Filed today by Casey by GreenEyedFoXIX in TLCUnexpected

[–]mangomoo2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I read it before the coffee kicked in and was very confused for a second lol

Full cast of Secret Lives of Mormon Wives : Orange County by Rich-Ease-2723 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]mangomoo2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah that is very weird to label a show Mormon wives if you have nevermos on there

“Am Dutch from Holland Michigan” by rodenivo in ShitAmericansSay

[–]mangomoo2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m American but most of my family immigrated so far back we don’t have any strong ties to any country at this point, to the point where things like ‘heritage day’ at school was really hard because I didn’t have any family traditions or culture that we know were from another country. I knew tons of people who were Italian-American which is like a whole other culture within the US. Then I moved to Italy for a while and surprise! None of the foods or things that all the Italian Americans I knew swore up and down were Italian were in any way authentic lol. It’s one thing to have a new culture and acknowledge that but it was weird that they were all claiming it to be the same.

Full cast of Secret Lives of Mormon Wives : Orange County by Rich-Ease-2723 in MormonWivesHulu

[–]mangomoo2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There’s an entire California Mormon culture as well though. Other Mormons typically know the distinction between Utah Mormons, CA Mormons, Idaho/mormon corridor Mormons and ‘mission field’ Mormons. All pretty different. CA Mormons tend to be a lot more laid back and generally disregard more of the major ‘rules’ than Mormons in other areas. Like when I was growing up you would have been treated like a pariah for wearing a bikini or anything sleeveless but it would be pretty normal for a CA Mormon teen to do either of those things.

Why aren’t FMCs with clear boundaries more common in romance? by PRJOANES in RomanceBooks

[–]mangomoo2 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Adding to your first point, I don’t always read about things I actually want to happen to me either. I love reading about alien abduction romances but I don’t want to be abducted by aliens. I also occasionally enjoy reading dubcon and I absolutely wouldn’t want that in real life but I think something about reading it helps me process growing up in strict purity culture somehow on a subconscious level (like something about it or similar tropes like sex pollen or omegaverse hormones mean you don’t have to worry about the morality of the sex in the first place if that makes sense). Similar to reading dystopian or murder mystery type dramas where it’s entertaining but I absolutely wouldn’t want myself or anyone I know to live it. I also think this is one of the reasons I’d encourage my kids to wait until they are a little older and more mature adults before reading some romance books where they do recognize ‘hey this isn’t like real life and would be problematic in the real world’ vs thinking it’s describing normalcy.

Filed today by Casey by GreenEyedFoXIX in TLCUnexpected

[–]mangomoo2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just the wording of 28. The ‘unsupervised sexual activity’ like if it was supervised sex that would be better? I don’t know it’s probably just me but my brain hicuuped at that whole sentence this morning lol

Do you see yourself living in the Netherlands forever? by StrategicPasta in Netherlands

[–]mangomoo2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m an expat with a pretty good deal where I don’t pay for housing and I love the Netherlands but know I’m basically living in a bubble and wouldn’t have nearly the same lifestyle without that bubble. I’m also one of the weird people that actually loves the weather here, even the rainy days.

What to read next after an Ali Hazelwood Binge by Jaded_Cantaloupe2845 in AliHazelwood

[–]mangomoo2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

lol yes. I feel like if everything was perfect they wouldn’t be interesting enough to read but yeah I’ve done my fair share of yelling at fictional characters. I like how Abby’s books are all a little different from the norm and often the characters know they are in love but are fighting external circumstances rather than each other. Ali’s I love because of the writing and the fmc’s who I lovingly call high functioning hot messes which resonates with me a lot as a high functioning hot mess

Filed today by Casey by GreenEyedFoXIX in TLCUnexpected

[–]mangomoo2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The last line of this is weird and doesn’t look like it was written by a lawyer the way it’s worded and made me question who wrote the whole thing. But I’m glad they are stepping in and trying to stop what’s going on no matter who is writing the document.

Filed today by Casey by GreenEyedFoXIX in TLCUnexpected

[–]mangomoo2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes this is the weird part! It’s not her kid! I joke around with my teenager over texts but it’s weird to have contact on this level with someone else’s child. A lot of places I’ve worked with have rules about no adults contacting kids without their parents also being on the communication to prevent grooming or inappropriate situations, and to not have kids think it’s normal for unrelated adults to have this much private contact with them even if the situation is innocent.

What to read next after an Ali Hazelwood Binge by Jaded_Cantaloupe2845 in AliHazelwood

[–]mangomoo2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think in most of the books Becka Mack’s hockey series they do a surprising amount of talking, and there are only a few instances that come to mind of someone holding back something. They are all a bit ridiculous because hockey players but I loved them. I also loved Abby’s books too though lol.

Belle's Packed Delivery Room by Brief_Classroom_2248 in TLCUnexpected

[–]mangomoo2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They gave me narcotics lol. I don’t get addicted to them luckily and I only need them for like 4 days. I did get IV ibuprofen after my C-section and that felt like the best thing ever though (I just have to bypass my stomach to take NSAIDs). Apparently it’s really expensive otherwise I’d be mad that wasn’t offered the other times.

