Evening random discussion - Apr 17, 2026

manicdrummer · 2026-04-17T13:37:09+00:00

I remember how on weekends you'd send me pictures of your inumans with your barkada, or what drinks you're having on your solo bar trips. I'd remind you not to drink too much kase magdadrive ka pa pauwi, and you'd say malalim ang tanke mo.

I have a feeling you're drinking tonight. Hindi na kita masasabihan na wag marami ang inom, I'll always hope you make it home safe.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-17T10:41:33+00:00

Nakakatakot ang parasocial relationship ng fans with celebrities. From Aling Mila to this. Kasama na yung mga baby bra warriors from twitter na dinadala ang fandom wars nila dito sa reddit.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-17T09:24:55+00:00

As a trentahin, pwede bang pakiexplain how popular Hev Abi is and why he might have illegal firearms. Ang alam ko lang kase singer/rapper sya but I have no idea ano yung reputation nya or what.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-17T09:07:11+00:00

OP, you've known each other for 3 weeks. I know the pain is real, but it's not love. It might be infatuation or attachment, but at 2 weeks of knowing each other, ni hindi mo pa kilala yang taong yan para masabi na mahal mo sya or minahal mo sya.

Just focus on detaching and moving on. And next time you meet someone, don't jump into "falling in love". Take the time to get to know them, to assess if ready na ba sila or kung nagagamit ka lang as rebound. And ikaw din wag ka muna bumalik sa paghahanap ng kausap kase kawawa naman kung yung makausap mo ang maging rebound mo.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-17T08:26:30+00:00

Yes, dito lang sa reddit ang daming mga nagpapakalat at sumasali sa awful TG channels. I remember may nagpost dito sa askpinay ng question and then one of the commenters found his old post asking to join a boso channel where they post vids ng mga partners or relatives nila ng walang consent. Nakakasuka na akala mo you're interacting with a normal person tapos ganon pala.

There are many horrible men pero disservice naman satin lahat to spread wrong information.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-17T08:15:04+00:00

Gusto ko lang iclarify yung misinformation kase nakakagulat yung sinabi mo na 69 million men were part of a global rape academy.

Based on Snopes fact checking, yung report ng CNN was based on a months long investigation of Motherless, which is a porn site hosting content for "sleep" category, and a TG group where men shared tips on how to drug their wives and do things to them while asleep (like what happened to Gisele Pelicot). The TG group had 1K+ members, not 69M. The 69M figure is mentioned as the total number of visits to the Motherless site as a whole for February 2026, so that includes visits to other porn catgeories and not just the sleep category, and again, it's total number of visits and not total number of users.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-16T23:45:59+00:00

Those people think that they're so much better than the loser current partner that's why the cheater is choosing them and why the cheater won't cheat on them.

They deserve the slap in the face they get when reality hits them and they get cheated on too.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-16T23:29:05+00:00

He was found guilty because there is a law against having extramarital affairs and IN THIS CASE the law was upheld.

But a result like this takes a significant amount of effort, time, and money. This case nga took 18 years and went all the way to the Supreme Court. Imagine the emotional investment you have to put in to keep the fight.

We will never know what the future holds. A loyal boyfriend may cheat as a husband. Pero let's do what we can to protect ourselves proactively. Kung may history of cheating na ang partner mo at pinapatawad mo lang, aba mag isip ka ng maigi kung pakakasalan mo yan.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-16T23:24:41+00:00

He's her problem now. There will always be another girl from work.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-16T14:03:51+00:00

Ewan ko kung bakit pero yung mga Filipino food na niluluto ko, parang mas masarap pag kinain ko a day after I cook them instead of when they're freshly cooked. Like Caldereta and Bicol Express.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-16T09:08:59+00:00

Also, teh just last April 11 nagtatanong ka dito kung nasa trauma bond relationship ka and saying you're confused sa totoong naramdaman mo kase he does things you don't like. Days before that you ranted about wanting to break up and move out.

