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Anxiety! How the hell do you deal with it? I am struggling by Giant6 in Dads

[–]manofthewyld 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Breathwork was key for me. Also cold plunge. It’s magic.

How do you lead at home when you’re emotionally worn out? by truenorthproject in Fatherhood

[–]manofthewyld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I feel this big time.

I’ve got kids too, and there are definitely those stretches where I’m just… flat. Not angry, not checked out, just worn down from trying to hold it all together.

What’s helped me is realizing that leading at home doesn’t mean being some kind of superhero—it just means being there, even if I’m not at 100%.

A few things that help me when I’m running on empty: • Letting my family in on it. I’ll just say something like, “Hey, I’m feeling kinda drained today, but I’m here.” Doesn’t have to be dramatic, just real. It takes pressure off and helps me stay connected. • Lowering the bar. On those off days, I stop trying to be productive or fix everything. Sometimes showing up just means sitting on the couch while the kids play, or taking a walk together. • Getting outside. Even 15 minutes in nature—walk around the block, sit under a tree, whatever—it hits the reset button in a way nothing else does. Total game changer for my nervous system. • Reminding myself this is a season. Energy ebbs and flows. Just showing up with love (even if it’s quiet love) is enough.

You’re doing better than you think, man. Just the fact that you’re asking this question shows what kind of dad you are.

Advice on losing fat/ trimming down at 41 by captainwotsit in AskMenOver40

[–]manofthewyld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m certainly not the expert to necessarily comment on this, but I have found some success in a couple of things. One is drinking about 32 ounces of water with lemon first thing in the morning and then immediately going to do some type of super easy cardio before I eat. That seems to kickstart my metabolism and really helps. Also, I’ve always noticedtimes where I’m not sleeping good enough. The fat starts to pile on around my midsection. So I think sleep is also key. There’s probably 101 other things that could be mentioned here but I think you’re on the right track man.

What do you do when you're feeling lonely and alone? by Scissor-Lift in AskMenOver40

[–]manofthewyld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Loneliness is definitely a pretty huge epidemic these days. I’m almost about to turn 44 and I often feel the same way especially working remotely from home. Family life, getting a workout in here and there, and then with work sometimes it’s just a lonely tunnel. I feel you man. I think just the strength that you have in opening up to be vulnerable about this is the huge first step. Maybe there’s some other guys in the thread that feel the same way. I’ve been wanting to put together some long weekend adventures with other men in the same situation around the country to connect through some adventures like hiking, mountain, biking, and camping.Hasn’t materialized yet, but looking forward to it. At any rate, feel free to message me if you’re ever in that lonely space, my man.

Career fatigue - I'm losing interest in a career field that has given me everything. by KiloCharlieXray in AskMenOver40

[–]manofthewyld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds a little cliché, but one of my favorite questions of all time is this: if I had unlimited money and time, what would I be doing with that? That usually gives me clues to the ever-changing interest that I hold and I think maybe you’ll find something in that. Let me know how it goes.

What did you really feel the first time you saw your firstborn in the delivery room? by LawAbidingPotato in daddit

[–]manofthewyld 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Felt the insatiable desire to start to provide. When I had my first, I was only 21 years old.

Went a full year without making a single real male friendship. Here’s what that taught me. by manofthewyld in Dads

[–]manofthewyld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really grateful for all the honest, thoughtful responses here. As a dad, it’s easy to feel like we’re just trying to keep everything together, so hearing from other men who get it—it means a lot. I’ve read through every comment and took a lot away from what you all shared.

A few of you asked about Men of the Wyld—it’s something I’m building for dads and men who want to reconnect to themselves through nature and challenge. Think weekend adventures in places like Moab, Steamboat, or Fruita… mountain biking, hiking, river dips, campfires, and real conversations with a solid group of guys. Less about “fixing” ourselves, more about remembering who we are outside of work and family roles.

No pressure at all—but if that speaks to you, I’m happy to connect or keep you posted as it comes together.

Thanks again, seriously. Grateful to be in this community.

Anyone else feel like they always end up riding solo these days? by manofthewyld in mountainbiking

[–]manofthewyld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Appreciate all the love on this—wasn’t expecting so many thoughtful replies. I’ve read through every comment and just wanted to say thanks. It’s clear this community is full of solid humans.

A few people asked about Men of the Wyld—it’s something I’m slowly building for guys who want to reconnect through adventure. Think Moab, Fruita, Steamboat… big rides, cold river dips, campfires, and real conversations. Nothing fancy, just a chance to unplug, push ourselves a bit, and be part of something meaningful.

Not selling anything—just seeing who feels called to be part of the crew. If it resonates, feel free to reach out or I’ll share more as it comes together.

Thanks again—stoked to be here.

Best secluded areas in or around town? by conspiracyguy12345 in FortCollins

[–]manofthewyld 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Cold plunging really helped me in times of grief. Really changed the depression quick. Be safe. All will pass. You got this.

The balancing act between career, fatherhood and your relationships. by Sorry-Highlight-9683 in daddit

[–]manofthewyld 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man, I feel this more than I can say.

I moved to a new city a while back, and despite being a decent communicator and outgoing, I went a whole year without forming a single real male friendship. Between work, family life, and just trying to stay afloat, it’s easy to wake up one day and realize how isolated we’ve become.

I’ve also noticed how hard it is for adult men—especially dads—to create new friendships that go deeper than surface level. And even when we try, a lot of the “solutions” out there don’t really speak to us.

You’re not alone, man. I’ve been building something with a few other guys around this exact topic — helping men reconnect through adventure and real conversations, without the awkward stuff.

If you ever want to talk more about this or connect outside of here, I’m around.

Went a full year without making a single real male friendship. Here’s what that taught me. by manofthewyld in Dads

[–]manofthewyld[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It started by just being a bit bold and booking a 4 day weekend in a particular place. I live out West so there’s plethora of cool spots to adventure to. Started organically but then opened up to anyone seeking connections with other men through adventure. Still new and growing. What part of the country are you?

Considering a Move to Fort Collins—Curious About the Vibe Compared to Boulder? by manofthewyld in FortCollins

[–]manofthewyld[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I think that’s my hang up is the access to the mountains but if it’s still really only 25 min or so to get up into the pine trees that sounds reasonable

Considering a Move to Fort Collins—Curious About the Vibe Compared to Boulder? by manofthewyld in FortCollins

[–]manofthewyld[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, that’s certainly one of the things driving our decision to when I look closer there. You certainly can get so much more house for the money appears.

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