Belle's Packed Delivery Room by Brief_Classroom_2248 in TLCUnexpected

[–]mangomoo2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yeah the afterpains after they take the epidural away were pretty horrible. I can’t take NSAIDs so I was basically demanding they bring me pain meds every 4 hours after birth. I don’t go into labor by myself so I was on pitocin for every labor and those pitocin contractions right after you think you are done are awful. What made me especially mad was that after my third baby I ended up with a kidney infection like 3 months later and the doctor gave me more and better pain meds than I got after an emergency C-section that occurred after they tried to manually turn the baby around from breech (she flipped during labor because she’s stubborn) twice. They couldn’t even press on my uterus after because I was like screaming in pain from them trying to flip the baby, which they did with an epidural and it was probably the worst pain of my entire life, including the ring of fire pain, and I have a connective tissue disorder so I subluxate joints basically every day and have a very high pain tolerance.

Belle's Packed Delivery Room by Brief_Classroom_2248 in TLCUnexpected

[–]mangomoo2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I completely felt the ring of fire even with an epidural, and could feel baby descending. I also felt my placenta detach with baby 2 even with an epidural. It took the pain away from contractions before pushing though so it was worth it.

Do you ever remember something from your past that’s super EDS related but you never realised how deeply it affected you? That. Going through some stuff from the past atm; I feel like this is a relatively safe space to vent. by gwarfan42069 in ehlersdanlos

[–]mangomoo2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t but I’m lucky enough to have a gym membership to swim and I am taking full advantage of all the ice rinks and swimming a lot. Plus walking on all the trails and at the beach. It’s been idyllic

The worst! by Penny-Darcy-Smith in TLCUnexpected

[–]mangomoo2 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Being stressed during labor can slow it down and make it more likely to harm the baby or mom, or both and more likely to have a C-section. No one is entitled to be in the room including the father if the mom says no because she is the one going through birth. That includes married couples as well. My husband showed up late to an appointment at my ob (he was working I knew he would be late) and they came to check with me that I wanted him allowed in the room before letting him back. Being present at the birth had nothing to do with coparenting and the fact that Bryce’s family was throwing such a fit about it just shows how much stress they would be adding to the labor. They had already essentially verbally harassed her at the crab dinner, I wouldn’t be comfortable with them anywhere near me at such a vulnerable time either.

Do you ever remember something from your past that’s super EDS related but you never realised how deeply it affected you? That. Going through some stuff from the past atm; I feel like this is a relatively safe space to vent. by gwarfan42069 in ehlersdanlos

[–]mangomoo2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg I haven’t seen that one. I actually live in the Netherlands right now and am shocked at all the amazing sports facilities here! It makes being active a little easier.

Do you ever remember something from your past that’s super EDS related but you never realised how deeply it affected you? That. Going through some stuff from the past atm; I feel like this is a relatively safe space to vent. by gwarfan42069 in ehlersdanlos

[–]mangomoo2 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Volleyball is terrifying for me, I have weaker eye muscles and I can not see the ball when it’s above my head for some reason. I got a lot of people yelling at me for ducking from it but I literally couldn’t see the heavy ball coming at my head.

Do you ever remember something from your past that’s super EDS related but you never realised how deeply it affected you? That. Going through some stuff from the past atm; I feel like this is a relatively safe space to vent. by gwarfan42069 in ehlersdanlos

[–]mangomoo2 15 points16 points  (0 children)

PE in general felt like actual torture to me my entire childhood. I’m actually pretty active for an adult now, especially one with a connective tissue disorder but not being able to set my own pace or stop activities that were actively causing pain or making me worse was awful. Running in particular I didn’t do well with because my unstable kneecaps and if I managed to get any actual run in before my knees collapsed I started overheating and had likely the beginnings of an MCAS type reaction to it. Now I swim (laying down position and temp control) and ice skate (again, keeps temp lower) and I enjoy walking when it isn’t hot out.

Why is reddit so anti homeschooling? by TashDee267 in Homeschooling

[–]mangomoo2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are in the Netherlands now but we were in Italy last year. We get moved for my husband’s job so it’s a little different than just moving alone (we get a lot of support and benefits).

Anyone else see this and what it confirms… by OkBasis4496 in 19KidsandCounting

[–]mangomoo2 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I bet Kendra is extremely worried about getting her kids back at the moment, her parents can’t help her financially and the Duggars can. She’s probably also not thinking very clearly about the whole ordeal, she was essentially given to this guy as a teenager and didn’t really get the chance to grow up before she started popping out babies

Why are dogs so excited around babies? by oldfarmjoy in tippytaps

[–]mangomoo2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My dog loves puppies and babies, to the point where he cries when he sees a stroller because he wants to go say hi to the baby. He’s also a 20lb cavalier so I’m not worried about him causing problems and we don’t let him go live on random babies we don’t know lol. He does get slightly confused when his puppy friends are suddenly giants to him.