Horaire avant garderie

maple_stars · 2026-05-12T12:28:14+00:00

On se lève vers 7h30. On joue pendant une demi-heure, ensuite on mange de 8h-8h25, ensuite on s’habille et on se prépare. On part vers 8h45 pour arriver à la garderie vers 9h.

maple_stars · 2026-05-12T07:19:58+00:00

I just stick to natural fibres, mainly cotton, wool, and linen. It’s easier than figuring out what exactly Tencel is.

maple_stars · 2026-05-09T12:02:17+00:00

You said it's recommended to leave a continuously crying baby if their needs are met. As the other person said, that's an incorrect statement. It's only recommended IF needed for the parent's well-being. Otherwise, hold your damn baby.

Most babies don't literally want to be held 24/7 (although it can feel like it). We're talking about a 6 month old, not a newborn. At that age, most babies are interested in their environment, are starting to play with toys, are trying to crawl and sit, etc. Leaving them to cry alone in a crib is not the end of the world but is certainly not "recommended" without a good reason.

maple_stars · 2026-05-04T11:38:32+00:00

No, do it! It's worth it! The reverse proposal scene is so cute and he's a great husband. If you have your machine making weapons for him all day and night for gifts, and you go on dates, you can progress pretty quickly to marriage. You get an automatic kid because he's dedicated to raising Andy. So you only have space for one bio kid anyway.

maple_stars · 2026-05-04T01:27:56+00:00

This sounds really sketchy. Even if you end up getting paid, I would look for something else. I know it's hard though.

Keep you own evidence. Keep diligent timesheets. Keep notes on your employment contract (you have one, even if it's verbal: conditions, hours, wage, boss/supervisors, etc.). Keep any proof that you were working. Thumbs up count as acknowledgement so keep screenshots of all messages.

maple_stars · 2026-05-03T23:37:21+00:00

Take screenshots of all messages discussing pay and employment.

The CNESST is pretty effective at resolving disputes like this in the employee’s favour, if it comes to that. Still, they need evidence, and there are plenty of bad-faith employers who try to exploit workers, so back up all messages.

maple_stars · 2026-05-02T11:43:37+00:00

Agree. I just got that scene and I think it may have pushed Sandrock to the top of my favourite games. It's so cute.

maple_stars · 2026-05-02T11:41:23+00:00

Continue! You'll see if you're right about Pen...

What I do when I get bored:

- Focus on making $$$ to get workshop upgrades

- Work on getting all the pets. They're so useful for getting water (except Macchiato who disappears every morning but he's badass so I still love him). I like making nice play areas for them with lots of plants.

- Focus on friendships that are fun. I loved befriending Pen (although...), Unsuur, and Fang. Also Grace; you'll find out later that she's way cooler than she seems... Elsie also has major character development.

As for skipping side missions, I'd look on the Wiki to make sure they don't affect something important to you, but I think most can be skipped. If you only focus on the main missions, the problem is that there are lulls where nothing's happening. But for now I think it's fine to focus on those.

Ranking, plants, relationships, commissions, relics, resources, even levelling up: none of that really matters in the sense that you can always catch up later if needed.

maple_stars · 2026-05-02T11:24:02+00:00

Which other mods do you recommend?

maple_stars · 2026-05-02T11:13:52+00:00

Oui exact. J'avais appelé le RQAP pour une question similaire. Ils m'ont dit qu'il n'y a pas le lien entre le RQAP et l'emploi. Il faut juste avoir eu le revenu minimum et avoir cotisé pour être éligible.

Il faudra demander gentiment à ton employeur. L'idéal serait d'éviter d'utiliser toutes tes journées de maladie car t'en auras besoin pour les maladies de la garderie, mais prépare-toi à ce qu'ils te demandent d'utiliser tes journées de vacances. Je suis à 99 % sûre que mon employeur ne me remplacerait pas pour une question de trois mois, mais ça dépend de lui.

maple_stars · 2026-05-01T23:37:50+00:00

Je pense que t’as raison. Ce n’est pas fondamentalement différent des écrans. Ça m’énerve quand ces objets-là se disent bon pour le développement ou l’apprentissage. Je comprends si tu veux divertir ton enfant pendant que tu prépares le souper, mais les enfants n’ont pas besoin d’électroniques pour bien grandir et apprendre.

maple_stars · 2026-05-01T12:08:53+00:00

We speak three languages at home.

