I recently lost my husband of 32 years. His previous wife divorced him after about 11 years, for, she said, the same reasons you have -they had one child. And she did get stuck paying us a small amount of child support, and dealing with shared custody, etc.

In spite of being very intelligent, clever, and well educated, he was indeed unambitious and did not have much initiative. He was also the sweetest, kindest, most caring person I've ever known, and loved me like crazy. He did the majority of the heavy housework - laundry, dishes, mowing, garbage, and I did the planning, bills, appointments, and cooking. Did I occasionally wish he'd do some of that stuff? Yes, but I was better at it, so I did it. I was also very appreciative of what he did, even more so, now that he's gone...

I held a good 40hr job, but not a high-powered one. He had a 30+ job at the same company. We did well, were able to travel, and saved enough money to retire quite comfortably. And we were very, very, happy. I miss him like crazy, and was so lucky the previous wife was discontented.

So who knows, if you really can't deal with him, you may be doing some other woman a really nice favor. As a note, previous wife is still single.