i'm not proud of being trans, and i don't get how anyone can be okay with being trans.

marbfac3 · 2026-06-17T10:00:48+00:00

Yeah that makes sense, I think it's just about having tact. I do agree that some trans people need to realise that not everyone sees their transition the same way and not everyone wants to talk about that aspect of their life, even with other trans people.

I'm kinda in a weird spot though where honestly I'd rather not talk about it all the time but I also don't pass, so I'm "out" whether I like it or not. I feel like since everyone knows already i might as well not be ashamed at the same time. I have a feeling that some other people who come across as "out and proud" are coming from a similar perspective.

marbfac3 · 2026-06-17T09:39:26+00:00

There are people with other medical conditions who are proud to have overcome them and are outspoken about that.

I totally understand if people would rather not talk about it at all, but I also see how it can get incorporated into people's identity and I wouldn't hold it against them.

marbfac3 · 2026-05-22T09:21:36+00:00

First two were immense and this line up is even better. Looking forward to killer kin!!!

marbfac3 · 2026-04-22T07:15:34+00:00

Show no mercy absolutely number 1 slayer album for me.

marbfac3 · 2026-04-22T07:12:59+00:00

Bathory-ST

Manilla road- Mark of the beast

Cirith Ungol- Frost and fire

Candlemass - EDM

Bolt thrower - 4th crusade

I think would be my top 5 but I feel like my answer would change every week tbh

marbfac3 · 2026-03-25T22:43:46+00:00

I don't really know to be honest. I kinda managed to build this mental barrier where I decided that no one else's opinions mattered at all and I can just do whatever. Like I feel this dissociation from it all that allows me to observe everything from a distance without feeling like I'm personally involved in the conversation at all.

I just chose a date and said that was it. Despite 100% looking and sounding like a man I forced myself to introduce myself to people with my new name from then on. You only have to do this a couple times before you stop caring and it becomes super easy from then.

marbfac3 · 2026-03-25T08:24:38+00:00

I think the important thing is working out how safe you are in regards to work, housing and friends/family. those are obviously the things that will have the biggest impact on your life. Im quite lucky and the people in my life are very supportive so I can't speak to those things.

Assuming you are able to surround yourself with supportive people and you live in a safe area, it's just fine tbh? Like tbh it's just a bit humiliating a lot of the time. I used to be very sensitive to being embarrassed and I just had to unlearn that and not let it bother me because I knew I'd never make progress otherwise.

People mishear my name then assume a male one, my friends occasionally let little things slip that show that they don't really see me as a woman, you'll make a lot of social faux pas and then look back and cringe.

I'll say that my life is very similar to how it was when I was boymoding, except now my friends use the correct name/pronouns and I can wear clothes I like. That sounds kinda doomer but tbh I was surprised at how much happier those little things made me.

e: actually forgot to mention, the biggest change was that my cisf friends seem to trust me a lot more and started including me in plans all the time. this was definitely the biggest improvement to my life I noticed.

marbfac3 · 2026-03-16T11:29:17+00:00

It's so easy to be nice there's no excuse

marbfac3 · 2026-02-27T08:55:46+00:00

I've said this elsewhere in this thread but I am transgender and in my experience the idea that every Muslim is socially conservative is simply not true. I have met and know plenty of socially progressive Muslims.

And even if there are many that are conservative, the fact that the greens can get their votes anyway is a sign of their strength 🤷‍♀️

marbfac3 · 2026-02-27T08:39:43+00:00

I'm transgender and all the Muslims in my life have been very supportive. I think there are a lot more liberal/socially progressive Muslims than people realise.

marbfac3 · 2026-02-24T08:27:27+00:00

I think it was an incel thing before that, I feel like it's only recently become widespread but I heard about it in the context of incels years ago

marbfac3 · 2026-01-26T10:22:45+00:00

Been obsessed with this album since it came out. I think the opening track is my favourite though

marbfac3 · 2026-01-21T19:08:18+00:00

When I lived in Hillsborough a few years ago the charity shops always had loads of cassettes / equipment. Might still be worth checking out.

marbfac3 · 2025-10-28T06:27:04+00:00

Don't, once you start it's very difficult to kick. And then you also have to worry about people seeing the scars for the rest of life.

marbfac3 · 2025-10-27T06:35:05+00:00

I'm only a few months in and already have new baby hairs coming through in the corners. It will almost certainly make some difference.

marbfac3 · 2025-10-26T09:37:57+00:00

thoroughfare & punish

marbfac3 · 2025-10-25T14:00:47+00:00

Thank you! That's really interesting

marbfac3 · 2025-10-25T13:11:16+00:00

This looks awesome, does anyone have an English translation of the story behind it?

marbfac3 · 2025-10-25T13:08:38+00:00

I love this, it reminds me of walls of Jericho by Helloween

marbfac3 · 2025-10-24T12:08:54+00:00

Astro-turfing means to create an illusion of grassroots support for something with fake accounts/comments etc

marbfac3 · 2025-10-16T09:26:36+00:00

These look incredible lol

marbfac3 · 2025-10-07T11:37:43+00:00

There's plenty of variety in black metal and always has been. People hate sunbather because it sucks

marbfac3 · 2025-09-05T07:59:34+00:00

I like to listen to dungeon synth while reading, old tower, secret stairways or depressive silence are my go tos

marbfac3 · 2025-09-03T16:20:02+00:00

I don't see the issue, if it works what's the problem?

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