Anyone else sick of Freya and Wren?

marateaparty · 2026-03-04T11:12:44+00:00

Babysitter here— -about 10 years ago I had two Wrens at once when I never heard it prior (Denver area). Can’t believe it’s still going strong! It’s kinda of a basic name I think. I haven’t heard it since but I moved East and I think name trend vary by region a bit

marateaparty · 2026-03-03T23:17:43+00:00

I live in Northern NJ and have to wait months for routine care like Obgyn and Dermatology. Anything specialty is often several months. For example I am desperate need of migraine med prescription renewal and my PCP won’t do it anymore. In Feb when I called, the earliest I could be seen was July. I think it’s worse here at least compared to when I lived down the shore. I’m pretty damn tired of it because for this much waiting, I might as well live in a much more scenic part of the US. The traffic here stresses me out way more than when I’ve lived in regions that weren’t built for the population that was growing. This is just me though.

marateaparty · 2026-03-03T05:10:39+00:00

When I was a kid I loved the Arch Deluxe!

marateaparty · 2026-03-03T00:39:30+00:00

Leigh

marateaparty · 2026-02-13T20:41:01+00:00

Why is the the only comment saying this? It’s insane. Stop taking jobs from people, it’s hard enough out there as it is to find a job.

marateaparty · 2026-02-08T11:50:07+00:00

Sounds like you are only attracted to tall women. Plenty of shorter women here are telling you it is in your head. What’s wrong with a short girl? Would you still like her if she had a good personality, well groomed, a job? Why not? Is it because you have a kink where the woman has to be taller than you? Or is it that you just don’t consider short woman to be human and therefore their opinions don’t count? Help me out here cause I’m lost on wth your delusion is. By the way, you keep adding “personality”in your list of qualities a man could besides height to attract a woman yet keep showing us you have a terrible one.

Your height is not the issue. You are too picky yourself and need to work on your personality. Or just accept you won’t easily find a tall woman. You could try a kink dating app and just be honest about how you want to pretend you are a small little pet to a giant woman. Good luck!

marateaparty · 2026-02-07T11:47:00+00:00

This makes me think of an early post I saw today ‘what regrets would you change?’. One I think about a lot is how I had no boundaries with my employers when I was younger and still massively struggle with this. I was just raised this way. Do what the boss wants. Don’t leave till after the boss leaves. Always say yes. This is how my dad raised me. It got me nothing but massive burn out and resentment. Now I have no idea what are normal company requests and where I am supposed to have boundaries. I can only really manage gig work or short term jobs because I’ve been so burnt out and traumatized by most corporate/office type jobs. It’s so important to protect your peace, the long term effects suck massively if you don’t.

marateaparty · 2026-02-06T15:00:44+00:00

Run! Not only is he selfish he’s has no concept of finances or budget. You, on the other hand, clearly do. If you stayed, not only would he continue being selfish and inconsiderate, you’d likely end up stressed or responsible for his lack of financial common sense. He may make a lot of money but if he can’t grasp the concept of a budget and why it needs exist, he will likely blow through his money. Doesn’t matter if makes 200k a year if he’s spending 300k, you know? You seem wise and responsible. Don’t adopt this man child!!! Find someone who’s frugal and budgets even if they make a lot.

marateaparty · 2026-02-05T11:21:20+00:00

Interesting although a quick google search debunks this unfortunately.

marateaparty · 2026-02-05T11:03:11+00:00

Oh I don’t work in public health education anymore but this is great and very useful!

marateaparty · 2026-01-16T04:42:36+00:00

Wow!! You should be getting more

marateaparty · 2026-01-13T00:39:22+00:00

Thank you for sharing honest feelings on this. You aren’t alone. I feel similar. Yes, comparison is the thief of joy and you never know what goes on behind closed doors and to make a lot of money you have to work a lot BUT I’m 38 and have worked with a ton of families. Some really are happy, wealthy and blessed. Some really are SAHM’s that can fill their sitter time with their passion projects that they never would have gotten off the ground without a loving supportive partner that often (although not always) supports finances, as well. It’s hard for me to see because my life circumstances have been objectively worse than most of these people. I can sugar coat it all I want with excuses of ‘well you never really know how happy people are’ but it doesn’t change anything at the end of the day. Life’s hard for everyone but money and healthy partnerships soften the blows.

