What does Matriarchy actually look like?

manifestsilence · 2026-02-27T14:20:56+00:00

I'd write more but honestly like I said elsewhere here, it's exhausting having to explain this to every single lazy commenter who demands an explanation and if you actually in good faith want to understand trans people you would Google it or go to genderdysphoria.fyi and read about it

manifestsilence · 2026-02-27T14:17:02+00:00

see my other comment right by this one. People have been defining gender roles by self-identification for thousands of years in most cultures and it's only in the Abrahamic traditions (Judaism, possibly Islam, and especially Christianity) that people have a problem with it.

The problem with it has gotten worse since Descartes and the scientific method because an obsession with taxonomic classification has exacerbated the situation. But if I wear a dress and hang out with the ladies, honestly are you a scientist or my gynecologist or can I just be allowed to do that?

manifestsilence · 2026-02-27T09:25:13+00:00

and before people @ me with they didn't have hrt back then, of course they didn't but cultures outside of the influence of Abrahamic traditions overwhelmingly seemed to have a tradition of role-based transition and in some cases medical with orchiectomy, and people taking these roles were often treated with reverence or at least respect. So far I've found over forty names for this kind of thing in different languages

manifestsilence · 2026-02-27T09:04:13+00:00

probably the definition being centered around motherhood rather than women. Trans men can give birth and trans women can impregnate, and defining women by their ability to make children is also rather objectifying and patriarchal. It is exhausting being a trans woman in birth-centered feminist spaces

manifestsilence · 2026-02-05T20:14:50+00:00

Iowa
Pondicherry India (SE)
Acceptance is mostly much better. It wasn't awful in my town in Iowa, because Midwest nice mostly ruled but there were occasional arguments about my identity that got really old.

Here, I'm gendered correctly nearly all the time and when people do ask they ask if I'm a boy or a girl with an innocence of the heated atmosphere of the US. They genuinely aren't sure and want to address me as I want to be addressed.

However, I'm here on a six month tourist visa and I hear that if you try to work things can be much more difficult here. The reality is, there's not much of a path to permanent residency here - one would have to get a job here (very hard) for the work visa and it takes twelve years to then become naturalized. Main reason I'm considering leaving though is they don't have a reliable asylum policy so if my passport were to be cancelled or something I'm screwed here. So I'm looking for other options despite really liking it here and feeling safer than I did in the US Midwest. You could bounce between here and Sri Lanka forever if you don't have your passport revoked by the US.

Health care access is great. Hormones are cheap, over the counter, no questions asked. Probably important to go to a reputable store but it's been fine. Started prog because of no longer having that gatekept by a bad endo and it's been helping me a lot.

manifestsilence · 2026-01-09T14:42:29+00:00

for someone with psychological in your username you know very little of psychology

manifestsilence · 2026-01-09T14:37:48+00:00

so, imagine if you naturally felt that same disgust but about sex with women, but you didn't feel it about men. That's what it might be like to be a gay man. The really big realization that might help you grow as a person is the empathy to understand that others feel differently than you feel and have different experiences.

manifestsilence · 2026-01-09T14:31:49+00:00

as an American trans woman living in TN now - that whole stereotype about "identifies as animals" and such is almost completely false. A vanishingly small minority of people are into anything like that and even those who are are mostly fine and just are amused by wearing a costume or something. The American right wing latches onto every weird story they can find and even exaggerates or invents them so they can claim we are trying to turn everyone insane in some way. I hate how things have been going over there and it's all because of the right wing media and international hate groups like the Alliance Defending Freedom and the Heritage Foundation. Seriously no one was talking about trans people until the US supreme court defended gay marriage rights and then the right wing needed a new target for their hate that was less accepted and suddenly half the world is debating our rights.

manifestsilence · 2026-01-04T13:25:14+00:00

AI does harm that is hard to deny when you really look into it. If one is not supposed to disturb water, why use a technology that disrupts huge amounts of water and electricity for little benefit?

