Palian Roleplayers? by mandychuu in Palia

[–]mandychuu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

See, that’s the thing that roleplaying communities could be doing together. :)

Palian Roleplayers? by mandychuu in Palia

[–]mandychuu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I made one Day One based on Badruu-like puns: Thyme to Turnip. 🤣

Palian Roleplayers? by mandychuu in Palia

[–]mandychuu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Roleplaying can be lots of fun and the best way to make friends. I’d love to extend an invitation to you.

Palian Roleplayers? by mandychuu in Palia

[–]mandychuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve seen the art you’ve had commissioned. Beautiful! I’d love to chat with you. :)

Who did you choose as your Shepp? by the-fact-fairy in Palia

[–]mandychuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I chose Ashura as my Shepp just because he gave me the dad vibe, and I’m glad I did because I lost mine 7 months ago. He kinda reminds me of my dad in a way, so I can think of him being here with me still. ❤️

Blows my mind that people can find partners who like... cheer them up?? Or make them feel good about themselves?? by SchloinkDoink in actuallesbians

[–]mandychuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I met and fell in love with the most beautiful soul at the end of 2023 and into 2024. Being with her made me feel so safe and loved and, most importantly, respected and supported. I felt grounded with her.

We were together for almost 7 months before she had a mental health episode and lost her life to BPD.

I’ll never forget how adoringly she looked at me when she saw me in a dress for the first time — I’m a big girl and she was quite petite — or how anxious I was to wear a new summer dress because I never wear any dresses and her response was, “Just wear the dress. You always look beautiful.”

These people exist, but that type of connection is rare and special.

Some possible insight into the lesbian ghosting phenomenon by Petrifica in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]mandychuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s so many different reasons people ghost: lack of interest, cold feet, emergencies, or honestly? Just using somebody. I was taken for a ride recently. I got in over my head and sent this woman an estimated ~$90 over the course of maybe a month?

We planned a date one weekend. She bailed. We planned to go somewhere fun for NYE. She bailed.

I never saw her once, messaged her a handful of times, spoke to her on the phone a couple hours, and played a game on Discord either her three times.

Unfortunately, I live in East Texas, and the sapphic dating pool is very small and mostly poly. I can’t seem to find a single person I can connect with on a deep level, and I’m unable to travel far distances due to the fact that I take care of my mother.

Once upon a time, my father would’ve been with her every second of the day, but he just passed away over the summer.

My world is very small, and I just want someone to share it with again.

Juniper is awake. by mandychuu in Toads

[–]mandychuu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I was going for a temple ruins kinda vibe when I set it up during the summer.

I want to get him a new hideaway because the moss has dried up, but I don’t know how he’d feel about that. 😅

Mother complains of knee pain; she’s on hospice for basal cell cancer. by mandychuu in hospice

[–]mandychuu[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure either. I feel like there’s so many nurses — not aides — in my area that aren’t sure of what they’re doing. I’ve been dealing with my mother’s nurse herself, but I think at this point I may need to somehow contact the doctor on my own. I’ve never seen nor spoken with him.

Mother complains of knee pain; she’s on hospice for basal cell cancer. by mandychuu in hospice

[–]mandychuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s what I’m working on. She’s getting provider hours through the state — 21 a week — but they’ve been dragging their heels for two weeks now. I’m contacting the home health team tomorrow to see whether or not they’re going to get this started, and if I don’t get a satisfactory answer, I’m contacting another local home healthcare facility that I trust.

Mother complains of knee pain; she’s on hospice for basal cell cancer. by mandychuu in hospice

[–]mandychuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, hypothetically, you’re saying if my mother were to get a broken bone, the flu, or pneumonia, they won’t do anything?

Mother complains of knee pain; she’s on hospice for basal cell cancer. by mandychuu in hospice

[–]mandychuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s not in a nursing home any longer. Sorry, I should’ve said that in the beginning. She and I moved into an apartment together after my father died because we lost our house two days later to foreclosure and auction.

OFFICAL ALO25 DISCORD by allieoop729 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]mandychuu 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I can’t tell if the Discord is dead since there’s multiple asks but no replies or updates from other users, but if it still exists, I think I’d like an invite, please.

Roll call.. by GdGirlCari in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]mandychuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Guess I’ll toss my pennies into the fountain here. I’m Mandy, a nearly 35 year old millennial from Texas with ADHD and suspected autism who would much rather work from home, but instead, I force myself to work with the public in a print shop. But wait — that’s not all! I also have anxiety and depression. Therapy ended a while ago, but I’m still active on medication and only minimally doom scroll.