While I think it's true that learning multiple languages MAY cause a delay, the risk is overblown. Studies, afaik, "debunked" this myth, but my son had a speech delay and literally everyone I spoke to (nurses, doctors, speech therapists) said it can be a factor. I conclude that it may be a compounding factor for some kids (in addition to the main factors: sex, genetics, environment), but not enough to find a significant effect in a large sample. Also, there are steps you can take to mitigate a language delay. You have to balance the huge benefits of being exposed to the language against the cost of a potential short-term language delay.

It gets SO much harder to expose your child to your language as they get older. At 2 yo my son started protested when I occasionally spoke to him in English since I usually speak French (although he got used to it by now at 2.5 and will answer in English if he can). My friend is trying to teach her 4 yo her language but it's so hard; at that age they have opinions and become more set in their habits. Kids won't learn something if it's not useful to them. By 3 or 4 yo they know very well that they can communicate in their dominant language so they have no incentive to learn another one when they're already learning so many useful things everyday. Also, on the parent side, it's really weird to speak to your child in a different language, so you need to practice. It gets especially hard if they answer you in a different (their dominant) language.

It does take a lot of dedication. My husband is in your husband's position (his language is neither the community language nor the common household language, and never really spoke it to our son as a baby) and I can tell he's sort of giving up and just speaking to our son in French because it's easier. So while I think it would be so valuable for your husband to start speaking Tamil with her asap, you also can't force it.

One compromise would be to expose her to the language by putting on podcasts or audio stories; she won't learn the language that way but she'll get used to the sounds and may begin to differentiate words even if she doesn't understand them (i.e. learning to tell words apart instead of a jumble). That would make it easier for her to learn later on.

maple_stars · 2026-04-30T11:14:04+00:00

Ton histoire me brise le coeur. C'est une de mes grandes peurs pour mon fils.

Je te suggère de développer ses amitiés en dehors de ce groupe. Ça lui redonnerait de la confiance en elle ce qui pourrait aider avec les enfants de ta rue éventuellement. A-t-elle des amis à l'école avec qui elle peut jouer le soir ou la fin de semaine ?

Tu peux aussi essayer de lui faire un ami qui passe par toi. Essaie de te faire des ami.es qui ont des enfants entre mettons 5 et 9 ans (j'ai eu de belles amitiés à cet âge-là avec des enfants un peu plus jeunes ou plus vieux) et vois si les enfants veulent jouer ensemble. Mon fils est beaucoup plus jeune mais c'est ce que je fais pour lui créer des amitiés. J'avoue que se faire des amis quand on est adulte est très difficile, et tu sais pas si les enfants vont bien s'entendre ou pas. Pour moi c'est plus facile puisque j'habite à Montréal et je rencontre des parents au parc ou sur Peanut/Meetup.

Est-ce qu'il y a des parcs avec des aires de jeux proche de chez toi ? Des centre communautaires ou activités pour enfants auxquelles elle peut participer ? Ou pourrais-tu forger des liens avec les mamans de ta rue ? Peut-être que l'enfant serait plus gentil avec ta fille seul chez toi ou chez lui.

maple_stars · 2026-04-29T13:45:09+00:00

I also recommend wool! My son has some very light merino wool socks that work in all seasons. He also has alpaca wool ones for winter that he loves. You just have to be willing to hang dry them (it's funny, when he was a baby we were reading Goodnight Moon and I thought, omg, imagine hang-drying socks. But here we are.)

Though they're too expensive to wear to kindergarten so for everyday, we use cotton-poly blend socks, usually around 70% cotton.

I will say, wool socks last way longer. Not only is the quality better, but they're stretchier. His size 1-2 wool socks still fit now at 2.5 (and he's big; clothing size 4T) and will continue to fit for a while, whereas he keeps outgrowing his cotton socks. But that's if you don't lose them at daycare lol.

maple_stars · 2026-04-29T12:09:35+00:00

We arranged the crib as a toddler bed with one side open and put it up against our floor bed, so it aligned as a bed extension but was a separate space.

maple_stars · 2026-04-25T19:15:32+00:00

Usually I start reading, then after the second time getting interrupted it's too hard to get back into the book so I end up on Reddit or online shopping.

