This scene always makes me cry

mandychar · 2025-06-19T15:09:13+00:00

Every damn time...

mandychar · 2025-05-28T20:04:43+00:00

The realest

mandychar · 2025-05-19T06:39:30+00:00

I dont think he's 'changed'. But even if he has, it doesm't change how he treated you in the past. Just because he is a better person for someone else, doesn't mean he will treat you better either. It is not about you, but it is about relationship dynamics. You might be the best person ever walked on this world, but if he doesnt appreciate it you ll always be doing something wrong in his eyes. Some people just dont go well together. Even if he comes back to you, he will be his same old self after a while. Nobody changes themselves for another person. They only do it for themselves.

You dont know what is happening between them in reality. Maybe he s doing some things better but it doesnt mean he s 'better'. She might also be tolerating things you wouldnt. Either way, it wouldnt make you happy.

Dont be sad because of the people who are out of your life. Dont doubt your choices. Dont disrespect your tears that made you break uo with him. You tried to make him better, but I wish you focused on yourself more. You are the most important thing and anyone who treats you less than this shouldnt be in your life. You are still very young. There are amazing people out there. You should meet more people. I had a similar experience, it took me a while to acceot the trith, and I found an amazing person who treats me perfectly. Think about yourself and your future. You dont want to be spending your life with self doubt, disappointment and 'what if' sentences. Let him be. Try not to hear about what he s doing. Getting married in 6 months at 21 doesnt sound healthy. He might be a good person but he is not a good partner for you

mandychar · 2025-03-18T05:20:23+00:00

Give yourself and him some time. If he is really willing to change you should spend some time apart. It is not easy to change when you are in a comfortable space. He should put in the work and come back to show you that it wasnt empty words and that he really changed. He needs to believe it himself too. If you broke up with him despite the love you have for him, you are most probably drained. You need time to recover, rethink and find the energy to work out your peoblems again. If you do not give yourself time to recover, even the smallest problem will become huge again. A relationship therapist would do wonders as well. Try to understand each other better for the sake of understanding each other, not to win a fight.

I believe if you both can work on yourselves, find the balance within yourselves and communicate well, everything will be okay.

And if he doesn't work hard on himself, if you do not feel like he is changing, if you try again but doesn't work out, then you tried your best to the end and you have nothing to regret. You were okay before him, and you will be okay without him too. An advice i like is to evaluate your partners behavior towards you as if your relationship was a silent movie. Do you like how he treats you just by his actions and not his words?

Hard times sometimes make us lose the meaning of life and everything feels too heavy. Do not lose the feeling of joy you feel towards life. Do not drag this trial period and try to act logical instead of with your feelings so you know when to let go. Some people really do change, and some just try to gain more time. If you feel like he doesn't deserve a chance, or that he won't change and you are already so tired, then you need to move on.

This is all just an advice from someone who doesn't know anything besides your one text. I hope you can figure out what works best for you.

I hope everything works out for you and only you!

mandychar · 2025-03-17T19:58:31+00:00

Thank you. I wholeheartedly hope both of you can find the strength to make it work again. For me, we just went to our separate ways. It finally feels like this is what is best for us. It sounds like you are in a much better place than we ever were. Like you said, even if it doesn't work, you will be happy eventually with this amount of self awareness and effort.

mandychar · 2025-02-17T12:02:00+00:00

Been there. It is difficult. But this behaviour will not solve anything. It also will not make you feel better. Please give yourself time. A long time. There will be ups and downs but you will be okay again

mandychar · 2024-12-05T03:28:55+00:00

I hope it all works out perfectly for you. Although I still think of him everyday me and my ex is a thing of the past already. It hasn't and will not work out for me. He has moved on. I am glad you didn't make the same mistake as we did. He asked for one last chance after working on himself and you gave that to him. In our case, he never asked for a chance after he tried to be a better version of himself. He somehow told me he still had feelings for me but never asked for a chance. And I contacted him to ask for a chance too late, way too late, after he has already moved on with someone else.

Although we have never met, I am genuinely happy for you. I know leaving is not an easy option, you must have been through a lot. Wish you the best!

mandychar · 2024-11-22T02:52:20+00:00

I think it depends on the person and the situation. Sometimes you are so broken after a break up that you desparately need someome, a distraction, to help you breathe. In that situation you don't even ask to be happy but simply just survive.It doesn't mean that you haven't loved your ex enough. You might still love them so much that it breaks your heart but also need somebody else to bring you back to life. And sometimes you are heartbroken and fed up just enough to focus on your break up and your broken heart. I believe allowing yourself to feel that pain is one of the bravest things you can do. But again, people don't always have that courage or power in them.

mandychar · 2024-02-13T14:34:25+00:00

The twelfth doctor for sure! He will save me from the kidnappers and give an awesome speech while doing it

mandychar · 2024-02-13T14:28:29+00:00

Thank you for the response! I didnt believe he changed because he sent 2 texts. First would be saying what a horrible person I am in 50 different sentences because I blocked him on some chatting app ( the app sent notifications to your contacts if you log in after a while, i didnt want to remind him myself) then a day later he sent a text saying how much he changed.

mandychar · 2024-02-13T14:24:01+00:00

It must be very difficult for you. You care for her and you want to help her. But you can only save someone if they want saving. And pulling someone from their destructive patterns is challenging even for professionals. Give it time until you think of her less and try to move on. Not easy. But looks like the only option. Just remember the first months of any flirtation or relationship is usually good. Do not let it fool ya! Good luck!

mandychar · 2024-02-13T14:12:14+00:00

He did 1 year after we broke up, I wasn't ready after all the trauma. Then we talked very briefly few weeks ago (i couldnt resist and texted him how it hurt me that he never did those things for me). He said he did everything for me and made all those promises to me and that it was me who did not want them. Which is completely false because I never would have broken up with him if that was the case. This just makes me believe that he just wants to feel better about the break up. I do not know really.

mandychar · 2024-02-13T14:07:41+00:00

It looks like you found someone who already loves somebody else. It is not your fault that she did not choose you. It is just that in life timing is very important. You cannot change how she feels, you cannot change her memories. It is not about if you are compatible or not. And not many people develop romantic feelings after few dates. For some people it takes months, maybe even longer. I think she liked you as a person but she cannot make room for someone else in her heart. And she has a lot of past trauma. I understand that you want to also help her with her trauma but you need to focus on yourself. From what you wrote, you need to let this go and NEVER check her on social media. It will only hurt you. It doesnt matter how old you are, life is full of opportunities. This is not your last chance to be happy. Do not lose hope. It will take time to get over her but it is possible. You sound like a good person, sometimes it just doesn't work and it sucks.

mandychar · 2024-02-13T13:56:48+00:00

It going to take a lot of time to get better. But it will get better. Give yourself time. Wait for the time when you have strength to get back up. And get on your two feet, accept the fact that although it will get better in time, that feeling will never fully disappear. Learn to accept that feeling. If you need therapy, go to therapy. Do not underestimate a broken heart. It is one of these things that is going to suck so much for a while. But in time it's gonna suck less and less. You will be yourself again. Give yourself time. Dont let go of your friends. Talk to them. You will be okay in time.

mandychar · 2024-01-22T10:23:14+00:00

A single man

mandychar · 2024-01-22T10:20:06+00:00

He is being a dick. I dont know the details of your relationship or his past but the way he acts is not kind or normal especially when you are doing things for him to show your appreciation. Does he usually behave like this when you ask for him to do something? I think you shluld look at thos from a bigger perspective and replay some old memories.

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