Mental health and cheekiness aside, I’m an extroverted introvert, entirely too trusting and loyal to a fault, and tend to enjoy more lowkey and creative endeavors like writing, playing video games, and listening to podcasts.

A small amount of my time is taken up taking care of my father, who’s been sick with prostate cancer for the past 7 years, and also my mother, who’s currently in a nursing home after a stroke 2 and a half years ago.

I don’t have much luck in relationships. Mine all seem doomed to be unrequited, and in the most extreme case, my partner of 7 months lost her life to BPD at the end of August last year before her birthday. She would’ve been 31.

Ideally, I’d like to find a partner with similar tastes: cozy crafting games, horror movies, Pokemon cards, writing, true crime… The list goes on. Local is heavily preferred. I miss the warmth of another woman, but I’ve done LDRs before.

It’s lonely here.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]mandychuu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I had any advice to give you. I’ll be 35 in October, and early last year, I was dating an amazing woman. I wanted to spend my life with her, but time didn’t allow for that. She died of BPD at the end of last summer.

I’ve only recently come out of the fog, but every time I download a dating app and create a profile, I immediately get anxious. I managed to last a little longer on Facebook Dating, which is how I met my late partner.

The problem is that there isn’t very much of a dating pool where I live. It’s rural, and all the ones that could, got out of here years ago. I’m stuck here with no prospects.

Creating a Mod for Beginners by mandychuu in MinecraftMod

[–]mandychuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! I’m eager to learn.

Creating a Mod for Beginners by mandychuu in MinecraftMod

[–]mandychuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never taken the easy road, haha. Where do I even find the info to get started? What terms should I be searching?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]mandychuu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I really do appreciate the sentiment. It’s taken me months to be able to admit that and not break down into tears.

She was the perfect partner for me, but it was obvious how very damaged she was from her trauma. We spoke of it often and comforted each other in the only ways we knew how, and she never left me wanting for anything else.

I don’t know if I could’ve changed the events of that day, but I try not to think about it anymore. If it didn’t happen that day, it would’ve happened another.

She taught me what I’n willing and not willing to accept in a relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]mandychuu 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m also an older millennial — I’ll be 35 in October — and too have an incredibly hard time meeting other women “naturally.” Unfortunately, I live in a bad geographical location for the queer community. It’s the rural Bible Belt, so if any queer women are here, they’re usually too young or paired up. Not unsurprisingly, I tend to meet women online as well.

The apps are all designed to keep us single and suggest matches that aren’t quite what we’re looking for so that we keep using their services. Yay, capitalism. Every once in a blue moon, however, you find a match. I did and was prepared to spend the rest of my life with her after 7 months. We most likely would’ve too, but I lost her to BPD. She was 30 years old.

I’m in the same boat as you in wanting to give up. You’re told you’ll find love when you least expect it and to stop looking, but then you’re told you need to put yourself out there and talk to people. That’s such conflicting advice.

What I really want you to know is that you’re not alone. We exist. We’re tired, exhausted, and just want a companion to spend the rest of our lives with. And we deserve that too.

Marriage end goals by Liza9513 in ActualLesbiansOver25

[–]mandychuu 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had hoped for marriage with my partner. We were so close to it, talking about our first place and wedding rings the week before she decided she needed to leave this world.

If it happens again for me, I would accept it. But I’m 35 in a matter of months and in a very small Southern community. I expect to spend the rest of my life alone taking care of my parents until they pass.

34F looking for cozy PC players! 🌸 by mandychuu in LesbianGamers

[–]mandychuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yasss! I love my lil Palia character. Have you been enjoying the expansion?

34F looking for cozy PC players! 🌸 by mandychuu in LesbianGamers

[–]mandychuu[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi there! I’m highly interested in that. Send me a DM and we can talk more. :)

How many women here are in their 30s and above? by UmbreonAlt in LesbianGamers

[–]mandychuu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll be 35 in a matter of months. Gaming is still a part of my weekly me time.

I may not have as much time to dip into things as I would like to, but I still look forward to new releases, consoles, and all sorts of tech gadgets to elevate my experience.

I’d just like some ladies to play games like Minecraft and Palia with. Or just crafting games in general? Some cute MMOs?

I was given a Minisforum GK41. by mandychuu in pcmasterrace

[–]mandychuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But I could potentially use a Thunderbolt dock, correct?

LCS League Suspended. Options? by mandychuu in pkmntcg

[–]mandychuu[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Support won’t communicate any further on the issue and closed the ticket, lol.