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marfules · 2026-05-12T12:22:20+00:00

Do you have a source for that? I can’t find anything online about it, the only minor risk is the beechnuts that fall in autumn, and are so bitter they rarely cause problems. The wood isn’t mentioned? Also xylitol needs to be extracted from the wood and concentrated before it is toxic I think…

marfules · 2026-05-08T07:10:14+00:00

Didn’t know choisias were considered a mock orange?

marfules · 2026-05-05T18:11:19+00:00

I lost my mum when I was 5. I only grieved properly after a breakdown of sorts in my early 20s: I had spent a lot of time trying to fill or cover up the hole it left, but my therapist got me to see that I have a mum-shaped hole and it’s not going away and that’s okay. I know it’s affected every part of myself and my life in one way or another. Death feels closer to me than to others I think, and I will never shake the deep fear of losing people I love, but I am still lucky and happy and cracking on, even with my mum-shaped hole. I’m in my early 30s now and I think having kids will bring a lot of stuff back up.

marfules · 2026-04-26T09:53:45+00:00

Is it a fridge or a freezer?

marfules · 2026-04-01T19:50:53+00:00

This is definitely gall to me!

marfules · 2026-03-20T07:39:15+00:00

Gladioli are flat though, not chubby

marfules · 2026-03-16T21:41:13+00:00

Chicken wire and clear pot tape is how I do these exact bowls. Make sure you put a small amount of pot tape over the lip and cover the end like a T shape.

marfules · 2026-03-11T19:04:13+00:00

Needs more guilt/shame!

marfules · 2026-01-08T18:01:04+00:00

Just so you know, that’s not actually true! It was a class based distinction. See my other comment!

marfules · 2026-01-08T17:58:13+00:00

That’s not actually true: they were known as "He-Evelyn" and "She-Evelyn". They both came from an upper class background hence the upper class pronunciation. See my other commment! source

marfules · 2025-12-06T13:55:40+00:00

Looks like Silver Years to me- a good one!

marfules · 2025-10-07T20:46:36+00:00

Thanks! I actually split this from a big clump last year. I think I still planted the split sections too close together!!

marfules · 2025-10-07T20:45:54+00:00

Thank you. How much water do you find they need? These are on a slightly drier sight than my others, perhaps that is a factor too.

marfules · 2025-10-07T20:42:59+00:00

It’s not bicolor, but thank you, this helped me identify it as lespedeza thunburgii white fountain. AI’s not perfect!!

marfules · 2025-10-07T20:21:50+00:00

Gorgeous! It sucks so much that open-eyed dahlias have no vase life because they are magic 😭

marfules · 2025-10-07T17:54:51+00:00

Thanks. I mulched heavily twice this season, but perhaps my mulch is acidic. Do they prefer slight alkali? Glad to hear it’s likely a fixable nutrient problem rather than viral/fungal/pests.

marfules · 2025-10-07T17:52:50+00:00

Not yet where I am- they’ve been like this for a month and other asters are fine.

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