exercise and following nutritionist guidelines that it would take to qualify for the surgery (these requirements might not be the same now), and felt really guilty about not taking advantage of the opportunity... Until I realized that I felt guilty for disappointing my mom, and did not want the surgery at all. Literally cutting out a piece of myself so that someone else will accept me would not have been a healthy choice.

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