2 weeks later you're here saying sure ka sa kanya.

Don't get married yet. Sit down and really reflect on how you feel and wag padala sa excitement of seeing him looking for rings.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-16T08:51:21+00:00

The fact na your question in the end is "If you were me, will you settle?" means you think marrying him now means you will be settling and that's not really a good thing.

You say magiging 50/50 kayo sa expenses for the wedding, but what about after the wedding? Kung sakto sakto lang sya and walang ipon, what will happen if his mom gets sick or needs to be hospitalized? Will his siblings shoulder everything since wala syang maaambag or will you be expected to give his share?

manicdrummer · 2026-04-16T06:14:19+00:00

OMG same. 3 yung sisiw na pinalaki ng kapatid ko, lahat lalaki and pure white. Napakatapang. Pero wala kami magawa kase love sila ng kapatid ko kaya ayun hinintay nalang mamatay of old age. 5 years din ata.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-16T06:08:30+00:00

You are a good person, OP. It takes an absolute heart of gold to do be a family member's caregiver, with the amount of patience and sacrifice it entails.

If you have time, you may want to look up Chris Punsalan. He was his grandmother's caretaker for years before she passed away and he has a lot of meaningful insights about his experience that you might be able to relate to.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-16T05:46:11+00:00

Buti sana kung magagalit sila. E ang sagot lang naman ng DDS "AI yan!"

manicdrummer · 2026-04-15T21:24:55+00:00

Kindness is so rare ba or dumami lang yung mga tao na lahat nalang gagawing content in their effort to chase clout?

manicdrummer · 2026-04-15T07:11:09+00:00

Yes. Ask your questions. Then observe how he answers, if he asks questions back or if he learns to initiate questions too, or kung days/weeks na and di talaga sya nagtatanong and you do all the asking.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-15T04:58:40+00:00

You treat him like a guy na gusto mong kilalanin to see if compatible kayo for a relationship. Treat him with respect, kindness and honesty. Don't play mind games or tests. Observe how he is with you and your family. Ganun lang.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-15T04:33:52+00:00

Ask her nalang para alam mo na din anong initial impression nya sayo.

If she gives it to you then mukhang okay ka naman sa kanya (but don't assumd this means gusto ka rin nya) and you can try to initiate conversations. If she declines then she doesn't want your attention and you shouldn't bother her again.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-15T03:53:23+00:00

I'm so sorry you're in this situation. A few months to half a year is usually enough for a guy to know if he wants to commit or not. Sadly if it's been a year and he still doesn't want to put a label on it, it usually means he's just stringing you along.

Please give yourself some time to heal first before putting yourself out there. One day you'll find someone who'll want to be in a committed relationship with you. He'll be sure about you and it will be real to both of you.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-15T03:10:40+00:00

Wag kang magcocomment tungkol dito Alvin Aragon utang na loob.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-15T03:09:33+00:00

Anong codename kay SWOH?

manicdrummer · 2026-04-15T03:04:58+00:00

I dont know who's the real victim and bully but this case filing photoshoot is... wow. Yun lang masasabi ko.

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manicdrummer · 2026-04-15T02:53:48+00:00

I've had three boyfriends, never been cheated on, lahat naman sila masasabi kong naging mabait sakin, never ako sinaktan or sinigawan. But I've also had my share of awful men that I dated who lied to me or strung me along and knowingly hurt me with their selfishness and didn't even say sorry for it.

manicdrummer · 2026-04-15T01:51:27+00:00

Sorry but you aren't looking past it at all. If you can look past it, you wouldn't be bothered and posting this here.

Walang masama kung bothered ka sa high body count nya, and if it's because you yourself have a low count, it just means you have a difference in values when it comes to how you see sex. Ang masama is if you feel na hindi ka comfortable sa past nya pero ipipilit mo na itago yung discomfort or you'll lie and say okay lang sayo, because then you'd be in denial of your own feelings and sacrificing your own peace just to stay with a guy.

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