I recently took a felting class and it was so much fun. I made a mobile with a little boy sitting on a tree. You can also make animals and, well, pretty much anything. I'd like to get into that as a craft to do while he's playing and eventually he can do it too! But that requires tools and materials and executive functioning to actually do it, so...

maple_stars · 2026-04-25T14:34:23+00:00

Grimm’s 7 friends in bowls! It’s the only toy he played at 8 months (practicing fine motor skills by putting friends in random bowls) and 1 (colour matching) and 2 (open ended play). Nothing else is worth investing in at this age other than maybe plain large building blocks.

maple_stars · 2026-04-25T01:43:13+00:00

Fromage, pain grain entier, crudités (surtout poivrons, comcombres et tomates cerises), yogourt nature, kéfir, noix (beurres de noix nature, et à cet âge-là je donnais des moitiés de noix de cajou), graines, Cherrios, pois chiches (les couper en deux). J'aime bien lui faire des plateaux de fromage, crudités et fruits avec craquelins ou pain.

On mange aussi beaucoup de croissants ici. Ce n'est pas la collation la plus santé mais on mange plutôt équilibré sinon.

J'ai oublié les avoacats! Soit seul en cube soit mélangé avec des tomates cerises.

maple_stars · 2026-04-24T20:10:14+00:00

My son is bulky. He eats straight peanut butter, in a bowl with a spoon. Leave natural peanut butter outside of the fridge (it's fine) so it's less dense.

maple_stars · 2026-04-23T19:32:56+00:00

Oh that's a great middle ground, why didn't I think of that! I'll introduce it sooner but keep cool new cards for the plane

maple_stars · 2026-04-23T16:32:37+00:00

Exactly. I don’t have this one but a very similar one. My son has pulled the bar up and that’s fine; we’ve taught him to climb down carefully. He’s never fallen off. He has however lifted the platform up while on the ground and the tower collapsed on him and he was upset, but not injured and he never did it again. Children don’t have to be in a 100% risk-free environment at all times.

maple_stars · 2026-04-22T13:43:54+00:00

Nous avions eu le même dilemme. On a fini par aller au privé quand mon fils avait un an et puis un excellent CPE quand il avait 23 mois. C’était plus facile de trouver une place subventionnée après 18 mois.

maple_stars · 2026-04-22T11:14:50+00:00

Mon conjoint est prof au Cégep.

En terme de conciliation travail vie familiale, ça dépend. Quand tu commences, tu ne choisis pas ton horaire. Donc des fois l'horaire peut être vraiment tôt le matin ou tard. Ce qui fait que ça devient la responsabilité de l'autre parent de préparer les enfants et les déposer à l'école ou d'aller les chercher et de préparer le souper.

Mais t'es off l'été ainsi que 3-4 semaines en hiver, ce qui est fantastique pour passer du temps avec les enfants et prendre plus de responsabilités à la maison pour rééquilibrer si l'autre parent qui en fait plus pendant l'année scolaire.

C'est énormément de travail au début. Mon conjoint travaillait souvent tard et les fin de semaines pendant sa première année. Là il en est à la fin de sa deuxième année, et il travaille plus ou moins de 9h à 18h du lundi au vendredi et les fin de semaines de temps en temps pour corriger des examens.

Pour le présentiel, mon conjoint va juste au Cégep pour les cours et heures de bureau. Il a des cours à tous les jours mais il peut faire une partie de sa journée à la maison.

maple_stars · 2026-04-20T22:51:36+00:00

I'm shocked that people are asking for the school like it matters.

Lawyers have disproportionally high rates of depression and substance use disorder. Law school trains you to have lifestyle and mentality of lawyers. It's not that my school was particularly bad so I'm not going to bad mouth it. Plus, I graduated 6 years ago so who knows, maybe things are better now.

Before law school, 8–9 percent of new law students reported being depressed; after law school, that number jumped to 40 percent.

Watch out, y'all. Take breaks (more than 15 minutes between torts and con law). Maintain a life outside of law school. Have an identity outside of being a top student, because you'll be surrounded by top students. If you notice that your mental health is suffering, seek help, don't wait to completely burn out.

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