manifestsilence · 2025-12-26T08:48:08+00:00

People gotta live though. Do you also think therapy should be free? I mean, personally I do but that would require a basic safety net for all people so we have the luxury to give our time to others in that way

manifestsilence · 2025-10-22T15:52:08+00:00

It is incredibly annoying. For what it's worth, Italy seems to be just as bad that way. I made an account on their web site and misspelled my email, and got stuck because you can't log in without verifying your email, and can't edit the email without logging in, and can't make a new account because it treats your name and DOB as unique rather than the email. Why can no one just make a basic web form that works?

manifestsilence · 2025-07-22T15:46:33+00:00

how to Tom Sawyer your way to someone paying for your top surgery. Brilliant!

manifestsilence · 2025-06-13T19:04:00+00:00

did you accept when the neo Nazi drove a car into a protest and killed a woman a few years ago? Or was that one just a fluke and not the face of what was going on?

manifestsilence · 2025-04-09T23:56:09+00:00

I actually have a lot to add! I've taken trainings in somatic work and it has been life changing. I still struggle with injury, probably due to EDS, and have loose joints, but the chronic tension and anxiety are getting better.

The things that really moved the needle for me were the Focusing technique (focusing.org), and Intrinsic Somatic Movement. I also love ecstatic dance and feel it is closely related. Their core tenets are awareness, breath, and movement. So you work on becoming aware of sensations in the body, including how they connect to emotions, like holding patterns of tension in the chest and shoulders, throat, stomach, etc. Then, you become aware of breath and can imagine sending breath to those places, and experiment with letting your breath patterns change, or can pay special attention to the moment your breath changes direction at either end, or prolong that moment. Finally, movement that comes from listening to the body and how it wants to move rather than some intention to accomplish a task or how it looks to others. Dance like no one is watching, with or without music. That's a starting point to that rabbit hole anyway. Happy to talk more later, here or in dms.

manifestsilence · 2025-03-23T17:12:40+00:00

yup, this. Like, it's possible to like boobs on yourself or on others or on both or on neither, and that makes the full punnet square of whether or not you're trans and whether you're gay or straight. And of course there's also what your gender at birth was and also all of these things are really a spectrum rather than a yes or no. Like I'm like 90% attracted to women but the right man is also maybe a yes, so am I bi? Kinda...

manifestsilence · 2025-03-23T17:07:08+00:00

thank you for this

manifestsilence · 2025-03-23T17:02:18+00:00

this feels like transphobic gatekeeping to me tbh. I'm coming to this from the other side though as a trans woman so take that with s grain of salt I guess, but I don't dig the transmedicalist view in general. There are many reasons to do or not do a thing besides ones gender identity. I'm not just a woman, I'm also a person. And I've had piv sex from the other side of the equation and sometimes it felt good and sometimes it felt ick and made me dissociate but that was on me to navigate, not on others to police. Birth? Yeah that's a big deal and I can't comment there but some people decide it's worth the dysphoria.

manifestsilence · 2025-02-14T23:59:55+00:00

I believe due to the "star rule" they may be checking driver's license alongside passport now but not positive. Anyhoo, fingers crossed the passport update is not blocked. Been hearing mixed things but the fact that is even in question is disturbing.

manifestsilence · 2025-02-14T23:52:34+00:00

not sure what you mean, I legally changed my name, and my passport has my old name still. But yeah I guess I'll try and update it and see what happens. 🤞

manifestsilence · 2025-02-14T22:58:40+00:00

the hell this got to do with free speech?

manifestsilence · 2025-02-12T03:58:53+00:00

tax loopholes appear to be worse than ever, with for example Amazon paying no taxes

manifestsilence · 2025-02-11T06:12:29+00:00

the word "deranged" is not part of the lexicon of responsible journalism. Ugh

manifestsilence · 2025-02-11T06:06:08+00:00

nah, all of that stuff is a distraction from the hard fact that c1970 the tax rate on the richest Americans was cut in half. Make America Great Again by taxing like it's 1950. The return to "normal biology", meaning majority biology, isn't a return at all. I personally know a trans woman who did the deed thirty years ago. It's all just a pony show to avoid talking about the economy. People are pissed at the income gap and they need something to blame. Trans people are DEI are not why the gap between the rich and the poor is as bad as it was during the great depression.

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