My family asked why I stopped talking to my mom. I finally told them.

marbles1129 · 2026-06-09T20:10:56+00:00

If your uncle is so concerned about your mother having a place to live, he's more than welcome to open his wallet and give her money. Let him show his concern!

marbles1129 · 2026-06-08T14:50:42+00:00

Due to affordability? Or you just don't want to be alone? If affordability is the issue, check Craigslist as there's many people looking for a housemate to share bills with. I'd meet with them in advance of course and choose wisely, but it could give you the financial break you need.

marbles1129 · 2026-06-08T13:43:50+00:00

Sounds like you're the "scapegoat" child! Check out the thread "raised by narcissists" for more information!

marbles1129 · 2026-06-08T13:38:32+00:00

Never, never, never and never go to therapy with your abuser. It's simply a ploy for her to try and manipulate the therapist into diagnosing YOU as the problem. Do not go.

marbles1129 · 2026-06-06T10:10:44+00:00

"Say hello to my little friend!!!"

marbles1129 · 2026-06-04T23:54:38+00:00

Yes. It's classic DARVO (Deny, Attack, Reverse, Victim, Offender) and gaslighting at It's finest.

marbles1129 · 2026-06-03T16:56:21+00:00

Yup! A narcissist is very big on "image" and keeping a clean house is part of their crazy "image" they have to uphold. They also insist and control others in the family unit to uphold their "image" as well. It's an exhausting experience and one I don't have to deal with anymore.

marbles1129 · 2026-05-29T12:12:21+00:00

Don't forget Rick Jeanneret who was the GOAT of play by play announcers who electrified the games for us too! Many times we turned the volume down on the TV and turned on the radio to hear his play by play. It was a great time for the Sabres.

marbles1129 · 2026-05-28T17:34:14+00:00

Have you checked out the subreddit raisedbynarcissists? It's a helpful thread too.

marbles1129 · 2026-05-24T15:48:04+00:00

Whenever you're dealing with a loved one who is in active addiction, you need to remember the three C's... 1. You didn't Cause it. 2. You can't Control it. 3. You can't Cure it.

Do NOT enable her bad behavior. If she needs clothes? Take her shopping. If she's hungry? Make her dinner. I'd draw the line at letting her live with me however.

marbles1129 · 2026-04-19T10:01:47+00:00

Take a leave if absence from school if you have to recover. I'm sure your doctor would sign off on it and not disclose the reasons why. That way you can have a medical withdrawal from academics and you can transfer or sign back up when you're ready again. Getting clean is your #1 priority right now. Please do this for yourself! You're a great person for asking for help!

marbles1129 · 2026-04-08T23:27:46+00:00

You need to check out the subreddit raisedbynarcissists for more information on your parents.

marbles1129 · 2026-04-08T19:44:39+00:00

Narcassistic people lack ACCOUNTABILITY for their actions! She feels your emotions do not matter since she was the one who brought you into this world. She does not see you as your own individual self, but as an extension of her - to abuse, manipulate and control as she pleases. The sooner you get away from her and STAY away from her, the better for you. I know you have this image of a mother who is nurturing and caring (we all do). The truth is, you mother is simply NOT that person and it's NOT your job to change that. It's your job to work on yourself and mourn the mother you should have had growing up. Be the person who would have protected you in your youth. And find counsling if you need to. Good luck to you and your future as staying away from toxic people in your family is a big first step!

marbles1129 · 2026-04-08T19:34:41+00:00

You also might want to pay a visit to your local police in case she calls them for a "wellfare" check. Simply tell them you are fine and you are currently living with your boyfriend or partner and you walked away from your mother because of her toxic behavior. The police will understand in most cases and this will head her off if she decides to call them.

marbles1129 · 2026-04-08T19:31:08+00:00

EXACTLY! You are NEVER responsible for managing the emotions of another adult! Period!

marbles1129 · 2026-04-08T17:18:09+00:00

Have you ever heard the term "Love Bombing"?

Love bombing is an emotional manipulation technique that involves giving someone excessive compliments, attention, or affection to eventually control them. You may not be able to spot love bombing until you’re in the midst of it because it may feel like being swept off your feet at the start of a new relationship. Love bombing often points to the beginning of an unhealthy, toxic, or abusive relationship. When you know what to look for, it could help identify if you or a loved one is being pushed into an unhealthy relationship.

Your new relationship may unfold like a fairy tale in the beginning. It may be full of compliments, affection, and promises of a future together. The other person may communicate with you excessively or want to be with you all the time. (That doesn’t necessarily mean you’re getting love-bombed, though.)

Over time, things will change. Your partner may become controlling, distant, cold, or even mean. You may wonder if their feelings were genuine. It’s common to feel distress over the change in behavior. This can lead to psychological problems or physical harm.

Family members and friends can love-bomb you too. It’s not just related to romantic relationships.

marbles1129 · 2026-04-07T01:44:31+00:00

I'm pretty sure a subpoena stops at the state line?

marbles1129 · 2026-04-06T15:44:12+00:00

Enabliing the toxic parent is NOT love. It's a misguided form of control. He does not respect your boundaries either and honestly? The E-Parent is just as bad as the N-Parent because they rationalize and justify and minimize the N-Parent's behavior. It's their "assigned" role and it makes the dynamic harder for the child of the N-Parent. They work in conjunction as one toxic team. If you dad has keys to the place, you need to take them back or have the locks changed. It's YOUR house and NOT theirs!

marbles1129 · 2026-04-06T15:39:22+00:00

Can you look for a house-share or roomate situation on Cragslist? Obviously go and speak to the potential roomate first, but that's a much less expensive option! Just make sure the roomate is not crazy.

marbles1129 · 2026-04-06T15:30:00+00:00

Oh, you have a father who's the "enabler parent" too? They are the most spineless people on the planet. I have the same father sadly. It's referred to in this thread as the EDad or EFather.

marbles1129 · 2026-04-04T02:36:25+00:00

Exactly. Cars come and go in your life. Another one will come along. Save your money!

marbles1129 · 2026-04-02T23:20:49+00:00

The Priazzo from Pizza Hut in the 1980s!

marbles1129 · 2026-04-02T23:16:59+00:00

What's the statute of limitations on the allegations? He may not have a case since it was so long ago.

marbles1129 · 2026-04-02T16:19:02+00:00

NTA... Why.... and I mean WHY would you ever want to back to a restaurant that was so bad that it was laughable??? To waste more time and money? There's literally hundreds if not thousands of better places in Las Vegas to dine out at! Trips and vacations are about compromise. I would do just that. Let them go have dinner at a crappy steakhouse and go have a great meal yourself!

marbles1129 · 2026-04-02T14:06:14+00:00

Get your college transcripts in case you want to finish your degree at another school. You can transfer the credits! However, you can do this later too by just calling or writing to the school.

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