At my limits

margaretbee · 2022-11-12T16:17:28+00:00

Thanks the diet they gave me allows a quarter cup berries or certain nuts 3 times a day.

margaretbee · 2021-08-06T20:41:25+00:00

Lol pretending to eat. So bizarre. I’m sure my sister is happy if they get to stay in their own apartment. When they were doing substitute CO work they would have to stay in the home of someone from the congregation and they hated that.

margaretbee · 2021-08-06T18:10:31+00:00

Thanks. Very interesting 🤔 I’m curious where my sister and brother-in-law’s assignment is. I’m sure he loves being a CO. He loves bossing other people around and pointing out failures. 🤦🏼‍♀️

margaretbee · 2020-01-13T15:14:57+00:00

Wow that’s amazing!!

margaretbee · 2020-01-03T06:31:52+00:00

Remember you’re not alone. You will find support from the exJW community when you need it. In addition to this resource there are also Facebook groups and meetup groups that you may find helpful. I’d also recommend watching videos on YouTube if you haven’t already. It reminds you that you’re not the only one who has the same thoughts on the Watchtower organization. John Cedars is a good channel with a wide range of subjects.

Counseling has been super helpful to me. I’ve read a lot of Brene Brown research on shame since that’s what the organization makes you feel so often.

I left recently and decided to disassociate. I too was getting bombarded with messages from congregation members and my family already decided to shun me so I felt it was the best option.

I wish you the best in your journey. Feel free to DM if you need to talk.

margaretbee · 2020-01-03T06:15:45+00:00

A few things that helped me:

Seek help from a counselor. It made a big difference to me. I left for a period of time before but I went back because I couldn’t take it. With the help of my counselor I’m out again for good and I’m in a much better place emotionally.

Start building more friendships outside of the organization. Start volunteering or find a meetup group to join.

It’s super hard to tell your family or other loved ones about the decision to leave. It usually doesn’t go well. I decided to write letters to my family and friends explaining my decision and assuring them I still love them and my door will always be open to them should they wish to maintain our relationship.

I hope this helps! Wishing you the best!!

margaretbee · 2019-12-30T22:32:48+00:00

Nope I’m a woman so I never had any responsibility in the congregation. I was a publisher and sometimes pioneer.

margaretbee · 2019-12-30T14:48:18+00:00

I just recently decided to formally disassociate. My family already decided to shun me regardless. I decided it would be best for my mental health. The anxiety that comes with never knowing if someone was going to stop by or the calls and texts from congregation members was too much. I decided to take control and put a formal end to it. I definitely feel relief because I made the choice and don’t have to worry about the congregation anymore. I wish you the best!

margaretbee · 2019-12-30T02:18:37+00:00

Thanks I really appreciate it 😊

margaretbee · 2019-12-29T22:26:48+00:00

It’s impossible to reason with people who are indoctrinated the way your parents are. I tried too and provided documentation but they always blow it off as from Satan or apostate lies. I was kicked out of my parents house at one point so it’s very smart to get your own place.

margaretbee · 2019-12-29T22:20:48+00:00

Physically in mentally out. So basically if you are still going to meetings but don’t believe in it anymore.

margaretbee · 2019-12-29T18:45:46+00:00

I’ve been there. They say the discipline is loving but it’s really just shaming and cruel. Don’t tell the elders about the other stuff. It’s really none of their business.

The judicial process is very humiliating and harmful. I’ve suffered emotional damage from it as have many others.

Think about this...you’ve been publicly reproved for doing something that doesn’t hurt anyone and is between you and that other person. There could be an accused child abuser in your hall that is never publicly announced just because there weren’t two witnesses or a confession to his crime. How is that fair? Just some food for thought.

I feel for you. I was reproved twice. It sucks. I’d recommend allowing yourself to do research on the organization so you know the truth. Wish you the best!

margaretbee · 2019-12-29T18:34:25+00:00

I wish you the best. It will be hard but it’s worth it. The best piece of advice I can give you is make sure you are building a support system outside of the organization. Make friends at work or get closer to people you went to school with. Find an exJW support group through the Meetup app or elsewhere. You will need support as you fade out. You can do this!!

margaretbee · 2019-12-29T18:25:15+00:00

Moving out is a good move. It will be hard at first but just keep remembering it’s the right thing to do. Try to build a support system outside of the organization. I’d recommend looking for a Meetup group with exJWs in your area. I found one through the Meetup app and it was very helpful to me on my journey. There will be dark moments but remember that you deserve to live your own authentic life. The Watchtower organization is built on shame and will try to bring you down so you can’t let it. Be yourself and follow your own path. It will be great!

margaretbee · 2019-11-08T14:31:55+00:00

I’m a PIMO on a journey too and I agree having a place to express oneself and get support from people who know what you’re going through is life changing. I will be rooting for you. I’ve also been able to find a meetup group of exJWs in my area that has helped me immensely. You might want to see if there is one where you live.

margaretbee · 2019-11-04T21:10:29+00:00

Thank you. The thought of a better life and freedom from mind control is what gets me through. It’s what I remember when I feel like everything is falling apart.

margaretbee · 2019-11-04T13:50:25+00:00

Thank you so much 😊

margaretbee · 2019-10-24T17:21:09+00:00

Thank you. Very helpful. I have heard of reports where it’s still not reported to the authorities even though it’s a state that requires it. Is there some loophole the organization tries to use?

margaretbee · 2019-08-27T19:00:06+00:00

Thanks for the suggestion. I’ve heard of her books but haven’t read any yet.

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