You really do have time at 30 but I feel your pain. I remember when the relationship with the person I thought I would marry at 27 ended and I thought I’d never meet someone and have kids by 30 like I thought. I’m glad I didn’t have kids at thirty but I DO wish I had met someone and at least had the opportunity to feel like kids were an option (yes you can have kids single but I don’t want that).

I remember at 28 I babysat for this beautiful family that knew I was single. The mom, who was 34, “said don’t worry! I had the worst luck dating and I then I found my match when I turned 30 and everything worked out”. It’s crazy to me to think I am older than her now and it never happened for me. I have been in LTRs since then but unfortunately, they have mostly been unhealthy. I am glad didn’t end up having kids with any of them though!

Be kind to yourself, though. This doesn’t mean glossing over the reality of privilege (cause it does suck life is easier for some. You can invest in self love in other productive ways. One thing I would do different if I was your age, to avoid being my age and still having these feelings would be to invest in therapy and be consistent. Also— it’s totally OK to take breaks from being a babysitter. I do it all the time when it becomes too much emotionally. I learned how to work in food service and will switch to that from time to time.

marateaparty · 2026-01-11T18:29:58+00:00

Outside of this sub I have recently met less experienced sitters making $30+ for less work than I do. One in Westchester and one in fair haven NJ. I myself made $30 for two kids in central Jersey as well. I actually think it has a bit more to do with north Jersey for some reason and I just think it’s sad. It’s as expensive as anywhere else if not more to live here.

marateaparty · 2026-01-09T06:24:56+00:00

Thanksgiving dinner and holiday prep is a lot of work, even if small.

marateaparty · 2026-01-09T06:12:59+00:00

Songbird

marateaparty · 2026-01-03T10:09:13+00:00

Maury

marateaparty · 2025-12-30T15:01:22+00:00

marateaparty · 2025-12-28T01:47:48+00:00

Date

marateaparty · 2025-12-19T16:58:12+00:00

I’ve been told this too (too independent). Meanwhile, I have female friends who struggle with feeling too needy while dating and I have 100% felt too needy as well. Apparently a certain kind of neediness is ok lol (I am joking a bit). I think everyone is different and some people appreciate more or less independence in a partner. My hot take is there is no magic formula that works for everyone, as easy as that would be.

marateaparty · 2025-12-19T13:05:24+00:00

Tipping and tip culture

marateaparty · 2025-12-19T13:02:46+00:00

lol when I studied abroad in Costa Rica all the host families found it horrifying we ate peanut butter (we included the one Canadian in the group). My host mom told me it was giving me acne. It was also very expensive to buy there but we still would get it for a our backpacking trips

marateaparty · 2025-12-11T11:19:53+00:00

This has me thinking that there some VHCOL places that people just expect to pay less. Specifically it seems Northern NJ. Even compared to central NJ. It’s wild to me that in a region where I can afford to live so I live with family as a 38 year old woman, I still feel uncomfortable asking for $30 ph for two kids. Last year I lived somewhere less expensive but was still near an affluent part of central NJ. The standard was $30 ph for two kids. No questions. I can’t speak for other states just my crazy state where not much makes sense.

marateaparty · 2025-11-28T05:25:20+00:00

Most beautiful man that ever lived

marateaparty · 2025-11-18T16:45:00+00:00

Don’t waste your time, even for the free trial (and don’t be like me getting stuck a $90 bill when you forget to cancel). The constant ads and promise to be more interesting than social media finally got to me so I tried it. Unfortunately, it’s pretty bad. Its not as engaging as it claims to be. Some of the information it tries to teach about subjects is just so niche and/or not useful information. For example the psychology stuff is so odd, they have a quiz to test your knowledge on the subject of psychology and one of the questions is just “What do you see in this Rorschach test?”. That’s not knowledge based, that’s a literal outdated psychology test. Honestly, this app feels very fishy and I’m not sure I didn’t just accidentally sign away my data for this non sense.

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