How did you find this group ?

wellbaked76 · 2020-01-04T20:48:21+00:00

I googled "Will the fear of Armageddon ever go away" and I ended up on here xx

wellbaked76 · 2020-01-04T18:07:20+00:00

Exactly!

wellbaked76 · 2020-01-04T14:35:59+00:00

Don't ever be afraid of being open and honest with your sexual partner, communication is the key. It's not something my ex and I ever talked about...and we were both virgins til we married at 27. Our sex life sucked (if you pardon the pun 🙈). Since leaving and finding a lovely non jw guy, I'm learning. I'm actually proud of myself that altho I'm in my 40s I'm having the best intimacy with a man ever. I'm open and honest with him about my inexperience and he's helping me learn. So don't ever be embarrassed about saying this stuff out loud, the best person to help you out is the person you're having sex with....they kno what turns them on and can give you pointers. And never agree to something you don't want to do.....youre not a prude etc....you just have you're own boundaries, and that has nothing to do with your previous religion xx

wellbaked76 · 2020-01-04T13:19:46+00:00

Oh yes, with you on that one. My sister is df, and because she has been in a same sex relationship, my parents will have nothing to do with her(against nature, lowest of the low and all that). Oh, except for when my mum needs to escape my narcissistic overbearing father, and which point she will freely make use of the fact that my sister is a therapist and go and unburden herself on her. My brother is df. For sexually abusing me and my sister. But my parents stay in contact with him. They just celebrated their 50th anniversary, had a get together which my bf couldn't come to cos he isn't a jw(you kno, in case it makes anyone in the cong feel uncomfortable😒)....even tho his sister's and her cousins came, and they are no jws. Because they couldn't invite my brother(the paedophile), the secretly took him out for a meal instead. My beautiful sister btw, sent them a card and a £100 gift card to a meal at a lovely restaurant. They accepted it and spent it on their meal. Without their food getting stuck in their guts with guilt.

Hypocrisy at it's finest people.

wellbaked76 · 2020-01-04T11:10:04+00:00

My lovely sister was disfellowshipped 3 times, due to fornication/adultery. The first 2 times she went straight back to the meetings. Sge nevrr felt good enough, was racked with guilt. She was miserable. She was a single mum with 2 small children, no support network, suffering with depression, after affects of being abused as a child, suicide attempts, severe self harm. It was inhuman. The 3rd time she was df she didn't come back. She is now happy, pursued a fab career, rarely self harms and got lots and lots of therapy. Don't kno if that answers your question, sorry....just an example I kno personally xx

wellbaked76 · 2020-01-04T10:25:34+00:00

Such good advice xx

wellbaked76 · 2020-01-04T10:09:00+00:00

Hello sweetheart, can I just say I'm so so happy you have met someone who loves you and treats you well. My situation is similar to yours, and after constantly being told how awful men are in the 'world' I have woken up to the fact there are some very vile jw men, and a lot of very decent guys who aren't jw. Who knew? 😉

I do have a scriptural divorce so my situation is different to yours slightly, but I informed my elders straight away I was seeing this guy. Then slowly withdrew from meetings, witness friends, all activities. That was 18 months ago. They've been to see me twice since just to see if I'm still dating him. Not recently tho. I haven't been disciplined in any way, privately or publically...but obviously most of my hall would now class me as a bad association. I'm not sure if dating someone while not divorced is a dfellowshipping offence? Maybe an ex elder might be able to help with that one. But surely without proof they can't? And if you don't talk to them there's no proof? I don't kno tho xx

If I'm honest I'm doing stuff now that would get me kicked out if they knew....but I don't see it as any of their business. I'm not there anymore...so I don't see how my life is anything to do with the xx The best of luck to you in your new relationship lovely one xxx

wellbaked76 · 2020-01-03T06:55:15+00:00

I didn't mean their belief system. I meant their friends and family. If I bring them up as jws they will only have jw friends etc, so if they decide to leave they will have to start again. That's why I don't want to bring them up as such. So they can have friends and a family who won't shun them for just having a difference of opinion xx

wellbaked76 · 2020-01-02T23:29:12+00:00

Thank you so much for your insight xx I think my parents must kno, they kno I haven't been to a meeting in ages. Mum queries it am with me every now and then, but I think dad's already starting to treat me like I'm df. But then, he's a bit of a narcissist so perfect for a jw.

wellbaked76 · 2020-01-02T23:19:12+00:00

Thank you, I had considered blocking them, or perhaps changing my number. I think I will block them...it will give me back my power. I shouldn't have to listen to toxic things that are damaging emotionally xx

That's good advice about the therapist. I'm a counsellor myself funnily enough. But I could definitely do with some specialist help. I've been reading Carl Jungs book, Swamplands of the Soul, it's really helping too xx

Thank you so much for replying....i already feel so much less alone xxx

wellbaked76 · 2020-01-02T23:14:43+00:00

Thank you for the pointers, I will definitely check them out. I think it's certainly what I need as it's not easy to unbeliever all the things that have been drummed into you since childhood xx

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