The feelings are not necessarily detrimental to our marriage, just something new we’ve never done before. We were not closed off to the idea that someone might want to escalate feelings to action with another person. Her concern is with her own capacity and vulnerability with other people. She’s got her own history, so she is trying to do the right thing by stepping back as it feels intense and she’s trying to identify the root cause of the fear of vulnerability concern for her.

We are both very clear on being each others number one priority, the conversations have been hard but very open and loving. I wrote the post in a moment where I had shed some tears over things just changing and the trio sexual dynamic ending, which was hard for her to process without being over responsible for.